>> The 1 greatest measure of success in life:
Warren Buffett said: When you're nearing your end of life, your only measure of success should be the number of“people you want to have love you actually do love you,” he answered. “The problem with love is that it’s not for sale,” “The only way to get love is to be lovable. It’s very irritating if you have a lot of money. You’d like to think you could write a check: I’ll buy a million dollars’ worth of love. But it doesn’t work that way. The more you give love away, the more you get.”
>> The most important decision:
Buffett: “The most important for most people, in terms of that decision, is their spouse.”“You want to pick a spouse that's a little bit better than you are. Then he or she, you hope they don't figure it out too fast,”“You want to associate with people that are better than you are,” he says. “And you want to have the right heroes.”“You want to associate with people who are the kind of person you’d like to be. You’ll move in that direction,” he said. “And the most important person by far in that respect is your spouse. I can’t overemphasize how important that is.” “You're looking for three things, generally, in a person: intelligence, energy, and integrity. And if they don't have the last one, don't even bother with the first two.”
>> The most important investment:
Buffett says “Ultimately, there’s one investment that supersedes all others: Invest in yourself,” “Nobody can take away what you’ve got in yourself, and everybody has potential they haven’t used yet.” >> Invest in yourself, and in particular, try to improve your communication skills. “If you can't communicate to somebody, it's like winking at a girl in the dark,”1. Listen first. 2. Remember, it's not just what you say; it's how you say it. 3. Think before you speak (or write). 4. Strive for clarity. >> Take care of your mind and body. “You get exactly one mind and one body in this world. And you can't start taking care of it when you're 50,”
37 Rules that Helped Hung Siu-lin (Katherine)
from a high school graduate became
an independent non-executive director of CK Asset Holdings Limited and
a member of the Supervisory Board of Hong Kong Housing Society
(with English translation by Chan Ouyang)
Don't spread rumors which you haven't seen with your own eyes.
For things you don't know, just be straight and say "I don't know.”
If someone throw a stone to you, don't throw it back; let it becomes one of your footing stones in your road to success.
Celebrities attract tattlers; if you cannot stand with tattlers for the time being, give up being a celebrity. Sometimes it works better to retreat in order to advance.
Endure it if you could; if could not endure, change it; if could not change, accept it.
Speak slower, and no need to hurry, so your mind will be clearer and you can handle things easier.
Emit your own light, however don't blow others candle out.
Don't make enemy with scamps; they will have their own enemies, and no need one more of you.
Don't blindly be arrogant, or sedulously be humble.
Everyone always has own secret; when they don't want to tell you, don't ask around.
If many people are doing the same thing while you don't, it does not mean you are wrong.
Begging gods for help is no better than begging others; begging others for help is no better than begging self. Powerful self is more useful than all other means.
Fruits should only be harvested after they are ripe. Ideas can only be well expressed after they have been deliberated.
Simple things no need to weigh and balance; complex things no need to fret about. Don't talk when in mad; don't make a decision when in angry.
The hands reaching to you don't necessarily mean to really save you; one must learn how to save oneself.
Would rather be silent like a dumb, don't want speak like a fool.
Being silence is a muted storm in counterattack shameless; being anger is an effective self-destruction in beating back insult.
Don't treat yourself not like a human; also don't dote yourself like a human.
Real leader is not the one who can lead many gentlemen, but the one who can drive many scoundrel-men.
One who wants to win over others must first win over oneself; one who wants to embarrass others should first shame oneself.
Many people when they are reshuffling their bias believe they are thinking ideas.
You are unable to judge whether others are good or bad person, however you can make yourself be a good person.
“There is no perfect winner, only perfect loser.” So better not to be perfect.
Bearing a moment comes out calming winds; brooking all things makes self-quieting hearts.
Have a knack, show your knack; don't play a trick.
No matter how stupid, it will never be your turn to be the most stupid in such a big world; just don't repeat such a mistake next time.
If not blindly trust others, no one would disappoint me; if not promise anything without thinking, I would not disappoint anyone.
If not knowing much about the good, you may be deceived once; however, if not clearly aware of people, you will be suffered a whole life.
The great benefit of speaking the truth is that you don't have to remember whatsoever you have said.
A dolt knows own limitations – that is not to be a wiseacre.
A man full of his own views and ideas would never hear others heartfelt voices.
People who understand you may not the one who would care for you; they may be just smart and good at observing others.
No one can see reflection in boiling water; in the same way, no one can see the truth when in anger.
Experience in human life is like a pencil, starting with sharp, becoming round after more experience, would be broken when cannot bear.
If you want to be at a high place, must use your own feet; don't ask others to carry you to get there, otherwise you will fall down miserably.
You may not want to be a gentleman, however never be ease to be a scoundrel-man.
The tiresome piece of social life is that people always want to show some characters which they don't possess.