一纸问卷 (上) -《在你的心目中, 什么是世界上无价之宝?》 (图)

一纸问卷 (上)  -《在你的心目中, 什么是世界上无价之宝?》

序言 (Prologue)  by 纵然平行 

First things first, with my heartfelt sincereness, I’d like to take this opportunity to thank all of contributors, ( 陈默,DUMARTINI, 苏乡门地,九月,夢海星, 南山松,一霖, 盈袖2006, 馨茗,玄米,虚席以待,Blue.Crab, 清风明月, 飘尘永魂, sharptooth, 5speed, 逸宽,笑林) who have participated this small scaled survey  with their enthusiasm and honesty.  Guys, please pat yourself on the back, you have done great jobs to plough through your thoughts and appraise your assessments. I am sure that your time and efforts will be highly appreciated by your fellow net friends. 

Last year at the end of our net CNY party, I posted a simple question to each and every net friends, similar to this:  “In your mind, what would be the most invaluable thing in the world ? (《在你的心目中, 什么是世界上无价之宝?》). The aim of this survey is to take a snap shot at a specified moment to see how and why our peers engage their lives with their full purposes.  Hopefully their responses  may serve as the baselines for our enlightenment and references. In my mind,   the question and answers were like sliced ourselves contained and sealed in a glass bottles flowing over the river of time, and the recipients would be all of us.   

To be honest,  in the beginning, I was a bit skeptical if people would be willing to share their entrusted spheres with strangers. As you can see, my cynicism has been proven to be erroneous. It’s so transparent and evident to me, I hope to you as well, that highest priorities  in respondents' minds  at this particular frame of time have not only highlight the mosaics of emphasis but also reveal a glimpse of  the past, present and  even future of contributors' lives.  Furthermore, through their answers combined with insightful reasons and rationalized logic, respondents are able to share with us their wisdom, realization, longing, judgment and interests in a wide of spectrum.

Granted in the theory, all people are all created equal, yet in a fastidious lens. people’s lives are nothing but equal. In fact, by nature or by nurture, our purposes and needs of our lives are so vast different. In addition, age, gender, occupation, time and other attributes seam playing important roles too.

Due to numbers and lengths of the responses received, I decided  to separate them into two groups according to their genders so that ,I think, it would be facilitated in a better sense  in terms of comparison and contrast in the own peer group. As a result, my own species, I appeal to your code of chivalry, letting ladies go first as the first installment, males’ one will soon follow.

Please note that the sequences of order of responses  are arranged in alphabetic order to avoid any favornism and biases (If one of more contributors share the same topic, all the answers are clustered in one section,  in alphabetic order as well.) Moreover, please send me a qqh to state your intend to be excluded， within three days， just in case  this piece of post would be zted  （转贴） by  any net friends.

I’d also like to give my special thanks to two lady friends of mine - 苏乡门地 和九月 for their caring, diligent, kind and supportive spirits that made this special occasion to be possible.   

Now, without further ado, let’s get the answers,  祝大家元宵节快乐!

 

答案： 爱情

撰写人: 陈默

理由

收到题目那天，我微有小恙。也许源于阴冷的天气，也许是些微的PMS......想念精神气爽、活射的日子，哪怕那些日子其实很平凡，甚至是平凡得让人心生倦怠......那一刻，我觉得最有价值的是健康。

第 二天，我正准备写下答案，想到是年初五，遂关了电脑拿起电话。我叮咛远在大学的儿子不要忘了和女友一起吃破五的饺子；我又拨通故乡的家，听着父母亲人你一言我一语闲话家常。告别时，我妈妈说：“代我拉拉小米（我的狗狗）的小手，姥姥问她好啊”！放下电话，我兀自微笑着。那一刻，我坚信：“血浓于水，亲情为天”，在我这里，永生永世不会改变。

今天，在冗长的例会时，我又想起自己该如何作答。低头看着黑西服手腕处露出的衬衣，突然发现淡灰底色上的明黄条纹，如织锦一般亮丽突出，而不是简单的印花－ 难怪价钱不菲。想到自己十几年如一日衣冠楚楚，其实也暗含了对工作的热爱吧。尽管，那一刻，我在会议上走神了，但心里，向来是看重的。

此时，安静地坐着，背景里若有若无飘着James Blunt的歌，我想到即将到来的情人节。闪回往日里那一个个的情人节片段：北京漫天风沙的街头；纽约烛光摇曳的餐厅；不合时宜的分离讯息；应时应景的远方来电；南方明艳的阳光；北国殷殷的心意......还有更久远时，那些不过情人节，只过七夕的日子......此刻，心里唯有爱情......当今，柴米油盐丰衣足食很容易handle，其实真没有多少执手抵足、互相取暖的必要。唯有爱情，温暖我心。可遇，而不可求。   

 

答案：时间

撰写人: DUMARTINI

理由

对于我来说，可能是时间。我希望它走得慢一些。。。

感觉时间太不够用了，总是觉得有许多没来得及做的事情，所以怀着十分歉疚的心情，我才认为世界上时间这看不见不着的东西，真是价值连城啊无法估算的。

 

答案：时间

撰写人:苏乡门地

理由

 

世间最珍贵无价之物，每个人在不同的人生阶段，不同心境与环境下，给出的答案必然不同。

假如只能选择一样，我选择Time。 它既含有广义上的时光，也能具体到某一瞬间，某几分钟，某一日，某段年月。 我们短暂的一生，说到底，是由瞬间，分秒和岁月的时光碎片串连而起。 因此，无论多特别的时光，一旦流逝，任凭你如何回味，追忆，也注定无法再拥有。 

 成为“母亲”是我人生至今最珍贵的一刻。 在护士将粉红带紫，才六磅的“劳动果实”交给仍虚脱中的我，一时间的惊诧，新奇，疑惑，失落，成就，都汇集在那张小脸上，感慨于那血脉相承，父子相像的奇迹，之前没有过，之后也不会再有。 为了等待多时的这刻，余生我都将感激他。 若在十年前，我大概会选择“给于生命”为答案 :)

 两年前，朋友的那场“意外“，让我再次领悟到时间的无价。 至今还常想，倘若那天傍晚，急救人员早四五分钟到达事发现场，朋友便不会撒手人寰。 他在ICU里度过自己的最后一程，靠机器呼吸，生命迹象只剩屏幕上的心跳，血压显示。 一天，几天，几周，多少等候，期待，咨询，会诊，终没能盼来转机。 经历了那样段日子，我更加坚信：世上没有任何比时间再贵重的物品。 对自己在意人，一定要设法多给他/她点时间。 珍惜，感激那些给过我们时间的人

 

 

答案：Integrity (诚信)

撰写人:九月独处

理由

If I could choose more than one answer, I would top list these three:  “health, Integrity and Family", because they are equally important to me. However, if I could only select one of them, I should say, it is"integrity".

Why? 

First,"Health" is not just one's physical condition. Health consists of physical and mental well-beings of a person. And I always believe that the perpetual mental health is from the happiness from bottom of a person's heart. Without "Integrity", a person cannot truly be psychologically ormentally healthy and happy.

 Second, "Family" isnot only formed by love, it's also formed by responsibilities and the integrity each family member holds. Without "Integrity", a family will disintegrate; love will be gone, sooner or later...

"Integrity" goes onand on, in our life, career, and relationships with others... it makes or breaks a person…

 

答案：To Know OneSELF(认识真我)

撰写人: 夢海星

理由

If one knows oneSELF fully, one will be a fully awakenedsoul, and will behave differently, at a much higher consciousness contributingto PEACE, at personal, social and planetary levels.

"SELF" here means "True Self" (真我) or "Highest self." 真我，是真理、是大爱无疆、是至善至美、大智大勇。 如果人人都认识自己的真我，这个世界就是一个完美的天堂：）

 

答案：生命 

撰写人: 南山松

理由

还是觉得生命可贵，只有一次，失不复得。

                                答案：生命 

撰写人: 一霖

理由

要我说，世上无价的东西很多，（我是不是比较贪哈~~）爱情、亲情、健康都是无价的...如果只能说一样，那我觉得还是生命最无价。 我肯定不会说“生命诚可贵，爱情价更高”的~~

答案：耶稣

撰写人: 盈袖2006

理由

九年来，当认识到人的有限，放下骄傲，尝试顺服时，我多次被圣灵触摸，感受到神的爱，见证了他给我生命带来的不可思议的变化。神改变了我的所思所想，价值观和生活方式。我越来越清楚天父在我生活里一步步耐心带领的过程，他对我的计划，对我的供应，对我的雕琢和预备。他的爱与作为使我慢慢确信他的存在，他是怎样一位神，以及他和我父女的关系，进而敢于对他更多信靠。我对圣灵的声音变得敏感，和神亲近，对他做事的法则也渐渐熟悉。我非常享受这个私人关系。天父开启我的眼，把我带到高处，看到以往不可想象的天地。

我很高兴当时的我愿意放下疑问，打开自己的心，求神带领我来认识他，并且顺服。神很大，大到我们不能测度，但神要的仅仅是一颗愿意的心，其他他会做到，带我们认识不曾见过的领域和可能性；根据我们的智慧，经验和逻辑无法理解的事，他都见证给我们看。而这一切是可以在每一天里感受，经历和证明的！只是我们要顺从神的方法。

我们现今认识的规律是次定律，到了宇宙的范围要服从于主定律，次定律不能解释的在主定律下真实存在。比如：在正数的范围数字相加一定是增大，可在引进负数概念的范围里，数字相加却可以减小。在前者范围里看来不合逻辑，也是不可能的。

我以前有偏见，认为信基督教的都是无法面对现实的软弱人，要在虚幻的信仰里找寄托；认为信仰会束缚人灵性里的自由。现在我经历了，才明白活在上帝里面，人可以多么刚强，依靠神超越很多人类不可企及的事，并享受真正的自由。

我只能说：太奇妙了，从没有想到会这样。见识了神的能力，作为和天地，方才意识到人如此局限。我们的认识经历只是宇宙中小到可以忽略的一个部分，在我们世界里不合逻辑的事在更大的空间是完全真实的。你想了解，只要求神带领，他就会证明给你看。

我了解人性，所以理解世上的事情，也很清楚一些事只要是人，就无法超越。我很乐观，可以前心里难免有莫名的空虚和无奈。归回到创造我们的神里面后，我看到了借神的爱和力量超越现实的可能性，和永恒的盼望。

以前我认为荣誉，爱情和财富可以给我带来满足，幸福和安全感，但事实是一切都可以瞬间随风逝去。世事变迁，我们实在无法掌控，况且真正拥有这些东西时我并没有想象中的幸福。经历神之后我认同那句话： 人的心里有一个黑洞，只有上帝可以填满。因为是神创造我们，没有回到被造时所设定的轨道前，人永远也无法满足和幸福。

我是个情绪很多，很重的人，从来不可想象心静如水的恒定。而在神里面我居然天天喜乐平安满足，受外界影响越来越少。很多世俗的烦恼都可以凭借神的力量超越，而自己里面也渐渐生成一些神国的品格，变得更安静，忍耐，宽容，对别人有更多的爱。

我目前不是自己最有钱，最成功的时候，甚至缺乏的，但这是我第一次真正感到踏实，幸福，充满希望。

注：因为这个契机，我开始写自己这些年来关于神的经历，有点长，还没有完成。有兴趣了解神怎么改变我的朋友过几天可以到我的博客去读  http://blog.wenxuecity.com/myindex/8403/ 

谢谢大家。 

 

答案：家人

撰写人: 馨茗

理由

稍微思考了一下。觉得目前我比较在意和看重的还是家人吧。父母的安康和孩子的成长是第一位的，其次就是家庭的和睦。似乎，他们过得都好才是我快乐幸福的支撑。

答案：爱心

撰写人: 玄米

理由

其实我每天都在思考，对我来说可能是头一次思考这个问题。我开始想说真诚，后来一想，这个东西太主观。 我在反思自己，这些年来，可能是个爱心不够的人，所以我想改变吧。感觉拥有一颗爱心的人是很幸福的人，他获得的快乐也是无限大的。

来到这个世界上，每个人都有获得爱的资格或说权利。获得爱的人很容易再去爱别的人。我敬佩那些生活艰难仍然不失爱心的人，爱孩子，爱父母，爱自己身边所有的人，甚至草木。爱心不但让这个世界温暖，也会时时温暖自己。当然我是指那种真诚的爱心。

  

答案：快乐 （Happiness）

撰写人: 虚席以待

理由

Happiness is a state of mind! There are lists of things that are important to me: my own health, my family's wellbeing, knowledge, financial security, and so on.  However, I could have everything there is to have yet feel utterly unhappy at the same time. Therefore, I believe that ability to understand --- "Happiness is a state of mind" is the most invaluable thing in the world. I call it my thirdeye. When I open my third eye, I start to see, to feel content.

结束语 (Epilogue) by 九月

I suspect that I cannot make a statement such as, we, the human beings are the only creative species in the entire Universe.  However, I believe that I can certainly declare that we are the most and only creative creatures of this planet we are standing on.

What makes us creative? There is only one instrument, that is, the individual mind and spirit ofa man/woman. Nothing was ever the same from two beings, not in art, in music,in poetry, in mathematics, in philosophy...

Although this survey may hint that many of us are on the different paths and stages in pursuing various goals, but, unmistakably, if you look close enough; there is one thing we are all share in common, strikingly:  individualism - the very spirit of humanity that has been made this world worth to live.

Here we go, reading each person's "most invaluable thing" in his/her life, we can clearly see that if we combine our insightsand wisdom all together, what a beautiful World, what a miracle Universe it will be. 

The preciousness lies in the lonely mind of a being.

With this said, no matter what is the "most invaluablething in your life", I would say that the free, exploring and creativemind of an individual human is the most invaluable thing in the world.

Thanks ladies, for the diversified minds of yours and mine!

下期预告： males' (男人帮) answers to the survey. 

[夢海星]

感谢纵横君和九月的精诚合作，和苏乡门地的灵感来源。

非常、非常有意义的探讨！!

我的答案：“To Know OneSELF(认识/体验自我）” －请允许我补充说明一下：

"SELF" here means "True Self" (真我) or "Highest self."

真我，是真理、是大爱无疆、是至善至美、大智大勇。

如果人人都认识自己的真我，这个世界就是一个完美的天堂：）

Happy Valentine's Day to you, 纵然君，和所有的朋友们！

[纵然平行]

回复玄米的评论:

谢谢你花时间思考并写出你的答案与大家分享。十分赞同你说的感悟 “感觉拥有一颗爱心的人是很幸福的人，他获得的快乐也是无限大的。”

[玄米]

不好意思交晚了。
其实我每天都在思考，对我来说可能是头一次思考这个问题。我开始想说真诚，后来一想，这个东西太主观。
我在反思自己，这些年来，可能是个爱心不够的人，所以我想改变吧。感觉拥有一颗爱心的人是很幸福的人，他获得的快乐也是无限大的。

[纵然平行]

回复九月独处的评论:

Thank you a lot to work with me shoulder by shoulder to make this happen. Especially, your patience and flexibility that wrapped in the intelligence and sweetness have made this project to be fun and challenging at the same time.

Every party in our live ends sometimes, but the spirit itself won't. Instead, it often extends, revolves and rebirth further on its way.

Once again, appreciate your time and efforts contributed

[纵然平行]

回复苏乡门地的评论:

I think that the first and foremost thinks that everyone should give to is you who hosted the last years' CNY. This survey is just one of derivatives originated from it. :)

Thank you much for sharing your enlightenment with us. In the meantime, please continue cherishing your time on hands with your love ones and friends. As people often say, one is never too rich, too thin, too beautiful and has too much time. :))

[苏乡门地]

纵然，九月，谢谢二位的精湛合作！ 一次意味深远，令人受启发的集体分享活动。

也借此机会再次谢谢诸位好友的回应，思考与宝贵时间！

祝大家节日快乐！

[九月独处]

Just got back home, as promised, came here to check on your product! It's nice, it's awesome :-) :-)

Many thanks for organizing this activity, I know how much effort you have put into it,how much you have brought out of everybody,"forced" us to think,to soul search...well, I guess I've to admit this is a very meaningful Chinese New Year I spent since came to the states! :-) :-)

As you said: "It’s true survey has ended, yet our lives go on. Let’s us fire up all of our cylinders to go after whatever our hearts long for." Cheers, once again, Happy Chinese New Year!