暖冬cool夏
这里一年四季温暖如春，没有酷暑没有严寒......
Quotes:
“In one of the notebooks he carried with him, Nietzsche wrote, "We have art lest we perish from the truth." For those leading afterlives, the unadorned facts of what's happened to them can be brutish to bear on their own terms. Contextualizing that hardship through our intellects and imaginations is a critical salve, an act of transforming our perception that can guide and color how we experience our lives. We can knead our experiences into a larger arc, providing the cohesion that helps us form new narrative identities. Or we can look deeper into our afterlives until we ferret out a way of construing them that rouses our spirits or points them toward salvation. In her essay collection The White Album, Joan Didion delivered a pronouncement that was a natural descendants to Nietzsche's line, an admission of how desperately we rely on the subjective fictions we construct: "We tell ourselves stories in order to live." Those stories--whether they take the form of redemption narratives, personal parables, or the pearlescent beliefs we kneel before each day like shrines offering eternal grace--can elevate our lives and serve as the vessels of private deliverance.”
“Examining our behaviors and thought patterns demands sustained, uninterrupted self-work, and the fullness of our everyday lives and the finite attention spans that rove through them sometimes appear engineered to thwart personal investigations. For many, such an undertaking is undesirable in any case: Those of us content with our lives are not compelled to confront or interrogate our habits, lifestyles, or underlying beliefs. Contentment doesn't incentivize change--it does everything in its power to forestall it. But those of us learning to survive in the ill-disposed, unaccommodating terrain of afterlives--marooned on the desert islands we have little affinity for--must open ourselves up to it.”
“The Lebanese American poet Kahlil Gibran wrote, "The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." The catastrophes that carve themselves deep inside of us also leave us with increased depth, augmenting the volume of feeling we're able to hold. And how can we measure devotion but by how much the vessels that we become for our art, faith, saviors, and crusades have the capacity to contain?”
“In Far from the Tree, Andrew Solomon writes, "It takes an act of will to grow from loss: the disruption provides the opportunity for growth, not the growth itself." Catastrophes do not trigger transformation; they only establish the conditions that increase the likelihood that we will pursue them. Only through our willful, persevering actions can we gradually remake our identities.”
祝暖冬周末快乐！
我也欣赏尼采信仰的另一个哲理： amor fati（爱命运），无条件接受命运的安排。
好巧，我最近在听一首歌，Let it be（顺其自然），也是我的理念：））
赞同暖冬的：“愿我们都能好好活着，尽可能享受生命的宽度、长度和深度，享受健康，和健全身体带给我们的自由。让我们珍惜生命，远离疾病不幸和痛苦！”
很久以前年青的时候，曾喜欢读书，现在静不下心了。
最后一段新说很有共鸣的，希望子女成龙成凤的，有时候发现其实不了解儿女的真正需求。谢谢你的分享！
《世说新语》：赵母嫁女．女临去．敕之曰．慎勿为好。“为好”是个大任，多折磨，赵母希望女儿少受折磨。现代绝大多数父母希望儿女能担当“大任”，大多数是不了解自己的子女，其余大概就是不聪明，当然也有狠人。。。。。
Oncemm聪明啊，你这两句这么提纲挈领地总结，比我啰里啰嗦写这么多不知高出多少呢。你看到书中结尾了吗，爱命运顺服命运，你这么好命根本没有这样的likelihood,不给你机会的：）
谢谢啊，祝新周快乐！
The wondrous game that power plays with Things
is to move in such submission through the world:
groping in roots and growing thick in trunks
and in treetops like a rising from the dead.
对我来说，没有发生在我身上的事情，我永远也不会真正的感同身受，也永远不会确切地知道，怎样做才是对的。所以，我很好奇，那些心灵鸡汤的作者，那些指导人生的作家，是如何写出书的呢？：）靠想像？：）
https://blog.wenxuecity.com/myblog/68411/202203/29161.html
谢谢暖冬亲中英文分享，精彩无比。
You are right that concept of amor fati has been linked to Epictetus, a Greek Stoic philosopher, whom you are very familiar with.
Quoted below is what Nietzsche understood about amor fati in the book:
"My formula for greatness in a human being is amor fati: that one wants nothing to be different, not forward, not backward, not in all eternity. Not merely bear what is necessary, still less conceal it—all idealism is mendacity in the face of what is necessary—but love it.
It is indeed a bit passive. Nevertheless, we'd learn to face adversity in life, if any, and be strong.
Have a great week!
I don't take "What does not kill us" as absolute truth. Beyond a limit, a person dies or something dies within. In both cases, however, one is stronger in a sense because of the expansion of experience. Even the Tao said "人死也坚强."
"Amor fati," like many things western, felt hard to translate. "服从" or "顺从" suggest a slavish passiveness and foot-dragging. Ancient Stoics seemed to believe 'Amor' was much more than that.
Seneca said "Throw me to the wolves, I'll come back leading the pack." More likely, he would be devoured. It's a worthy ideal, nonetheless. Ditto Nietzsche.
小C有意思的视角。在挑战面前，也许有人可以会越战越勇，但也彻底被击败的。暖冬真是一个实实在在，认认真真的读书人，还记得你介绍的Aftershock--the Next Economy & America's Future里面各阶层的人，你真的可以带领大家在城里办“Book Club” 了。：）城里夕阳一归舟的书评也非常耐人寻味。谢谢你们的好书推荐。非常认同你的“愿我们都能好好活着，尽可能享受生命的宽度、长度和深度，享受健康，和健全身体带给我们的自由。让我们珍惜生命，远离疾病不幸和痛苦！”。
我想这首诗应该是我最喜欢的之一， 一次又一次地推荐：
https://blog.wenxuecity.com/myblog/68411/201706/32141.html
赞暖冬的阅读。
“ "The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." The catastrophes that carve themselves deep inside of us also leave us with increased depth, augmenting the volume of feeling we're able to hold. And how can we measure devotion but by how much the vessels that we become for our art, faith, saviors, and crusades have the capacity to contain?”
这本书的文字手法虽然和 Hemingway 很不同， 但带给人的心灵震撼相信是一样的。 佩服你， 可以静下心来读书和思考， 欣赏文字的美感，和它们闪烁的坚强与毅力。