进程日志14: 2008 年5月11日

2008年5月11日

 

早上一起来就给爸爸妈妈打电话。他们旅行刚回来。妈妈每周和我在网上谈话的时候都要问安妮的事。我每次都说，“你别管了，有消息自然会告诉你们。”我能说什么呢？何必让他们徒增烦忧。表哥们也是这个意思。我很早以前就意识到，当发现不再能把自己点点滴滴的烦恼与不快都向父母诉说的那一天就是自己长大的一天。父母年纪都大了，是我们护着宠着他们的时候了。

 昨天晚上在读一本书，里面的一个案子引起了我的注意。开始给两个报纸打电话，要找以前跟踪采访这个案子的两个记者。第一个报社好像是很敬业的样子，周六的晚上11点还有正经八摆的编辑在。不过我要找的那个记者多年以前在那里工作过，现在已不知去向了，但他答应替我打听。第二个报社除了管发行的人在，没有别人在。你想一个靠新闻吃饭，又是发行日报的人，难道不知道事情不会因为是周末就不发生了？怎么会连一个人都没有。也许新闻专业的人士能解答这个问题吧。

居然找到了写书的人的联系信息！！！还有他的名言：

The Winner's Attitude
The winner is always part of the answer; the loser is always part of the problem.

• The winner always has a program; the loser always has an excuse.
• The winner says, "Let me do it for you;" the loser says, "That's not my job."
• The winner sees an answer for every problem; the loser sees a problem for every answer.
• The winner sees a green near every sand trap; the loser sees two or three sand traps near every green.
• The winner says, "It may be difficult, but it is possible;" the loser says, "It may be possible, but it's too difficult."

By his definition, I have always been a loser in my life, although a happy one, I may add. But this time, I really, really want to be a winner.

[helene2007]

Best wishes for your cousin, if she is safe, she should have contacted her family. Deepest sympathy for your situation and hope my advice can help u somehow.

[helene2007]

我觉得你太相信你表姐在美国的这个未婚夫，有几个疑点
1。
如果他说曾经给你表姐定机票，请让他出示买票记录，问他是在哪家航空买的，公司会有定票记录。如果你表姐是在准备考试，而又打算私奔，试问怎么会让丈夫混给她定票，而且她要回国怎么可能不和家人说？

2。应该拿报案记录或者请警方协助查看你表姐电子邮箱和最后通话记录，如果她有情人，会留有痕迹。
3。就算真是私奔，你表姐肯定不会不和家人联系，让家人担心。她没必要私奔，她已经有绿卡，完全可以光明正当离婚。除非她的离婚会影响她绿卡身份，所以她宁可躲着其他人在美国黑下去。我不清楚美国这方面规定，你自己判断有无这可能。
4。有可能受到某种威胁以致不敢露面。
5。已经......
6.find out who is lying about the truth, if someone is saying something which it seems unreasonable, so it means he is trying to hide something.U should ask a warrant of investigation to search her house. u are too easy to trust other people and reveal too much details of your investigation steps in public, which maybe help the bad person escape.Be more cautious and ask for more legal help from the authority and chiense ambassy.