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同理心的力量：非暴力沟通的奥秘 - 第一章
感想一： 希望自己成为长颈鹿，不会为攻击、批评和指责所伤，而是从他人的语言背后读懂他人真正的想法。
所谓听话听音，要听懂背后的含义。这一点一直是我的弱项，我一般是直来直去，因为自己不隐瞒自己的真正想法，所以认为大家都这样。后来我发现对别人说的话，不要立即做出反应，要想一下再说。但是这样就会养成思维反刍的毛病。
这本书后面可能还要讲方法，希望能学到更多方法。
感想二：要处理好与自己的关系，学会爱自己。
先照顾好自己的身体健康和精神健康，不要一切以孩子为重。落实到具体实施就是不要饿着肚子给孩子做饭，感觉累了就去休息，不要硬撑。自己都垮了还怎么能帮助孩子，哪里还有力量。
感想三： 凡是想直接改变别人的行为的，基本都不会成功，还会造成内伤。
当我们不喜欢别人的行为时，我们要努力去看到他行为背后的美好的人性，只有这样，我们才能试图理解对方，由指责转换成倾听和理解对方的需要。然后我们再跟他一起寻找满足他需要的其他方法。
感想四： 在实践非暴力沟通的时候，要从根部做起，先同理自己，做到自我倾听，自我链接和自己关爱。穿越情绪，看到自己内心的需要。
不要把注意力放在指责他人和自己上，而是采取行动满足自己的需要。
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
“We are not here to fix, change or belittle another person. We are here to support, forgive and heal one another.”
“It takes courage…to endure the sharp pains of self discovery rather than choose to take the dull pain of unconsciousness that would last the rest of our lives.”
- A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson
