We have had a great life. (图)

今天看的一个病人，86岁的老太太，保养得非常好，思路敏捷，风趣幽默，穿着传统的红色圣诞假日毛衣，还别了一个特别的圣诞铃铛的胸针，为她做体检的时候，铃铛丁丁地响，很有意思。她19岁结婚，他们的结婚纪念日就在最近。老太太说起当年的求婚故事，还是细节栩栩如生。 她的先生，那时候的男朋友，带她去挑圣诞树，说是放在他的房间里，她挑了以后，发现那棵树上有一枚戒指，她先生说，marry me, I don't want to go home and spend this Christmas without you. 我听得出了神，手里的听诊器也忘记了。老太太笑眯眯地说，we have had a great life.

有多少人可以在86岁的时候，这样甜蜜地说，We have had a great life.

[落花飘零]

zzhhjj，很抱歉一灿的故事，不知道一灿在什么城市接受治疗，现在国内比如上海和北京大医院对于血液病的治疗标准和美国是相似的，骨髓移植是唯一的办法，化疗的药物都是具有毒副作用的，而不管是化疗还是骨髓移植，因为都要压制本身骨髓的生长，所以感染是常见的治疗副反应，一般都要应用抗生素，或者在层流室。不知道一灿是否在近期可以获得配型的骨髓，这是唯一有希望的途径。

dalaoshu，千万不要为了父母的经历给自己留下负面的影响，大多数的婚姻都会有这样那样的摩擦，不要一碰到问题就联想是不是自己承袭了父母的缺点，这样有害无益。每对夫妻都问题都是不同的，这跟你父母是完全没关系的，振作起来解决问题，才是关键。
good luck and best wishes.

大皇，好久不见，冰天雪地里还能上网，感觉怎么样啊，呵呵。

gooutforfreshair,谢谢你分享你感人的故事，你的先生很幸运拥有你这样的妻子。希望你们能够尽快渡过难关。
其实呢，有时候对于一些日子不要搞得太紧张了，特别是两个人都在压力很大的时候，一顿晚餐，一张卡片，一起在沙发上看张碟片就可以了，重要的是让对方放松愉快，不要因为庆祝而庆祝，不要非得把标准设定得浪漫无暇。不知道是不是我多嘴了，呵呵。
祝你和你丈夫永远幸福。

[gooutforfreshair]

I made a excel file called " our days" to remember each important days in our life since we have been together.We are going through the hardest part these days and we both are very tired. Days ago, it was my husband's birthday. I bought two small pieces of square cakes (to spend less money) and forgot we didn't have match to light up the candle after his late back from work. And I forgot to take pictures for him and the cake as usual.It was a worst "improtant day" we had so far. I decided to buy another big cake and make things beautiful to re-spend this birthday. But it was aborted due to reasons. Yesterday, I decribed that day in detail in that file. At the end, I wrote that I believe it would be the worst DAY in our future. Our DAYS will not be worse than that. Then I sent this document to my husband--I never showed him this file before. His eyes was red and he asked me, do you really think that day was that bad? I said, yes. But that would be the worst we have. Our days only could be better. We should be happy for that. When we are as old as your grandma, we could read this file together again and smile at each other. (ps, his grandma is over 90 now).

[黄大皇]

Why I always forgot the "u"? 郁闷

[黄大皇]

There is always something beatiful in life. Music, movie, people, relationship... But for this 86 year old lady, the lift itself is beatiful!

[Dalaoshu]

I don't know what to say about YiCan.
There is always some hard time for everyone. Wish everyone happy and healthy , especially in this holiday season.
Hope he can get the help and get well.
Please refer to the following story:
http://www.ruanyifeng.com/blog/2006/11/the_story_of_yang_dan.html
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1. 张仁杰的网站：感恩中国

[Dalaoshu]

At last your new post is here! I've been waiting for a week :)

I am so jealous of you and your parents.
My parents are like those of Rachel's in "Friends". They have been fighting since I was young. I expected them to get on better when they grew old. But, to my disappointment, the older they are, the worse.
Now I guess they speak to each other no more than 3 times a week, anyone can imagine that?

I feel more despair when I had some problem in my marriage. I would think, have I inherited those personality disorder from them?

Life is never easy. I am so happy that you can share your stories here. I hope I can also bring smile and happiness to others.

[zzhhjj]

"一灿是一名六岁的男孩，两年前，一灿被诊断得了急性淋巴细胞白血病，从此，伴随小一灿的是无休无止的化疗.就在前几天，一灿在接受骨髓穿刺的时候，髓象显示一灿病情复发，这意味着以前的治疗前功尽弃，更为可怕的是，孩子有了抗药性，化疗比以前更有难度，需要打一种5000多元一针的进口药，才能保住孩子的生命。而且由于毒副作用很大，孩子会遭遇感染，最好的根治的办法，就是骨髓移植."
I know america has more mature technology to treat lukemia(?), and you are a doctor, if you can help from your medical point of view, it would be greaat.

This site has all the information, and yican's mom also shows there. Thanss a lot.

http://www.szgy.org.cn/bbs/read.php?tid=6755

[落花飘零]

on move 好，

我的父母应该也有权利这样说吧，呵呵。

很多中国夫妻能够活到86岁，而且相濡以沫，但是能够说这样的话，能够把生活过得这样enjoyable，还是不多的。我们注重的是勤劳朴实，忍辱负重，就像你说的，不会说一些“煽情”的话。

[onMove]

不多但也不会太少, 我自己的父母就有权利这样说. 不过咱中国人多不用这么"扇情"的句子.

We have had a great life不意味他们没打过甚至有更困难的阶段, 但他们过来了. 要能到这个年纪,每对夫妇都有权利说这句话.