随便说说
朋友，有空来聊聊呗
前两天在最近一期的Times上看到一篇文章《ON MUTE》—— Overtalkers are everywhere - but saying less will get you more BY Dan Lyons
小标题：The World Is Filled With Overtalkers. You Run Into Them All the Time.
同志们啊，千真万确啊，尤其在工作中和网络上的Talkaholics （刷屏者或话痨）真的是无处不在，令人无处可躲。有意思的是有生物学和医学专家已经对Talkaholics产生原因做了20多年的研究，而且已经推出了Talkaholic Scale供患者测试。文章的作者曾经是个Talkaholic，并因此丢工作，老婆孩子都离他远远的。他这样形容他和Talkaholics: Talkaholics cannot just wake up one day and choose to talk less. Their talking is compulsive. They don't talk just a little bit more than everyone else, but a lot more, and they do this all the time, even when they know that other people think they talk too much. And here is the gut punch: talkaholics continue to talk even when they know that what they are about to say is going to hurt them. They simply cannot stop.
他为此找到了Michael Beatty教授。看看生物学和医学上的解释：
“It's biology, ” Beatty told me when we got on the phone. "It's all nature, not nurture. It starts to develop prenatally." Twenty years ago, he pioneered a field called communibilology, which studies communication as a biological phenomenon. He collaborated with neuroscientists, giving study participants EEGs to measure their brain waves and sticking them into fMRI machines to watch their brains light up when they looked at pictures or listened to audio recordings.
A lot of communication researchers thought he was going down a blind alley, but Beatty was sure he was right. “To me, it would be weird if the way we communicate was not related to the brain,” he said. “We just didn’t know how.”
看见了吗？天生的！重点来了：
In 2010, Beatty and his colleagues discovered that talkativeness is linked to brain-wave imbalances. Specifically, it’s about the balance between neuron activity in the left and right lobes in the anterior region of the prefrontal cortex. Ideally, the left and right lobe should have about the same amount of neuronal activity when a person is at rest. If there’s an asymmetry—if your left side is more active than the right—you’re likely to be shy. If the right side is more active, you’re likely to be talkative. The greater the imbalance, the further out on the talkativeness spectrum you will tend to be. A talkaholic’s right lobe will fire a ton while the left side barely flickers.
可惜的是教授说这是不可逆转的。那咋办呢？作者自己总结了一套方法，这个方法电子版上没有，我照张照片您瞧瞧，或许对您有用。How to stop overtalking:
1. When possible, say nothing
2. Master the power of the pause
3. Quit Social Media
4. Seek out silence
5. Learn how to listen
有兴趣的可看Times上的全文或者找作者的书来看：
https://time.com/6248092/talking-less-will-get-you-more/
这篇文章是作者书中的节选，全书的名字是：The Power of Keeping Your Mouth Shut in an Endlessly Noisy World.
