那时他们虽然什么都不说，但心里都有个默契。寻欢不自觉地担负起老板的角色，
于是千色就跟他闹着玩，取了个婚坛老板娘的ID，但一直没有注册。直到今年才
注册的。他们就这样在婚坛交流对人生对爱情的看法，还时不常的逗逗嘴。一次
霞飞路在和焚琴说寻欢太滑头，搞不定的，属于那种按下去又翘起来的那种。焚
琴说要把他打倒在地，寻欢跑出来说再踩上一只脚。妈耶，亏他说得出来。
猪耳朵下酒一起批 - 谈寂寞和性别 -清晨~~- (499 bytes) (133 reads) 2003-12-2
批猪道理，不是因为他说寂寞。
而是因为他将寂寞归因为性别。
寂寞，果真是源于性别吗？
窃以为，不论男女，只要有灵魂，就无法免于寂寞。
就像有些人的触觉比别人更敏感，也会有人的灵觉(?)更敏感也因此更容易寂寞。
这些差异，与其说源于性别，不如说源于不同的个体。
btw, 有灵魂，是人的悲还是幸？我觉得是后者。
寂寞，所以可以有机会接近真理
Disagree:-):-) -陈年酒-
The social rule man have to play makes it more difficult for man to cry, to show weakness, to seek sympathy. Social study have found that woman’s relationship are built on connection whle Man’s relationship mostly are built on status. For that, man are indeed lonelier simply because they cry less ...
Re:Disagree:-):-) -焚琴煮鹤-
“when you find yourself lying helpless in her arms,
You know you really love a woman”
from "have you ever really loved a woman" by Brian Adams. ??
love is a temporary thing. -■-
Love is a verb. -焚琴煮鹤-
disgree. if people take care -红尘一笑-
of their love, it never ends.
Love is like bank account, you can not withdraw without deposit into it.
haha. it is not love anymore - ■
it is called responsibilities.
responsibility is part of love -红尘一笑-
if can not be separated from love.
Agree. Love last few -狼尾巴-
seconds to few years. If you are of mankind, don't ever believe in love. Mankind is in the catogery of animals.
no eternal love in this world.
there is, rare, but it exists -马甲妹妹-
回复：love is a temporary thing. -two.cents-
Dependents how do you think what is love.
Love is there is a person who had lots of argue with you, but still cook for you everyday.
Love is there is a person can tolerate your bad temp.
Love is when you become old, there is a person company you to go to hospital together.
what is love -霞飞路-
love is you even don't need to agree with each other, you'd rather enjoy the fighting, but can stop at a certain point.
love is you don't even need to expect when you can be together, but you couldn't leave the other alone.
love is you can do anything for the other because your heart is melted.
Disagree:):) -清晨~~-
说得很对。不过相反的论调是：和女人比，男人一般比较不敏感。是不是可以理解为，男人对sympathy的需求相对较少？
anyway, 这个寂寞只是emotional的寂寞。
还有知性的寂寞 - 没有人理解你没有人可以交流的寂寞。
还有灵魂的寂寞 - 有人理解你，有人爱你，你也爱人，可是仍然寂寞。- 和爱人朋友开怀畅谈一夜，转身即扑面而来的那种寂寞，就是这种了。
也许感性的/知性的寂寞可以和性别有关。
可是灵魂的寂寞.. 除非男人和女人连灵魂都可以不同。
回复：Disagree:-):-) -two.cents-
I bet if a man want to find a soul mate, that must be a lady who he can cry to, he can express his weakness frankly.
:-):-):-):-) -陈年酒-
同志们,战斗的号角吹响了,向前冲啊!!! -Xiqu-
什么是人性? -■-
当你压抑自己,你更有人性. 或释放自己,你更有人性
find the balance point. -焚琴煮鹤-
absolute right -■-
why do we talk such thing? everybody has its own balance point. The balance point is different from one person to another one. nothing is right. nothing is wrong.
My suggestion. Do what you want to do. Find your balance point. Don't worry your peers.
即表现自己，等完全回到动物，就更有人性了。 -狼尾巴-
nobody wants to be a pure human being or pure animal. everybody is moving around between human being and animal. haha.
方块，你说的阶级敌人是不是指 -婚坛老板娘-
老板和老板娘都在压抑自己，想释放自己，是不是最有人性？
and desire you have now. Don't suffer too much. be a animal for a while and come back, pretend a lady again.
impossible. -婚坛老板娘-
老板是个very decent man.
你是谁? 不想玩就别玩 -■-
it's not a matter of 玩 -婚坛老板娘-
你记得自己说的，lover is better?
另：你好像还不懂what is love.
我们什么时候练练. 我走了. -■-
being an animal for while -红尘一笑-
can make you a better 老板娘. It is doing your 老板 a favor.
doing favor for all. -婚坛老板娘-
谢谢红尘，我想老板会感谢你。
这个ID只能用这一次了，不然要被砸到焚尸灭迹了。hehe.
人性里有罪性和善性 （找不到合适的词了） -清晨~~-
把扬善弃恶去伪存真，等同于压抑人性，
有点，怎么说呢，- 喜欢自然风光，可院子里的草还是要修的。
阶级敌人出洞了. 哈哈 -■- (0 bytes) (1 reads) 2003-12-2
Just my thought -itisjustme- (526 bytes) (138 reads) 2003-12-2
I've been to this forum for a long time, like most of the people here, I think the reason is I just want a little space aside from my family.
I want to talk to someone else beside my wife, not saying I don't like her anymore, it's just after all these years, there are so many things we don't talk about anymore.
I'm not looking for an affair, I want a female friend.
People post everything here, but is that really everyone want to share? Especially right now, this forum is getting boring. ...
回复:您最好还是把这种想法扼杀在摇篮里 -蠢女人-
relax, man. -黑桃老K-
you should learn from me. I sit here everyday broken-hearted.I try very hard to shit, but only fart instead, hahahaha.....have fun.
haha, 顶！ -colala-
看了你的贴子， 简直有点感伤了 -colala-
很多时候， 我们都不 知道我们要什么了。
玩玩又何妨？
同感.who am i? -■-
Colala有的时候是那样的。 -一点随想-
不知道要什么，也不知道说什么
回复：Just my thought -two.cents-
I almost understand you. But one point: you wrote you want to a female friend. Don’t you think this might jeopardous your marriage? Why not treat everyone as a friend? If you post your thought, everyone can contribute their ideas to you.
