'你眼中的別人，才是真正的你'

<悉達多> 裏有一段話：

「別人眼中的你，不是真的你。 你眼中的自己，也不是真的你。 你眼中的別人，才是真正的你。」

 

The passage you quoted is from *Siddhartha* by Hermann Hesse, a novel originally written in German. The original German text from which this passage is derived is from a section where Siddhartha reflects on the nature of self and perception. 

The exact passage you mentioned doesn’t appear verbatim in standard English translations of *Siddhartha*, but it closely resembles a paraphrased or interpreted version of Hesse’s ideas about the self and others, often found in translations or summaries. The closest equivalent in English translations, such as those by Hilda Rosner or Joachim Neugroschel, might be drawn from passages where Siddhartha contemplates the illusory nature of the self and the interconnectedness of beings. For example, a related sentiment appears in reflections like:

> “What is it that you’ve learned, what you’re able to do?”  
> “I can think, I can wait, I can fast.”  
> ...  
> “You have found something that one cannot find by seeking.”

However, the specific phrasing you provided seems to be a modern, concise interpretation or adaptation, possibly from a Chinese translation or a popularized summary. A direct English translation of Hesse’s original German that aligns with this idea might be:

> “The you that others see is not the true you.  
> The you that you see is not the true you.  
> The others you see are the true you.”

This is not a literal quote from the book but a distillation of its philosophical themes, particularly from sections where Siddhartha realizes the self is an illusion and truth lies in unity with others and the world.

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佛教有个关于明心见性的典故，说苏东坡问佛印，你看我像什么，佛印说施主像一尊佛，但苏东坡却说看佛印大师像一坨屎，佛印禅师笑而不语，东坡沾沾自喜，以为自己胜利了。回家后得意地和苏小妹谈起了这件事。

苏小妹说：“哥哥，你输了啊！禅师的心态像佛一样的境界，所以看你像一尊佛；而你的心态像一堆牛屎一样，看禅师当然也就像一堆牛屎了。”苏东坡听后顿时面红耳赤，心中五味杂陈。

佛教有一词，明心见性，心净则国土净，心安则众生安，心平则天下平。你心即你佛，你心中有佛，你就能看到佛；你心中有屎，看到的自然就是屎。我们看到的他人，正是我们自己的心底。

曾听说过一个心理学家的研究，说人们总是容易看到别人的缺点，因为这些缺点其实就是自己心中的某种恐惧或不安全感的体现。

而当我们赞扬别人的时候，其实也是在称赞自己。我们欣赏的，都是自己渴望成为的。

其实每次我们评价别人的时候，不过是在通过一面镜子，看到自己的心灵深处。每个人心中都有一面镜子，你看到的，都是你自己的倒影或投射。