Theessenceofloveisaconcernforthewelfareoftheother.Loveisessentiallyanexpressionofourhighernature.Thelowertriangle,beingacreatureofneedsanddesires,isconcernedaboutthesatisfactionofpersonalneeds.It'sorientedtowardgetting,ratherthangiving.Humanbeingsrespondpositivelytotheloveofotherpeople.Butsuchlovemustbebehaviourallyexpressed,suchasakindword,asmile,atouch,ahug,apraise,aphonecall,aninconvenienth...[
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Threefactorscontributetowholesomeandeffectiverelationships:
self-awareness
activelistening
harmoniousassertiveness
Activelistening:
helpfulbehaviorthatcontributestoeffectivelistening
eyecontact
askclarifyingquestions
nods
appropriatefacialexpression
leansforward
affirmswhatissaid
notdistrctedbyotherthings
Effectonspeaker
feelencouraged
fee...[
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Thefearofdeathcanbeduetothefearofthepainofdeathorfearofannihilationorfearofgoingtohellorfearofseparationfromlovedonesoracombinationofthese.I'mafraidthesufferingassociatedwiththedyingprocessandthefactthatIhaveneverlivedmytruenature. ignorance:people(includingmyself)fearthatdeathmeanstheendofeverything.Thebestwaytoconquerthisfearistofindoutwhetherthereislifeafterdeath.Itisalmostimpossibletoverif...[
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Knowledgeisatranslationofanexperience,asymbolizationonanotherlevel.Itisarecordingofathingthathashappenedandhenceisalwaysofthepast.Awarenssisofthepresent.Itisnotatranslation,butreatheranexperiencing.Knowledgeaboutsomethinginvolvesnamingitandclassifyingitaccordingtosomeprearrangedcategoriesinourmind,basedonasetofinformationaboutit.Itisautomaticandhappenssofastthatwedon'ttakenoteofitsdynamicsanym...[
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Wearebornimperfectwiththeseedofperfectionburieddeepwithin,ofimperfectparents,withinanimperfectsociety.Asaresultoftheseimperfectfoundations,webungleourlivestimeandgetwounded,andfeelthesorrowandpainofliving.Humanperfectiondoesn;tmeanthatwebecomegodsbutbecomeonethathasreachedthehighestpotentialswithinourselvesthatmaymakeuslooksuperhuman.CarlJungcallsthismaturationprocess"individuation",inwh...[
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Therealizationthatourpersonalityistheproductofconditioningisimportant.Theprimaryconditioningsthataremostsusceptibletointernalandexternalconflictsarethefollowing: fearreactions prejudices,likesanddislikes resentmentsandattachments copingmechanisms:stress,irritationandangerConditioningplaysavitalroleintheformationofthethinking,attitudes,reactionpatternsandhabitsofindividuals.Conditioningscangodeepin...[
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Thepinnacleofself-transformationisthediscoveryofourhighernature-ourtruenature.Therealizationfreesusfromtheprisonofthepersonalityorthevehiclesthatweuse.Personalityisessentiallyaproductofconditionings,andwearevirtuallyprisonersofsuchconditionings.Thediscoveryofthatwhichisbeyondthepersonalityisthekeytofreedom.Whenourmotivationismerelytobecomebetterortoimproveourselvesortobemoresuccessfuloreffective,t...[
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Ifwehaveaninklingofwhatisworthpursuinginlife,canweactuallydoit?Canweclaimbthemountainofourdreamsandnotjustdreamaboutit?Aretheretoomanyobstacles?Weneedtoseethattheprincipalobstacletopursuingourvisionisourselves.Itisnotcircumstances,orotherpeoplethatmakethejourneyhard.Weareourworstenemies.Wehavethepotentialtotransformourlivesintoourhighestideals.However,weoftengettrappedinthefundamentalmistakeofblam...[
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Ifwehaveaninklingofwhatisworthpursuinginlife,canweactuallydoit?Canweclaimbthemountainofourdreamsandnotjustdreamaboutit?Aretheretoomanyobstacles?Weneedtoseethattheprincipalobstacletopursuingourvisionisourselves.Itisnotcircumstances,orotherpeoplethatmakethejourneyhard.Weareourworstenemies.Wehavethepotentialtotransformourlivesintoourhighestideals.However,weoftengettrappedinthefundamentalmistakeofblam...[
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Howcanyouclaimtoloveyourselfifyoudon'ttakecareofyourhealth-physical,mental,emotionalandspiritual?Theyareinterrelated.Physicalsicknessestendtoaffectthementalandemotionalhealthandviceversa.Ifyoucan'tloveyourself,howcanyouclaimtoloveanyoneelse?canyougivesomethingthatyoudon'thave?Ifyoucan'tstaymotivatedandenthisuastic,howcanyouspreadmotivationandenthusiasm?Ifyouarenothealthy,willanyone...[
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