婚姻的艺术（五）爱的火辣（上）Love Sizzles （I)

要使你的泉源蒙福，要喜悦你幼年所娶的妻。 她如可爱的麀鹿；可喜的母鹿。愿她的胸怀，使你时时知足；她的爱情，使你常常恋慕。(《圣经》箴言 5:18-19) Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love. Proverbs 5:18-19



昨天上婚姻课前，老师先道：“这堂课要谈论一些生理用词，如性高潮orgasm等，若你感觉不适合，可以先离开教室，但在坐的都是夫妻，应该没有问题。”

婚姻第五课是“Love Sizzles" （爱的火辣），可以想象，火辣的爱情的主题当然是“性爱”。上帝创造了人，也同样创造了性，他有很美妙的设计。

《圣经》里对夫妻性交有三方面的缘由：
（一）在神的面前合一。Oneness before God；
（二）快乐。Pleasure；
（三）繁衍后代。Procreation.

性爱的宗旨是庆祝夫妻在神面前的合一。The ultimate purpose of sex is a celebration of our oneness in the sight of God.
神创造性，并让男女结合，《圣经》创世纪第一章31节写道，“神看着一切所造的都甚好。God created sex and called the union between man and woman "very good" (Genesis 1:31)
神创造性，让夫妻享受婚姻的愉快、美好和激情。God created sex to be enjoyable, pleasurable, and passionate in marriage.

《圣经》旧约里有专门的章节，诗情画意地描述了男女之间的浪漫爱恋，其中有男子写给他心爱的女子的情书，也有女子给男子的情书。用了古时候所罗门王时期的景物，如美玉、黎巴嫩塔、圆杯、麦子、百合花、小鹿、象牙台、葡萄、石榴、风茄、佳美的果子等作为比喻，来表达对方身体各部位的性感和魅力。文字美妙多情，让人浮想联翩：

《圣经》雅歌 7:1-9 他写给她的情书 Song of Solomon... his love letter to her
王女啊！你的脚在鞋中何其美好；你的大腿圆润好象美玉，是巧匠的手做成的；
你的肚脐如圆杯，不缺调和的酒；你的腰如一堆麦子，周围有百合花；
你的两乳好象一对小鹿，就是母鹿双生的；
你的颈项如象牙台；你的眼目象希实本巴特拉并门旁的水池；你的鼻子仿佛朝大马色的黎巴嫩塔；
你的头在你身上好象迦密山；你头上的发是紫黑色。王的心因这下垂的发绺系住了。
我所爱的，你何其美好！何其可悦！使人欢畅喜乐。
你的身量，好象棕树；你的两乳如同其上的果子，累累下垂。
我说我要上这棕树，抓住枝子。愿你的两乳，好象葡萄累累下垂；你鼻子的气味香如苹果；
你的口如上好的酒。1

《圣经》雅歌 7:10-16 她写给他的情书 Song of Solomon... her love letter to him
我属我的良人，他也恋慕我。
我的良人，来吧！你我可以往田间去，你我可以在村庄住宿。
我们早晨起来往葡萄园去看看葡萄发芽开花没有，石榴放蕊没有；我在那里要将我的爱情给你。
风茄放香，在我们的门内有各样新陈佳美的果子；我的良人，这都是我为你存留的。2

阅读《圣经》雅歌里关于“性”的情书，夫妻们了解到：

上帝的旨意让我们在婚姻里享受性欲  -- 性欲本是神的礼物。  God intended for us to explore our sexuality within marriage -- it's a gift.

我们不应该将性欲放进盒子里；应该要有创意地、主动地、追求性的自由。We're not to put sexuality in a box; there's a liberty for creativity, initiative and pursuit.
《圣经》雅歌激发已婚夫妇该如何做。The Song of Solomon is in the Bible to inspire married couples as to what could be.
性亲密的宗旨是让你的配偶有一个美妙、安全、愉快、深层次、满意的经历；也在经历中享受两人之间的关系。A goal of sexual intimacy is to see that your spouse has a wonderful, safe, lovely, profound, and fulfilling experience, and to enjoy your relationship with each other around that experience.
性交不可以只为帮忙或者被看成是一种权利。Sex is not to be given only as a favor or seen as an entitlement.
夫妻必须学会沟通彼此对性交的期望。We must learn to communicate our expectations for sex with our spouse.
有时为了性满足感，夫妻需要保留精力。Sometimes we have to save energy to reserve it for sexual fulfillment.

那么夫妻间如何能够有美妙而满意的性交经历，婚姻课的电影里有很好的例子，请听下回分解。。。
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注1：《圣经》雅歌 7:1-9 他写给她的情书 Song of Solomon... his love letter to her
英文NIV版本
How beautiful your sandaled feet, O prince's daughter! Your graceful legs are like jewels, the work of a craftsman's hands.
Your navel is a rounded goblet that never lacks blended wine. Your waist is a mound of wheat encircled by lilies.
Your breasts are like two fawns, twins of a gazelle.
Your neck is like an ivory tower. Your eyes are the pools of Heshbon by the gate of Bath Rabbim. Your nose is like the tower of Lebanon looking toward Damascus.
Your head crowns you like Mount Carmel. Your hair is like royal tapestry; the king is held captive by its tresses.
How beautiful you are and how pleasing, O love, with your delights!
Your stature is like that of the palm, and your breasts like clusters of fruit.
I said, "I will climb the palm tree; I will take hold of its fruit." May your breasts be like the clusters of the vine, the fragrance of your breath like apples,
and your mouth like the best wine.

注2：《圣经》雅歌 7:10-16 她写给他的情书 Song of Solomon... her love letter to him
英文NIV版本
I belong to my lover, and his desire is for me.
Come, my lover, let us go to the countryside, let us spend the night in the villages.
Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom- there I will give you my love.
The mandrakes send out their fragrance, and at our door is every delicacy, both new and old, that I have stored up for you, my lover.

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