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3/18 星期日

(2007-03-18 05:35:01) 下一个
这个冬天突然变得很漫长, 已经是3月中旬, 仍旧冷, 我的耐心已耗尽, 无可奈何的郁闷. 上一周只有一天准时到公司, 基本都是下午到, 很晚走, 我决定把装病进行到底. LEADER问我是不是身体不舒服, 我说是的, 我很郁闷, 需要每天看医生, 抑郁症是最好的借口, 我可以活蹦乱跳的同时病入膏肓. 其实, 我觉得自己真正的问题是A.D.D.,  Attention Deficit Disorder, 这个正好解释了为什么我不能集中考虑比较认真的问题超过5分钟, 且不喜欢COMMIT, 因为A.D.D.!!!

我和UNCLE GEORGE又发生争执. 他对我和MARIO的关系觉得困惑, 认为我们要么totally physical relationship like f buddies, or into a real relationship, 我觉得存在即是合理. Mario said he can cook really good italian food, and can make cheesecakes, WOW, that is quite something, especially for a cheesecake lover like me. Then George thought I should push a little more on this, try to join Mario's life cycle...I was like, "WHY???" Well, I would rather to set him free, if its love, he comes back to me, if its not, then why the hell I want it? Anyway, that is not the main point I argued with George, I said something really harsh to him, its cos the day before he told me how great to be in a marriage for women, how happy his wife with the marriage...blah blah... then the very next day, he just slept with somebody else, thats called cheating! I was like "what the fuck you doing? you told me all bullshit abt marriage, now look at you, you are such an asshole to cheat on ur wife!" George said, "say that when u are in a marriage!" Thats really ridiculous, cos he in a marriage, that means he can cheat??? If you cant keep the commitment, then dont get married! Well, anyway, its none of my business, I just feel bad for his wife, maybe like what George said, --dumb is a gift.

周五晚上, 本来打算加班, DAVID说一起喝杯咖啡, 他接下来有约, 我正好回来继续加班. 结果, 我们的一杯咖啡喝了3个多小时, 我的加班计划彻底泡汤. 当然不只是咖啡, 我们一起吃了晚饭, ROTI的HAMBURGER, almost the best hamburger in Tokyo, I have been to ROTI a couple times, but never tried the swordfish hamburger, David said its really good, well, he is totally right. I dont know why, recently I am kinda addicted to hamburgers. We had hamburgers and wine, then went to TGI Friday, just cos Friday's drinks had cherry with stem, we wanna give a try to that tongue magic so much, and it turned out that we both failed, I think the stems are not long enough, that is why, LOL. We stayed together for the whole Saturday, watched a couple of movies, and Russell Peters video, which is hilarious. Late afternoon lunch, and talk, its very relaxing to talk with David, we probably could talk about everything, no taboo at all, that is so cool. 我觉得我和DAVID讲的话大概比我和MARIO过去6个月讲的话的总和还要多, I even know that David has an aunt who loves casino. It seems this kinda talking thing becomes therapy for both of us, relieving us from all stress from wherever or whoever.

我和DAVID是同一类人, curious, open to try anything, most time confused, laid back, wanna become idealist but lack of courage, lack of discipline, not organized at all, love good food, drinks, clubs, and city life. 很多时候, 我都觉得我们两个好象两只性格相近的流浪猫, 突然相遇, 然后惺惺相惜, 超越男女之情, 很奇妙的感觉. We almost have the same types of problems in life, maybe in different scales, but I totally understand his situation, so does he, its amazing. Think about Mario, I like him maybe because he has something I dont have, well, I didnt mean his dick, apparently I dont have that, I mean his life style, his being disciplined and organized, he can get up at 6am to work everyday, WOW, that just sounds so cool to me. If a company wants me to get up at 6am everyday, they better pay really good. Anyway, Mario is in military, military life is all about discipline. I am confused again, not very sure what I really like about Mario, or its just purchasing something that I didnt get yet? Tough question...then leave it alone, that is what ADD people do.

I gonna be more disciplined next week, or before I find the next job, this company might have fired me, that sucks.

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what_if 回复 悄悄话 en, 其实marrage不过是人定的游戏法则, 在一定程度上维护社会稳定21, 至于对婚姻不忠, 如果当事人心里明白, 你情我愿, 又不防碍他人, 用不着上升到种族灭绝的高度吧

至于大叔道貌岸然, 言行不一, that's a different story le
G.C. 回复 悄悄话 Hehe, besides, being judgmental about others makes you feel good about yourself, as if you are a real saint:) Shhh, it's a secret.
jgey 回复 悄悄话 随便...
G.C. 回复 悄悄话 Haha, 世上多一些你这样的人就没有黑白是非了. 有些事情的确没有多错,就像我们用筷子,老外用叉子一样。但是有些事情则不能让步,如果对自己的老婆不忠都可以用“不同的人生观”等等借口来解释,那么我们离“二战屠杀犹太人是正确的”的日子也不远了(当然,我还是维护发表这种言论的权利的)。
jgey 回复 悄悄话 I may not agree with someone, but it doesnt mean that someone is wrong, everyone can have their own opinions, as long as they dont judge those different opinions are right or wrong...

its meaningless to argue with judgemental people, cos they could never accept different opinions, that is why they are called judgemental.
G.C. 回复 悄悄话 "我最最讨厌JUDGEMENTAL的人...比CHEATER还甚"

你这难道就不judgmental了吗?! 其实每人每刻都在用自己的观念来评价世界,只是有的比较vocal一些罢了。
jgey 回复 悄悄话 你动不动笔,关我什么事?

我觉得你这人非常的JUDGEMENTAL,喜欢以你自己的标准来判断别人的感觉,他们对他们的婚姻怎么看,是他们自己的事情,和局外人没关系.

我对GEORGE生气,是因为他一直PUSH我结婚,同时又show me the ugly part every marriage could have, kinda ridiculous.

我最最讨厌JUDGEMENTAL的人...比CHEATER还甚.
G.C. 回复 悄悄话 "我觉得他们的婚姻很大可能性会持久"

I guess, if you can still call it a "marriage". 一个为了饭票,一个为了面子(?), sigh. 结婚后难道就真得那么痛苦乏味无聊吗?

再者,存在并非合理,这种高中议论文的话题就不需我再动笔了吧。

jgey 回复 悄悄话 GEORGE是不是伪君子和我的感情生活有什么关系??? 虽然是周一早上,还是拜托你有点逻辑性.

他说"dumb is a gift",并不是针对他太太的,而是别的谈话.我觉得他太太知道他和别的女人上床,但是她绝对不想离婚.客观而论,除了CHEATING外,GEORGE确实是个不错的丈夫,给他太太提供一切她所需要的舒适生活,记得在所有纪念日买价值不菲的礼物,表现得得体...

每个人对婚姻的要求不同,我觉得他们的婚姻很大可能性会持久,因为双方都在一定程度上满意,处于一种平衡状态.

当然,我觉得我是不会接受这样的婚姻的,但他太太可以,存在即是合理,so what?
G.C. 回复 悄悄话 怪不得你的感情生活比较困惑,原来你的advice都是从George这样的伪君子那里得来的。什么如果你还没有结婚就不懂得cheating的理由,纯粹为自己的卑鄙行为找借口。 没吃过猪还没看过猪跑吗?我没当过爸爸但是我也知道虐待子女是违法的也是不道德的。更有甚者,他不但不对自己的妻子道歉,反而认为“dumb is a gift", 连最起码的尊重都没有!再说女人对这方面都是很敏感的,说不定她早就知道了,只不过因为种种原因没有调明罢了。

当然,从网上笔歼一个从未见过的人总是很容易的, 也许他真的有苦衷。 但是如果是那样,他好歹要有一些歉意,而不是在网上对宁外的年轻妹妹炫耀。如果关系实在是无法弥补,离婚算了。

唉,星期一一大早上班就看到这么depressing的帖子,我的话可能有点说过了,要删就删吧,只是比较气愤。
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