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书名：The Nice Girl Syndrome:
Stop Being Manipulated and Abused and Start Standing Up for Yourself
作者：Beverly Engel
简介：How women can overcome the pressure to please and feel free to be their true selves Women who are too nice send the message that they are an easy target to be taken advantage of. Being too nice also prevents women from standing up for themselves and keeps them in unhealthy or even abusive relationships. In this groundbreaking book, Engel, an internationally acclaimed abuse expert, helps women confront the beliefs and behaviors that keep them stuck in their Nice Girl act while replacing them with healthier, more empowering ones. Filled with the stories of women Engel has worked with over the years, this helpful guide offers practical, much-needed advice.
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http://www.amazon.com/Nice-Girl-Syndrome-Manipulated-Standing/dp/0470179384
AMAZON的读者评论选登：
1. This is one of the best books about developing assertiveness in women that I have EVER read. I would heartily recommend this to everyone. Men also will benefit from reading this book as it will empower them to help women who want to change the self-defeatist patterns that being a Nice Girl can only bring. Men will also recognize changes and hopefully be ready to support new, assertive behaviors.
Engel does an excellent job of defining "The Nice Girl," the woman who has developed self-defeast behavior patterns of going along with others at the expense of her voice, her identity and her self. Each chapter itemizes the behaviors; provides excellent examples of clients who have fallen into these traps and tools of empowerment to recognize and break out of them.
The payoff is great - not only does a person's self esteem rise with assertiveness, they gain greater respect from others. Absolutely NOBODY can respect a sycophant and this book provides helpful tools to dodge the Sycophantic False Agreement Syndrome.
Just reading this book is an uplifting experience. Readers will want to reclaim their voices ("John here, speaking with his voice! -- John Lennon, 1963) and their dignity. Helen Reddy's 1973 song, "I Am Woman, Hear Me Roar!" could be the soundtrack of this book.
This book is not only a Tool of Empowerment; it is the key to a whole lifestyle change.
2. Just cannot but this book down! I am way too nice and have had a host of people take advantage of me, and this book is giving me the knowledge to understand why and how, and the strength to make a change. I am now getting a handle on all the emotionally abusive relationships I hold on to, and hopefully with the help of this author, I can work more on putting my own needs and feelings first. This book is highly recommended for the young woman who struggles interpersonally and needs key principles to keeping herself safe and sane.
3. A must read for every woman over the age of 18
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