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Months ago, on the way to find a new trail, I overheard over the car radio the latter half of an inspiring story, which I relayed to my daughter when she was home.
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A black mom, in raising her black girl, has been telling her to always keep her head up but her mouth shut.
Sitting in the classroom one normal school day, she was facing the questions from her teacher.
“What does your mom do?”
Remembering her mom’s word, the little girl answered timidly that she did not know.
Then the topic somehow switched to the shoes the girl was going to wear to school. The girl told the teacher that she had ten pairs of shoes, describing each in details the colors and styles.
One day, the girl wore a pair of shoes that was not in her list. The teacher saw it, looked into the girl’s eyes, and said coldly: “You didn’t tell me that you have this.”
The girl was intimidated and lowered her head, as if she was doing something wrong.
Back at home, she told her mom what happened that day at school. The mom was enraged. "That’s ridiculous!”burst out the mom. The girl looked at her mom, not sure if it was her that her mom was mad at.
“It’s none of her business!” Holding her little girl’s hand by one side, and with a handbag in another, the mom stormed out the door. Not knowing where her mom was taking her, or if it’s the school they were going to, the girl followed her mom fearfully. They came to the bustling main street, and stopped in front of Saks 5th Avenue. The mom went straight into the shoe department and picked a pair of yellow-colored shoes that cost almost $100.
The next morning, the mom asked the little girl to put on the new shoes, and told her:
“You go and tell the teacher that you actually have a dozen pairs of shoes.”
The girl did accordingly. She walked up to the teacher and showed her her 12th pair of shoes. The teacher, stone-faced, looked at the shiny bright new shoes, said nothing but: "Go and sit down.”
Of course, the mom knew that soon the little girl's feet would outgrow all the shoes she had, but this $100 is a silent defiance, fighting for her little girl’s dignity in face of an authority. Many years later, the little girl, now grown up to be a self-esteemed lady, was telling her story over the radio, reminiscent of her proud mom and her 12 pairs of shoes.
祝感恩节愉快！
问候亲爱的暖冬，预祝感恩节快乐！
同祝康康感恩节快乐!
跟我们小时的教育不同啊，那时只要学习好就行了，家长认为孩子太注重穿着和打扮，会影响学习。记得班里的学渣才会被歧视，而且有些学习不错的孩子会公开歧视学渣，甚至老师也是这样。还有，有些老师对家庭条件好或是有背景的孩子的态度是不一样的，这是人性，我们有时会过分解读，就会用到种族上。
最近瞎忙，多日不见，惦念，问好暖冬，人在外，预祝暖冬感恩节快乐！：））
刚刚文学城好像crashed了，后来手机又信号不好。
另外我是在门洞里认出你那双眼睛的:)))
其实那天在车上听这个故事时，我感慨的是这个母亲的做法，一般中国人可能就息事宁人了。这种从小培养孩子不怕权威，敢于藐视挑战，我自己做的很不够。告诉女儿这个故事时，告诉了她我的感受，还有就是，不是别人说你不行你就不行了。这个骄傲的母亲值得我学习的。
谢谢你还特意问他的感受，钱如果能买回自尊，给人无声的一击，就值了。有钱就是好:))
谢谢Oncemm的感悟和认真，周二快乐!