春江水
水，是最柔软的物质，也是最坚硬的物质。滴水穿石，以柔克钢。水，善利万物而不争。
有关MATERIALISM 和SHALLOWNESS
我与女儿SHARE THIS TOPIC，这是她写的。
There is a difference between materialism and shallowness. Materialism in itself does not imply superficiality, but is merely a result of habit or lifestyle preferences. In our world of high-end consumerism, it is difficult not to covet brand names or material goods/comforts to a certain degree. If it becomes more than just a preoccupation, however, that could suggest an over-reliance on "stuff" to justify the value of one's life, when in fact, there is no such correlation.
Shallowness, on the other hand, can be said to imply selfishness and ignorance. It is the warped view of something from a one-dimensional standpoint, and is an issue of the treatment/perception of things that distorts/amplifies the object's surface gratifications and decries its true worth, OR overlooks the significance of other aspects of life/the world/etc. It is also an issue of misplaced values; the intense desire to project a life that is built on material objects for the purpose of justifying an otherwise hollow and empty life, or believing that the acquisition of "stuff" denotes a fulfilling and satisfying existence is not only shallow, but pathetic, and translates into a harsh inability to see beyond one's own selfish greed for transient things.
The combination of materialism and shallowness is lethal, as it demonstrates a rejection of any number of things, including spiritual, intellectual, and cultural values. In the event that one sees an object as the purveyor of his/her life, it’s easy to become blinded to all else. It also represents a frame of reference that is lacking in depth of compassion, emotion, and knowledge. Think about it, even a person of enormous wealth can be materialistic, purchasing a lot of "things" throughout his/her life. But in considering them as merely "things" and finding no intrinsic value in them, having no second thought about them, and certainly not revolving their life around them, this person still eludes the label of shallow because he/she strives to be reputed for other things, other actions. To put it simply, material possessions are not a measure of the value of one's life/achievement/goals.
If you want people to love you simply because you're rich, and you count on "things" to earn others' admiration, respect, and perhaps envy, then you're values are grossly misplaced. Shallowness can poison the way we view and deal with life, but more importantly, it is very obvious to others and is easily picked up by children. Garrulously touting one's wealth or possessions can only be judged as a sign of imbalance, confusion, and insecurity, a clear indicator that a person finds no other value in his/her own life besides the "things" they own.
我女儿21岁，是在COLLEGE。你女儿只有8年级，对问题就很有见解。
Later I asked her about shallowness. she said shallow is people only pay attention on their looks and surface. I asked why, she said when everybody does so, you are hard to get excluded.
后来，我想，有时候浅薄是因为缺乏自我认识和内在的安全感。他们并不知道自己真想要什么，干什么，也不明白自己真的在乎什么事或什么人，只是随大流，人云亦云。所以，没有追求，没有爱好，没有思想的人最容易成为浅薄的人。