Riverbrook
随意漫步，即兴而言
Mother’s Day is one of the most unique, special and meaningful holidays in my mind; it is a dedicating holiday which greets, honors and celebrates about mothers --- whom give lives, care, protections, encouragements and supports; whom thrive for the best selflessly and love unconditionally; whom play core functions in conglomerating and uniting of family members from being any possible deviations may cause by various kinds of changes, temptations and other challenges.
For this Mother’s Day, like previous years, I already sent my mother greetings, wishes and appreciations three weeks ago, via a small yet beautiful Mother's Day card, sealed with my love and misses to the thousands of miles away where my dear mother (and father) currently is. The card was signed and predated as it was written on this Mother's Day, May 12, 2013. For my sister-in-law, who is more like a bloody-close sister to me and almost always gifts me first for various kinds of holidays and other occasions, I already presented her a gift I think is beautiful and fit early this week. For a couple of friends who are nearby, I have gotten a small gift for each of them as a little token of my congratulations as they are mothers. For mothers who are my in-laws, other relatives, friends, colleagues and neighbors, I am going to either call, email, think of them on this upcoming Mother’s Day as what I did on other Mother's Days.
Unlike previous years, this Mother's Day, however, two mothers in my related families are passed away recently. One is my in-law's mother who was a great teacher taught in China before. She left for Heaven on her 90-year-old birthday. Another is my cousin's mother on my Mom's side who was just gone two weeks ago at her age of 82. She was a very intelligent, beautiful and stylish lady. Both of them were very loving and caring moms. Their children and families, on the other hand, respect and love their mothers very much. Both of the mothers suffered from Alzheimer's disease in their later years. My cousin’s mother was also a diabetic. They both eventually did not recognize their children, grandchildren and families at all. Yet, their children, grandchildren and families had given the best attentions, care and immeasurable love to their mothers --- day after day, week after week, and year after year for quite a long period of time. These two mothers’ pass-away not only have been the great loss to my in-law, cousin and their families (they are not related), it has also affected me very much, too... While I have mourned for the two mothers and shared grieves with their families, I have tried to remind myself to and emphasize in celebrating more of the two mothers’ lives.
On this Mother's Day, I would like to send my greetings, honors and celebrations to all mothers, which including mother’s of myself and yourself, mothers of mothers, mothers of fathers, mothers whom selves (including you and me), mothers of relatives, mothers of friends, mothers of colleagues, mothers of neighbors, mothers whom are living and loving on this earth, and, mothers whom are blessing and watching over their children from Heaven now.
Hi, Dear JiuYue (and MelLan), I'll be back in later night on Sunday and start my busy two weeks of work right after. So, I do ask for your patience for my new postings. Hehe.
Hugssss :-)
Yi, you have a great vacation trip!~~~
Meilan and I will be waiting here patiently, for your next post!!!~~~ Hugs, miss you!!!~~~
Dear Yi & Jiuyue，
I enjoy that friendship song very much, too. It was actually posted in one of my blogs a few years back. Would like to share with you my friendship article---
http://blog.wenxuecity.com/myblog/50355/201006/2732.html
haha, we are different yet similar in a lot ways. That is what makes us interesting!
Group hug~~
A recent lunchtime walk-'n-chat between me and my colleague is kind of confirmed an "answer" to my used-to-be my thinking-contradiction between "good or bad to 放弃” question. That is, what kind of support she/he may receive could be a very important condition to whether to give up a baby kid or not challenge. (Of cause, family is still just one important element.)
Thanks for the friendship song. It was nice.
BTW, I love the new song you posted on your article. Is it Vargo's? I'm so glad that you have shared this type of high-classed music and video with your audience including me...and all are for free of charge... Hehe. *_*
Here is a song I like very much,share with both of you! Have a wonderful weekend!~~~ Hug!!~~~
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7X7d7Ul6PmI
九月， I am deeply touched by your comments and finally understand why you were so emotional about Amanda's choice to give up her son. We are all humans with feelings (Some may have more than others because of genetics, like you, Yi and I:)).
I agree with you, nothing can replace our own mother's love in this world. Missing it causes great pain and sadness through life, yet under one condition---if the mother is mature and capable of providing adequate care and love.
Fortunately, I grew up with my parents, loved my mom and still miss her a lot(she is in heaven now), but because they were young and stressed out with life(culture revolution）, as a child, I was sort of being neglected and went through some really traumatizing events. My mom was an orphan herself and never enjoyed having children, she told me she wanted to abort my baby sister when she found out she was pregnant......I believe unless a woman has fully prepared to love her children, she should not give birth, or raise the child.
九月，you are right，we can not relive our life, adversity makes a person wiser and appreciate more. Like you, I also try hard to be a good mom and will keep trying, hope my sons will grow up with mostly happy memories:))
Love to have you and Yi as my friends. Take care!
Hi JiuYue, I agree with you very much about "my little boy taught me how to be a mother by myself, how to love as a mother, and how to be loved as a mother" comment.
Regarding whether "有时，放弃也是一种爱", I am still circling in my thinking-contradiction. For that young girl Meilan wrote about, I'd lean toward 放弃 direction more, although the pain of having no child or no mother would always be there with them forever.
From our surrounding, we see many 放弃 in different aspects.I guess each one has his/her own measurement about what is worth or not in their 放弃.
You see now - I am still circling (conflicting) is this topic. Hehe.
Have a great evening!
Yes, both of my in-law and cousin do. I glad they like what I wrote about. For me, it came out so naturally and heartfelt.
Thanks for you人 praise! We (you, JiuYue, me, and ...) all have this "thing" called "love", which makes us become "rich" and leads us to find 共鸣 and enjoy each other, too. :)
Hope you had a grate communication with both your Mom and sister on the Mother's Day.
Best.
Meilan,do you still remember my comments in one of your post --- ＂有时，放弃也是一种爱＂------ 而这样的放弃，痛，会是永远不可弥补的，母亲有一天会长大会成熟或许会成功，可是她的生命永远都不会完满。。。孩子有一天会长大会快乐或许会富裕，可是他的生命里永远都有一份缺憾。。。--- I believe nobody, nobody, can tell that kind of feeling except the person who went through the real experience in his/her life ...I wish this time I'm giving you a better answer for my "reasoning"~~~
Yi, thanks for this post, I love it very much, you brought tears to my eyes... I'll go have a good night sleep now~~~
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What a true and inspiring statement! I am sure both of them and their families appreciate your mindfulness.
Love the way you care about people in your life! It touches me and inspires me. Although my mom is in heaven now, I will talk to her in my prayer tonight and call my sister over the phone~~~
My friend, wish you a happy mother's day and blessed week!