The Pride

Pride is a kind of emotion related to a strong respect for oneself and a thought that one is higher than others. Pride comes along with one’s personality and could also be built up through accomplishment and recognition.

Everybody possesses a certain level of pride mirrored generally by self-esteem and self-assurance. Healthy level of pride and dignity support one stand out of the others.

However, some people incline to abuse their pride blindly, which is manifested by ill-arrogance and super ego. Failures of controlling one’s pride and avoiding to abuse the privilege usually lead to unsuccessful relationships. One may lose valuable collaborators, beloved partners, diligent subordinates or good opportunities.

Lowering one's pride to a healthy level at certain situations should be wise and practical, and meanwhile offers one more opportunities and shows one’s respects for others.  If one is really charismatic, he/she will be like a magnetic field to attract many friends in stead of using his/her pride to conquer them or win their hearts, which is substantially working in the opposite way and enlarge the distance between hearts.

Pride is one of the elements to be charming. Treating friends like this would be highly appreciated: hiding the pride inside and behaving humbly because what one’s pride is really for is to build up the charisma and provide the inner strength---- nobleness and dignity.

Just some thoughts.

[melly]

回复goodbaby98的评论:

I agree with you, baby.

[goodbaby98]

很喜欢这篇文章和归来的评论，Pride是一个很难掌握的尺度。：)

[melly]

回复归来的评论:
Well said.

Pride is not arrogance, haughtiness or vanity. As my knowledge, it is one's inner strength, to support one go through hardships. Pride is closely connected to respect. It is difficult to define a person is proud if he/she fails to show respect to others.

Just my two cents.

Thanks for sharing your opinion.

[归来]

We all have a mental picture of who we are, how we look, what we're good at, and what our weaknesses might be. The pride is all about how much we feel valued, loved, accepted, and thought well of by others — and how much we value, love, and accept ourselves. People with healthy pride are able to feel good about themselves, appreciate their own worth, and take pride in their abilities, skills, and accomplishments. People with low pride may feel as if no one will like them or accept them or that they can't do well in anything.
So the people I most respect are those:

与帝王将相散步，不卑不亢，指点江山文字
与乞丐市侩共餐，不嫌不弃，笑谈世态炎凉

借用徐悲鸿说过一句名言：“人不可有傲气，但不可无傲骨”！