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能稱量論價非愛中情而是買賣: to weigh and discuss price is not love but business; nor to rationalize; nor to earn, but given.
The statement "Being able to weigh and discuss price is not love but business. Love is unconditional" reflects a fundamental distinction between two aspects of human relationships: love and business. Let's elaborate on this idea:
Weighing and Discussing Price - The Business Aspect:
In business transactions, individuals often negotiate and discuss prices to arrive at a fair and mutually beneficial arrangement. This negotiation process is driven by self-interest and practical considerations.
In this context, people evaluate the worth or value of a product or service in relation to what they are willing to pay. It's a rational, calculated decision that takes into account factors like cost, quality, and competition.
Business deals are typically not based on emotions or unconditional commitment. They are contractual agreements with specific terms and conditions.
Love - The Unconditional Aspect:
Love, on the other hand, is a complex and multi-faceted emotion that encompasses a wide range of feelings, from affection and care to selflessness and compassion.
Unconditional love means loving someone regardless of their flaws, mistakes, or circumstances. It's a deep and enduring emotional connection that transcends material considerations.
True love is not contingent on what someone can offer in terms of money, possessions, or status. It's about accepting and cherishing a person for who they are, faults and all.
So, when the statement suggests that "Being able to weigh and discuss price is not love but business," it is highlighting the idea that treating a loving relationship like a business transaction, where you assess its value in terms of tangible benefits or costs, can undermine the authenticity of love.
Here are a few implications of this concept:
Authenticity of Love: Love is most genuine when it is not driven by material gains or selfish motives. When love is unconditional, it means you love someone for who they are, not for what they can provide or what you can gain from them.
Healthy Boundaries: While love is unconditional, it's important to have boundaries and discussions about practical matters in a relationship. These discussions are necessary to ensure both parties are on the same page regarding shared responsibilities, financial decisions, and future plans. However, these discussions should not overshadow or replace the emotional connection that defines love.
Balancing Love and Practicality: In many long-term relationships, there is a need to strike a balance between the emotional aspects of love and the practical considerations of life. This balance involves addressing financial concerns and other practical matters without losing sight of the love and emotional connection that brought the individuals together in the first place.
In summary, the statement underscores the idea that love is distinct from business in its nature and should be characterized by unconditional affection and commitment, rather than being reduced to a transactional or calculative dynamic.
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? 觉得男女朋友应该是大学的经历之一 -yangyang08- 给 yangyang08 发送悄悄话 yangyang08 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (11 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:11:24
? 感情的事情不合适用“应该”吧，真不是去市场上买东西，应该买啥就买啥 -两女宝妈- 给 两女宝妈 发送悄悄话 两女宝妈 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:16:23
? 我觉得熊娃即将被学长追走了 -Croissant_22- 给 Croissant_22 发送悄悄话 (84 bytes) (345 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:12:31
? 哇，恭喜！ -ashouluo2012- 给 ashouluo2012 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (3 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:13:41
? 我都愁死了，还啥都不能说 -Croissant_22- 给 Croissant_22 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (18 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:14:33
? 西人？如果人又好又帅，西人也挺好的啊。 -ashouluo2012- 给 ashouluo2012 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (4 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:16:37
? 我就是担心韩国男孩子会有些大男子主义 -Croissant_22- 给 Croissant_22 发送悄悄话 (96 bytes) (72 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:49:13
? 优点呢？ -紫牡丹- 给 紫牡丹 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (2 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:55:00
? 学霸？ -Croissant_22- 给 Croissant_22 发送悄悄话 (42 bytes) (44 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:58:15
? 亚洲人啊，挺好的啊。是不是大男子主意，交往看看再说 -ashouluo2012- 给 ashouluo2012 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (2 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 19:00:03
? 哪个颜色的都会有大男子主义的 LOL -Numero- 给 Numero 发送悄悄话 Numero 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 19:04:07
? 娃还小，大男子主义也过不了小美女这关，交往看看 -紫牡丹- 给 紫牡丹 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 19:03:01
? 我看到的很多韩国男生五官不如ABC，你娃能看上的应该是很帅的。紫檀有 -Numero- 给 Numero 发送悄悄话 Numero 的博客首页 (129 bytes) (40 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 19:02:28
? 影视剧看多了吧，大男子主义都是以前的事吧？ABK受的是美国熏陶吧 -保膘- 给 保膘 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (2 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 19:05:22
? 哈哈。-：） -有言- 给 有言 发送悄悄话 有言 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 19:13:24
? 愁啥？准丈母娘哪里不满意？ -紫牡丹- 给 紫牡丹 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (1 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:27:20
? 恭喜恭喜！ -phoenix05- 给 phoenix05 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (1 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:14:20
? 没事，下一个可能就是华二代 -两女宝妈- 给 两女宝妈 发送悄悄话 两女宝妈 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (1 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:15:31
? 你家大美女不是有男朋友了吗？ -保膘- 给 保膘 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (5 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:15:46
? 恭喜！小白？小韩？ -Numero- 给 Numero 发送悄悄话 Numero 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (1 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:16:40
? 恭喜恭喜 -成功的小羊- 给 成功的小羊 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:16:40
? 恭喜恭喜啊 -紫牡丹- 给 紫牡丹 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:26:16
? gxgx -tennisluv- 给 tennisluv 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (7 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:26:33
? 问题是现在ABC男生都不主动 -JT20871- 给 JT20871 发送悄悄话 (392 bytes) (118 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:27:06
? 跟我们学，主动吧? -保膘- 给 保膘 发送悄悄话 (33 bytes) (68 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:36:20
? 你家是遇到自己动心的了，而且对方也有意。我们这些，没遇到啊，想主动都不知道往哪里主动 -ashouluo2012- 给 ashouluo2012 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (5 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:38:56
? 我现在都神经啦，也许真有缘分等着? -保膘- 给 保膘 发送悄悄话 (75 bytes) (49 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:41:16
? 才多大就老大难了？ -randomness- 给 randomness 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (2 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:58:06
? 我也建议了 -JT20871- 给 JT20871 发送悄悄话 (107 bytes) (70 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:39:44
? 告他说，现在大学里女孩子主动都不是个事啦 -保膘- 给 保膘 发送悄悄话 (99 bytes) (49 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:42:29
? 他要改变思路 -JT20871- 给 JT20871 发送悄悄话 (176 bytes) (43 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:44:12
? 恭喜！ -加州阳光123- 给 加州阳光123 发送悄悄话 加州阳光123 的博客首页 (258 bytes) (39 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:39:02
? 恭喜恭喜，要是个小中就更好了。 -其乐无穷- 给 其乐无穷 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 19:22:58
? 男娃吧？ -katies- 给 katies 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (1 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:13:22
? 能谈就谈，说实话不是成熟的孩子，基本都是失败为主，当练手了 -yzhl888- 给 yzhl888 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (4 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:14:22
? 哈哈，不小心看成更想交男朋友了 -两女宝妈- 给 两女宝妈 发送悄悄话 两女宝妈 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (7 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:14:40
? 哈哈哈。 -成功的小羊- 给 成功的小羊 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:22:24
? 其实我也顺着楼主意思，差点儿二五眼了 -保膘- 给 保膘 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (2 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:25:06
? 哈哈哈哈！宝妈太幽默了 -嘉荷- 给 嘉荷 发送悄悄话 嘉荷 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:35:48
? 这种事，在美国，是欲望强烈不强烈的问题。如果不交过女友，事业很难成功 -mjnew- 给 mjnew 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (10 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:14:50
? 不矛盾啊。看缘分，不能强求，有喜欢的就去追，没喜欢的不强找 -Numero- 给 Numero 发送悄悄话 Numero 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (2 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:15:24
? 这种问题还用问吗，俺都是祈使句，”go get a girlfriend.”，嘿嘿 -skyport- 给 skyport 发送悄悄话 skyport 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (7 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:19:30
? “Or two”. -pct- 给 pct 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:24:19
? 我们都是反疑问句，你以为我不想吗? -保膘- 给 保膘 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:26:01
? 二娃听话不？ -嘉荷- 给 嘉荷 发送悄悄话 嘉荷 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (1 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:29:55
? 他听完一乐，然后该干啥干啥：） -skyport- 给 skyport 发送悄悄话 skyport 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (2 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:31:50
? 这是把机会留给别人啊，无意中为他人着想 -zxcv- 给 zxcv 发送悄悄话 zxcv 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (6 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:30:46
? 无论男女，优秀的娃，一旦有了这个想法，分分钟可以自己搞定 -成功的小羊- 给 成功的小羊 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (5 reads) 09/20/2023 postreply 18:53:00我问过娃，在大学里，打算交女朋友吗
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娃说，不想，因为更喜欢交很多朋友。问题是现在ABC男生都不主动
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回答: 我觉得熊娃即将被学长追走了 由 Croissant_22 于 2023-09-20 18:12:31
我家都是白人男生约，我说怎么没有ABC男生，你们不是在一起玩的挺多的，我家的蹭我一句，没ABC男生约我，你不是说女孩不能主动。我看现在要改变策略，否则真的要外嫁了晕 告他说，现在大学里女孩子主动都不是个事啦
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回答: 我也建议了 由 JT20871 于 2023-09-20 18:39:44
我们家孩子周围５，６个小中女小韩女都是先主动告白的，全都成了
? Love is blind-;))...... - 青松站 - 给 青松站 发送悄悄话 青松站 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (2 reads) 09/19/2023 14:06:12
? Yes. blind leads blind, After Ever Happy R 2022 ? 1h 59m - TJKCB - 给 TJKCB 发送悄悄话 TJKCB 的博客首页 (54278 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 09:29:02
? Setting clear boundaries is essential for maintaining - 盈盈一笑间 - 给 盈盈一笑间 发送悄悄话 盈盈一笑间 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (6 reads) 09/19/2023 17:12:41 (2)
? healthy relationship... - 盈盈一笑间 - 给 盈盈一笑间 发送悄悄话 盈盈一笑间 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (2 reads) 09/19/2023 17:13:09
? Where for boundaries? How clear is clear? Hard to do but eas - TJKCB - 给 TJKCB 发送悄悄话 TJKCB 的博客首页 (78 bytes) (1 reads) 09/20/2023 09:24:10 (1)
? Thank you for sharing. Love is not business :) - CBA7 - 给 CBA7 发送悄悄话 CBA7 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (6 reads) 09/19/2023 20:57:07 (1)
? +100086！！！ - 盈盈一笑间 - 给 盈盈一笑间 发送悄悄话 盈盈一笑间 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (1 reads) 09/20/2023 05:16:25
? Thank you, 盈盈。 - CBA7 - 给 CBA7 发送悄悄话 CBA7 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (1 reads) 09/20/2023 07:39:00
? How about this one: Love is our business, but not business. - CBA7 - 给 CBA7 发送悄悄话 CBA7 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (3 reads) 09/20/2023 07:39:35 (1)
? Clever! you draw the boundary! - TJKCB - 给 TJKCB 发送悄悄话 TJKCB 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 09:24:59
? 非常好！大赞！：）） - 盈盈一笑间 - 给 盈盈一笑间 发送悄悄话 盈盈一笑间 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 10:28:31
? Thanks for sharing - 方外居士 - 给 方外居士 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) (3 reads) 09/19/2023 21:32:19 (2)
? thanks for your feedback - TJKCB - 给 TJKCB 发送悄悄话 TJKCB 的博客首页 (0 bytes) (0 reads) 09/20/2023 09:26:19