2006-08-12 reply 雨打梧桐

Laziness is not that terrible. I don't think it is a critical matter in marriage. Men and women share different responsibilities at home. If a woman is in charge of cooking, her man may do landuary. There are two relationships in the world. One is blood-bond relationship such as parents and kids, siblings. The other is partner relationship, which is connected by emotion and feeling, including friendship. Marriage is one of the partnerships too although it is a kind of special. The specialization lies in spouse have a formal agreement in this relationship.People bond by this contract need to love each other, care each other, live together, share responsibilities. Women tend to set higher and higher standards and more and more expectations. Men tend to be lazy and ignore his wife and his resposibilities after he got married. That is what ordinary family is supposed to be like. When passionate is gone, tasteless life is the only thing left. Maybe a husband really needs to be trained. However, training is two-way streets. While you are training him, you are trained too at the same time. At least your husband has a sense of humor, which is not a common characteristic to every man.