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March 6, 2008 Birmingham to Atlanta to Ontario
Just spent four days in Birmingham Alabama, fine-tuning my presentation skills, and what a trip this has been! I am sitting here in my delayed red-eyed flight from Atlanta to Ontario, reminiscing those wonderful days that I spent with my colleagues, those almost sleepless nights preparing our business presentations, the distinctive food, the new exciting projects going on in the midst of recession, those wonderful personal stories from everyone. But, the most fascinating experience that I have had from this trip actually was not in Birmingham, it was on the way to and from Birmingham, when I was reading a small red cover book, the Go-Giver (By Bob Burg and John David Mann 2007).
(Picture is from Amazon)
This 132 pages small book has given me much pleasant surprise; it was so captivating that I could not put it down. A real delightful read indeed! I highly recommend it.
I have read quite a number of books and I thought I have seen enough motivation and inspiration books that I must have developed some sort of immune system that not many books would be able to give me this tinkling feeling, or evoke resonance in my heart. This book did! Several other books that gave me similar feelings are: Martin Eden by Jack London, the Goal by Eliyahu M. Goldratt and The Go-Getter by Peter B. Kyne, and perhaps the story part of the Best Salesman in the World.
Giving, what a noble but seemingly remote concept, we all thought that it perhaps is only for those who have been there and done that to give, rich and famous people such as Bill Gates, Warren Buffet, Jimmy Carter and Bill Clinton. Who am I here to start talking about giving when I really have nothing to offer? Through great story telling, this book presents its readers vivid examples of the five principles of success. This book teaches me that everyone has the power to give, the best gift is to give yourself; everyone has the power to open to receiving. Giving and Receiving, is part of the life cycle; only with both, our world would become a complete universe.
The book provokes very personal thoughts. I thought about the two alumni who are rich and famous but still tirelessly devote their energy and resources to our new association; I also thought about some actions from some not-so-rich-&-famous people in the process, including my own devotion. Perhaps that was the beauty of it, through giving, we are burden free to ask help from anyone who might be able to help, with confidence. It is Giving that sets us free!
The authors of this book have skillfully blended those success principles into a short story. Although it was somewhat theatrical at the end for the story purpose, it presents a clean path to reach that enviable result. It certainly has touched the deepest part of my heart.
I love it when something moves, touches and enlightens me, whether it is a smile from a stranger especial from a beautiful girl, some great books that just create resonance in my mind and heart, some interesting people that radian personal glory and lighten up my path forward, a random kindness, a smallest gesture—it makes me feel that life is such a beautiful experience, I just yearn to have more with an open heart!
I have seen some of the principles bits by bits in some other books, never has any other author been able to put them together so eloquently, so poignantly and so easy to understand! What a concept—the best gift to anyone is to offer yourself, giving is a reciprocal cycle, you have to open to receive in order to effectively give, your true value is what you provide on top of what you take in as payment, your income depends on how many people you serve and the power of influence depends on how abundantly you place other’s interest first…
Comparing another little book that I recommended two years ago, when I tried to encourage my New York colleagues to persevere the birth pain of Eastern Branch of Alumni Association, The Go-Getter provided somewhat more technical and short term solutions. It has plenty inspirational thoughts and acts that evoke the Can-Do spirit, but it falls into the category of ME and I, it never leaves the small circle that bound most of us the entire life.
If you have not read those two books, you might want to consider reading The Go-Getter first, then The Go-Giver. As long as your heart stays open to receive, you will be delightful to find out what a gift this is from the authors, through my humble hands.
If you don't have time to read, just take those principles with you. If you could only remember one thing, then you should pick one that creates resonance in your heart and mind. For me, realizing that giving and receiving is part of the life cycle, once you create a circle of friends that you genuinely hope they would succeed in life and do whatever you can to help them, the reciprocity process will propel you to a higher ground, and you have to open yourself to receive, to complete the cycle.
The Five Laws of Stratospheric Success:
1. The law of value: Your true worth is determined by how much more you give in value than you take in payment
2. The law of compensation: Your income is determined by how many people you serve and how well you serve them.
3. The law of influence: your influence is determined by how abundantly you place other people’s interests first.
4. The law of authenticity: the most valuable gift you have to offer is yourself
5. The law of receptivity: the key to effectively giving is to stay open to receiving.
世界上的绝大多数人都是像从小在穷山僻壤里，艰苦环境中长大的苦孩子，我们过去的成长经验给我们养成了一个难以改变的习惯，“任何东西如果我不抢着拿，我就永远没有机会了”，所以才有斤斤计较，锱铢必争的文化习惯，才产生了平均主义这个退而居其次的解决办法。 我们一生会有很多人掘弃自己的这个如生俱来的根基而让自己的生命开出与父辈不同的花朵，但是也有很多人没有这个机会去发现自己生命的丰盛，发现这个宇宙的无尽资源，去发现自己也可以是他人和世界的丰盛之源。。。
我们来自同一块土地（不光指是地域上的），但是心里上的贫穷不应该永远如影随形地跟着我们，把自己提升一点，那个影子也就会永远消失了--而给予，我的朋友，就是提升自己的一个有效途径。
白云间，妳最近跑哪里去了，昨天晚上刚刚浏览以前一起抬杠的事情，觉得蛮有意思的。。。 Happy Easter to you too.
这就是精髓了--给予和接受是一个相辅相成的关系。我们接受的同时也就是提供给他人给予的机会--这个在低层次的思考会觉得好笑，但是如果看到那些成功的人的运作就会明白这个道理了。
This book teaches me that everyone has the power to give, the best gift is to give yourself; everyone has the power to open to receiving. Giving and Receiving, is part of the life cycle; only with both, our world would become a complete universe.
以前好多书都说给予是最幸福的事情，但是那只是宇宙基本定律的一个方面，没有拿取的给予是没有源头的活水，也许这也是富贵之人才能够 坚持下来的原因吧？