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回答女儿一些敏感的问题

(2009-08-18 15:20:55) 下一个
I raised my daughter alone in Canada.

One day my daughter asked me,"Mom, why don't you have a boyfriend? You will be too lonely". I replied,"listen, young lady. It is none of your business. If I decide to divorce your daddy and I have a new boyfriend, you have to treat him nicely. Right now, I decide to keep a good relationship with your daddy, do not push me to have a boyfriend."

After a few months, my daughter told me,"Mom, my daddy did treat me well. Could you stay with him forever. I just want my daddy." I replied,"listen. Your daddy and mommy are always your parents and we love you dearly. Even our relationship ends up with a termination, our love to you won't be a little less than before. Your parents are adults, and you should respect our decisions, no matter what. But if you are a good kid, you will draw your parents closer."

My dauther accompanied me in the yearly checkup. She watched and spoke out,"Mommy, how can you let a man touch your body?" I said," my dear, you are right. I should not let a man other than your daddy touch me. But he is a doctor, and he is checking me. See, he is wearing gloves. "

Our children do expose to sensitive areas. What I did was trying to rationalize the choices and relative responsibilities. I hope I did good job. By the way, my daughter is five.
  
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