大山随笔
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>> The 1 greatest measure of success in life:
Warren Buffett said: When you're nearing your end of life, your only measure of success should be the number of“people you want to have love you actually do love you,” he answered. “The problem with love is that it’s not for sale,” “The only way to get love is to be lovable. It’s very irritating if you have a lot of money. You’d like to think you could write a check: I’ll buy a million dollars’ worth of love. But it doesn’t work that way. The more you give love away, the more you get.”
>> The most important decision:
Buffett: “The most important for most people, in terms of that decision, is their spouse.”“You want to pick a spouse that's a little bit better than you are. Then he or she, you hope they don't figure it out too fast,”“You want to associate with people that are better than you are,” he says. “And you want to have the right heroes.”“You want to associate with people who are the kind of person you’d like to be. You’ll move in that direction,” he said. “And the most important person by far in that respect is your spouse. I can’t overemphasize how important that is.” “You're looking for three things, generally, in a person: intelligence, energy, and integrity. And if they don't have the last one, don't even bother with the first two.”
>> The most important investment:
Buffett says “Ultimately, there’s one investment that supersedes all others: Invest in yourself,” “Nobody can take away what you’ve got in yourself, and everybody has potential they haven’t used yet.” >> Invest in yourself, and in particular, try to improve your communication skills. “If you can't communicate to somebody, it's like winking at a girl in the dark,”1. Listen first. 2. Remember, it's not just what you say; it's how you say it. 3. Think before you speak (or write). 4. Strive for clarity. >> Take care of your mind and body. “You get exactly one mind and one body in this world. And you can't start taking care of it when you're 50,”
洪小莲的37条规则
37 Rules that Helped Hung Siu-lin (Katherine)
from a high school graduate became
an independent non-executive director of CK Asset Holdings Limited and
a member of the Supervisory Board of Hong Kong Housing Society
(with English translation by Chan Ouyang)
01. 任何事情，只要不是你亲眼所见，就不要到处宣扬。
Don't spread rumors which you haven't seen with your own eyes.
02. 对不了解的事，直接说“我不知道”就好。
For things you don't know, just be straight and say "I don't know.”
03. 如果别人朝你扔石头，使绊子，不用扔回去，让那些石头成为你成功的基石。
If someone throw a stone to you, don't throw it back; let it becomes one of your footing stones in your road to success.
04. 人红是非多，如果你暂时还斗不过“是非”，就先放弃“当红”，以退为进有时候更管用。
Celebrities attract tattlers; if you cannot stand with tattlers for the time being, give up being a celebrity. Sometimes it works better to retreat in order to advance.
05. 忍得了就忍，忍不了就改变，改变不了就接受现实。
Endure it if you could; if could not endure, change it; if could not change, accept it.
06. 遇事不要急，说话慢一点，思路会更加清晰，处理问题也更得心应手。
Speak slower, and no need to hurry, so your mind will be clearer and you can handle things easier.
07. 发射自己的光，也不要吹灭别人的灯。
Emit your own light, however don't blow others candle out.
08. 不要和小人结仇，小人自然会有大把对头，不需要多你一个。
Don't make enemy with scamps; they will have their own enemies, and no need one more of you.
09. 不要盲目骄傲，也不要刻意渺小。
Don't blindly be arrogant, or sedulously be humble.
10. 每个人总有不愿意公开的秘密，别人不想告诉你的时候就不要到处打探了。
Everyone always has own secret; when they don't want to tell you, don't ask around.
11. 如果一件事很多人都在做，你不做，并不代表你错了。
If many people are doing the same thing while you don't, it does not mean you are wrong.
12. 求神不如求人，求人不如求己，自己强大比什么都管用。
Begging gods for help is no better than begging others; begging others for help is no better than begging self. Powerful self is more useful than all other means.
13. 成熟的果实才可以采摘，充分的思考才能更好的表达。
Fruits should only be harvested after they are ripe. Ideas can only be well expressed after they have been deliberated.
14. 简单的事不需要计较，复杂的事不必要烦恼，发火时不能够讲话，生气时不要去决策。
Simple things no need to weigh and balance; complex things no need to fret about. Don't talk when in mad; don't make a decision when in angry.
15. 向你伸出手的不一定是真心想救你，人还是要学会自救。
The hands reaching to you don't necessarily mean to really save you; one must learn how to save oneself.
16. 宁可像哑巴一样保持沉默，也不要一开口就显得自己是个傻瓜。
Would rather be silent like a dumb, don't want speak like a fool.
17. 沉默是反击无耻的无声风暴，愤怒是抗击外辱的有效“自残”。
Being silence is a muted storm in counterattack shameless; being anger is an effective self-destruction in beating back insult.
18. 别把自己不当人，也别把自己太当人。
Don't treat yourself not like a human; also don't dote yourself like a human.
19. 真正的领导不在于谁能领导多少君子，而在于谁能驾驭多少小人。
Real leader is not the one who can lead many gentlemen, but the one who can drive many scoundrel-men.
20. 欲胜人者先自胜，欲卑人者先自卑。
One who wants to win over others must first win over oneself; one who wants to embarrass others should first shame oneself.
21. 许多人在重组自己的偏见时，还以为自己是在思考。
Many people when they are reshuffling their bias believe they are thinking ideas.
22. 你无法判断别人是好人还是坏人，但你自己可以做一个好人。
You are unable to judge whether others are good or bad person, however you can make yourself be a good person.
23. “没有完人，只有完蛋”，所以一定要有缺点。
“There is no perfect winner, only perfect loser.” So better not to be perfect.
24. 忍得一时风亦静，容得万事心自清。
Bearing a moment comes out calming winds; brooking all things makes self-quieting hearts.
25. 有招请亮招，没招别出手。
Have a knack, show your knack; don't play a trick.
26. 人再傻，世界这么大，最傻还轮不到你，别放心上，下次不犯就是了。
No matter how stupid, it will never be your turn to be the most stupid in such a big world; just don't repeat such a mistake next time.
27. 诺不轻信，故人不负我；诺不轻许，故我不负人。
If not blindly trust others, no one would disappoint me; if not promise anything without thinking, I would not disappoint anyone.
28. 一个人如果不识货，只是受骗一时，但是如果认人不清，则会受苦一世。
If not knowing much about the good, you may be deceived once; however, if not clearly aware of people, you will be suffered a whole life.
29. 说真话的最大好处就是你不必记得你都说些什么。
The great benefit of speaking the truth is that you don't have to remember whatsoever you have said.
30. 笨人的自知之明在于——不去自作聪明。
A dolt knows own limitations – that is not to be a wiseacre.
31. 心中装满自己的看法与想法的人，永远听不见别人的心声。
A man full of his own views and ideas would never hear others heartfelt voices.
32. 了解你的人未必是关心你的人，也许他只是个善于观察的聪明人。
People who understand you may not the one who would care for you; they may be just smart and good at observing others.
33. 滚水中看不到倒影，同样的道理盛怒中也看不到真相。
No one can see reflection in boiling water; in the same way, no one can see the truth when in anger.
34. 人生的经历就像铅笔一样，开始很尖，经历的多了也就变得圆滑了，如果承受不了就会断！
Experience in human life is like a pencil, starting with sharp, becoming round after more experience, would be broken when cannot bear.
35. 如果你想走到高处，一定要用自己的腿，不要让别人把你抬上去，否则会摔得很惨。
If you want to be at a high place, must use your own feet; don't ask others to carry you to get there, otherwise you will fall down miserably.
36. 你可以不做君子，但千万不要轻易地去做一个小人。
You may not want to be a gentleman, however never be ease to be a scoundrel-man.
37. 社交的累人之处在于，人们总是想展示自己并不具备的素质。
The tiresome piece of social life is that people always want to show some characters which they don't possess.
华为副总离开华为转战百度时写给任正非的离职信，其中经验和教训要点：
一、“从小事做起，学会吃亏，与他人合作”
二、“心有多大，舞台就有多大”
三、“好好学习，天天向上”
四、勇于实践，勇于犯错，善于反思
五、要有方法、有套路，对问题系统思考、对解决方案有战略性的设计
六、独立思考，不人云亦云
七、少抱怨、少空谈、积极主动，多干实事
八、对职业负责、对目标负责，对自己负责，成功者往往自觉自律、信守承诺、心无旁骛
九、多点人文修养和审美情趣，看起来与工作不怎么相关，其实太相关了
十、“大家好，才是真的好”，关注人，帮助人，真诚待人，厚道做人
1)对事不对人。2)与人为善。
十一、开放和分享的态度
十二、做好时间管理
