The secret of how to get through hard times

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The secret of how to get through hard times.

We are not always in good times in our life. If we are in hard times, what shall we do? In this article , I will give you my three opinions about this and one secret of how to get through hard times. And I do not want to take famous people for examples to tell you how they get over their hard times, I just want to share my thought with you as a friend.

First, Having a hard time is a very very common thing .

In China, there is an old saying: In our life, eight or nine of ten things are sad ones, only one or two of them are happy ones. This is a sad fact, nobody likes it and nobody wants to have a hard time life. However, it is not up to us, what we only can do is face it, no matter it is good or bad.

Second, enjoy hard times just like enjoy good times.

You may be surprise :" what?! Enjoy hard times?!!" Yes, enjoy hard times. I will explain what "enjoy hard times" is in this part.

Our emotions like water flow in river, up and down, up and down again...What we can do is do not against the nature flow, just enjoy it.

I will talk with you about one story happened to me, to show how I enjoy bad time when I was in a hard time.

Nine years ago, in 2008, I had my first hard time: I knew my mom got cancer , I was very depress suddenly . I had no mood to study, to talk with friends, or to do anything else. I was just upset. I did not against the low mood, Instead of that, I accepted it even though it was painful. How I enjoy it? I was upset by losing people who loves me and I love her, I did not know what the meaning of life is ? I was lost , so I stayed in the low mood and tried to figure out the sad topic: what was the real meaning of our life ? I read a lot of books about this. And slowly the clear answer to the question came in my mind. Eventually, I found the answer and I also felt better and better with time went by. That is how I enjoy a hard time when I was in a hard time.

That's right, "enjoy hard times" means we should solve the problems which come up during the hard time.

Maybe God give us problems when we are in a hard time, the problems we only can solve during the low mood period. When we solve them, that is "enjoy hard time", also we can learn things from solving these problems.

Therefore, Please enjoy hard times if you have them.

Third, every body has the ability to get over hard times.

I will take my dad as an example. My dad is one of thousands of thousands of farmers in China . He has four children, He works very hard for our life. One story about him really touches me all the time. When I was in high school. In order to earn more money to support my study, my dad wanted to feed some pigs . However, at that moment, he did not have extra money to invest the pigs or things like that. But he still do that! How to ???

He talk with people who have baby pigs. asking them whether or not he can have baby pigs before he pay them and he promised them he would pay them in four month. And he did the same thing to the people who have pigs' food. luckily, my dad had twenty pigs and pigs's food before he pay them. He and my mom were very busy with feeding pigs every day after that. they need clean pig pens and fed them three times a day. Day after day, three and half months went by, every pig was 250-300 pounds , which means it is ready to sell them!!! my dad said he would contact pig traders soon, however, our pigs got flue, every morning my dad would find more pigs dead, they all died in two or three days. My dad just stayed at the empty pig pens, smoking with extremely silence .

I lived in high school and I was not at home at that moment, I did not know this until I called my mom in some day after one week. My mom told me my dad did nothing every day except staying at the empty pig pens and smoking. After I heard this , my tears filled in my eyes immediately . I understood my dad: He can not bear that he would lose his face because of his failure, and plus, he also owed people a lot of money!

I can not calm down for a while after call, and the picture of my day's staying at the empty pig pens is printed in my mind forever.

My dad was upset for a very long time , my mom did not blame him about this . After half year, my mom told me we had another twenty pigs , I can not believe that, how dare my dad do that again!!! I just thought if I was him, I would be not brave to get over it and restart it again!!

My dad's story moved me all the time. And his story makes me believe that no matter who we are, no matter what our situation is, if we have a hard time, trust me, we will get over it!

Even though every body can deal with and get over hard times, the best way to get through it is the following secret.

So, what is the secret to get over it?

Even though we know having hard times is a common thing, and we also know we should face it, or enjoy it. However, easily said than done. It is really not easy to do it.

Here is one secret to help you deal with hard times. The secret is LOVE.

LOVE will make us much more brave, much more strong to get through it.

First, we need love ourselves. we have not finished our life yet, trust me, we will one day. We want to realize our value. We have a lot of dreams to do, we should not be beatted by the hard time, we should try to enjoy it and learn things from it.

Second, we want to do things for the people we love, we have not done that for them yet, we need to get over the hard times.

Last, the people who love us will stand by us and support us.

All of LOVE from ourselves and the people around us will make us really brave and strong .

LOVE will make us get over the shit of hard times!

That is the secret I want to share with you today.

Ok, that is all, these are my opinions about hard times and the secret of how to get through it. Thanks for reading.

100% Happy Life is Growing with Love and Dream

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Your dad's story is very touched and impressive. God bless you.