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我在耶和华的手中要作华冠，在我父神的手中必作为冕旒
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(2022-04-09 20:36:40)
Listeningisacombinationofhearingwhatanotherpersonsaysandinvolvementwiththepersonwhoistalking.Listeningskillsincludethreeskillclusters: attendingskills:seemypreviousblog followingskills:thisblog reflectingskills:nextblogTheskillsofusingdooropeners,minimalencourages,openquestions,andattentivesilenceenablethelistenertokeepthefocusonthespearker'scommnuncation.Inyesterday'sblog,wetalkabouthowto...[阅读全文]
(2022-04-08 20:56:53)
Dooropenersexamples: Lookslikethingsdidn'tgowellforyoutoday.I'vegottimeifyou'dliketotalk. Somethingunpleasanthappentoyou?Wanttotalkaboutit? Youdon'tseemyourselfthesepastfewdays.Youseemburdenedbysomething.Caretotalkaboutit?Fourelementsofdooropeners: adescriptionoftheotherpersonsbodylanguage-"youlooklikeyouarenotfeelinguptopar." aninvitationtotalkortocontinuetalking-"p...[阅读全文]
(2022-04-07 19:55:30)
Myunhappymindwasabattlefieldofconflicteddemons.AsImademydecisiontospendtendaysaloneandinsilenceinthemiddleofexactlynowhere,Itoldallmywarringandconfusedpartsthesamething:“We’reallheretogethernow,guys,allalone.Andwe’regoingtohavetoworkoutsomekindofdealforhowtogetalong,orelseeverybodyisgoingtodietogether,soonerorlater.”Ihadn’tevenbroughtanybookstoread,nothingtodistractme...[阅读全文]
(2022-04-07 19:08:46)
OnesunnydayIwaslamentingmymiserablelifeonthesofawithacupofteainmyhand.Myhusbandstartedtoeducateme."youshouldbegrateful.youforgothowhappyyouwerewhenyoureceivedthejoboffer.youearnedmorethanthescientistinourcompany.hehastwoPhD......"Myangerroaredinsideofme.Istartedtoyellathim:"begratefulforwhat?doyouknoweveryclientofmineearn1000timesmorethanwecombinedtogether?whycan'tyouearnmore?wh...[阅读全文]
(2022-04-06 17:49:57)
Lifeisboileddowntooneword-relationship.Thequalityoflifedependsonthequalityofrelationship. relationshipwithyourownbody,mindandheart relationshipwithfamilyandfriends relationshipwithcoworkersandclients relationshipwithworkandhobby relationshipwithmoneyandpossessions relationshipwithGodanduniversallaws relationshipwithyourenvironmentandtheuniverseThemomentyouhaveyourideaof"want"and"don...[阅读全文]
(2022-03-30 18:44:55)
Destiny,Ifeel,isalsoarelationship—aplaybetweendivinegraceandwillfulself-effort.Halfofityouhavenocontrolover;halfofitisabsolutelyinyourhands,andyouractionswillshowmeasurableconsequence.Manisneitherentirelyapuppetofthegods,norisheentirelythecaptainofhisowndestiny;he’salittleofboth.Thefurnaceatmyhomedoesnotworkforalmostamonth.Ididnotfeelitwhentheweatherwaswarm.IdidnotrealizeitwhenIfeltfro...[阅读全文]
(2022-03-22 19:44:25)
"MyfriendslistentowhatIsay,butmyparentsonlyhearmetalk"Perhapswehavehadasimilarexperienceandknowhowfrustratingitcanbetobeheardaccuratelybysomeonewhoisn'tlisteningwithunderstanding.Effectivelisteningisthecombinationofhearingwhattheotherpersonsaysandasuspensefulwaiting,anintensepsychologicalinvolvementwiththeother.Attendingskills:attendingisnonverbalcommunicationthatindicatesthatyouarep...[阅读全文]
(2022-03-21 19:29:43)
Abarriertocommunicationissomethingthatkeepsmeaningsfrommeeting.Withoutrealizingit,weinjectcommunicationbarriersintoourconversations.Communicationbarriersarehigh-riskresponses-mostlikelytobedestructive: diminishtheother'sself-esteerm triggerdefensiveness,resistanceandresentment leadtodependency,withdrawl feelingsofdefeatorofinadequacyEachbarrierisaroadblock,afeeling-blocker.Itreducesthelikeliho...[阅读全文]
(2022-03-20 19:14:05)
"Man'ssupremeachievementintheworldiscommunicationfrompersonalitytopersonality.'Inoursocietyitisrareforpersonstosharewhatreallymatters-thetender,shy,reluctantfeelings,thesensitive,fragile,intensedisclosurues.Itisequallyrareforpersonstolistenintentlyenoughtoreallyunderstandwhatanotherissaying.Ineffectivecommnicationcausesloneliness,familyproblems,vocationalincompetenceanddissatisfaction...[阅读全文]
(2022-03-18 19:26:03)
Liferequiresthecapacitytounderstandproblemsandtoresolvethem.Thisisusuallyarationalcapacitythatincludesknowledge,analyticalpowerandclarityofthinking.Thehigheststageoftheself-transformationprocessisegolessness,butstructurebuildingisstrengtheningoftheego.Thestrengtheningofthepersonalityisastagethatwemustgothroughpriortotranscendence.Weaknessoftheegoleadstoregressionintothefragmentedstateinsteadoftran...[阅读全文]
