jgey2008-12-27 02:03:12回复悄悄话
thank you for your guys :)
clee2008-12-20 19:52:27回复悄悄话
You need to keep on saying that you are going to get out of this, that you CAN, and will. Believe you will. Imagine the kind of life you want, and know you will have that. Make small goals, that you can do now. go outside more, even if only for a few minutes in the morning. Try doing a positive thing for yourself (start exercising, stop drinking, eating better etc), to make you realize you're worth living, that you are worth something. See a therapist, you need to talk this out, and have someone to help you see clearly (depression breeds distortion). Also, to help you pick men better.
If you meet another man you feel absolutely crazy/lustful about, you can probably trust that he's not a good man for you. Find men who are healthy, and can accept intimacy/commitment, and who will nurture you, physically, verbally, emotionally, etc.
Think about a life where you have new people - friends who care about you, a non-abusive lover, a contented life doing the things you want to do. Good luck. !!
If you meet another man you feel absolutely crazy/lustful about, you can probably trust that he's not a good man for you. Find men who are healthy, and can accept intimacy/commitment, and who will nurture you, physically, verbally, emotionally, etc.
Think about a life where you have new people - friends who care about you, a non-abusive lover, a contented life doing the things you want to do. Good luck. !!