7/8 星期六

周末加班,办公室还是闷热.等轶来,晚上和她一起吃饭.

临出门的时候,一边化妆,一边放[sex and the city],我的习惯,"听"电视剧,不是"看".正好是那一集,Mr.Big可能要搬去PARIS,CARRIE很兴奋的宣布说,她也可以跟他一起去PARIS.But Mr.Big said, "dont go to Paris for me, I dont want u to make big decisions to change your life for me." Then Carrie was so upset, "Why is it so tough to fit me inot your life?" Good question, 一瞬间,我愣住,站在镜子前,不知道魂飞到哪里去.I knew exactly how Carrie felt, and I knew how painful it was as well. When did I ask the same question? A few years ago? And who was the asshole I asking to? I couldnt even remember clearly, when, how, why, or who, but there was something I never be able to forget, --the feeling of pain. It has been hiding deep inside of my heart, and seems I have already forgotten everything related to it, but the fact is, with only a similar drama scene, it can come back to me easily. It has never gone, just like a haunting ghost. Sometimes I think [sex and the city] is a really cruel show, it just being too real, so many scenes might be able to remind of your own bad experiences easily, which you actually have spent a life long time to try to forget. A relationship without pain is just worthless, but where is the line when the lovely romantic pain could turn out to be a real pain pain? It sounds like a big puzzle which worth of millions to solve.

Yesterday chatting with George, who is currently in HK, and has lots of free time to get online, he asked me, what kinda guys I was looking for. Honestly, I didnt have any specific image, its kinda feeling thing, you couldnt define it by rules or conditions. But I still tried to figure out some lines, "err...wise, honest, mentally and physically strong...with a stable and respectful job, loves adventure and travel..." George typed, "I fit all your conditions", I replied, "oh yeah? and he has to be SINGLE!" He laughing, "I am too lazy to compete with another woman and a paper of marriage, you know that", I added. I have known this guy for almost 5 years, we still talk to each other, and I wanna be able to talk to him for another 5 years, which means I better not get involved with him physically or emotionally, even though he is really wise, charming, and generous.

Got to go, Yi is waiting for me now.

[jgey]

hehehe...希望总是有的嘛:))

[小蝎子]

唉, 反正, 知己难求啊. 想找一个沟通得到的, 又合得来的, 又要有感觉的, 唉,,,,,,

[jgey]

一时一感而已...nothing too serious...

[G.C.]

我总觉得所谓的“the one"不是痴情少男少女青春期琼瑶看多了做的梦就是好莱坞用来骗大众的钞票和眼泪的假想敌．"The One", 搞得象Matrix一样神秘．

"Sex and City" 里面的四位小姐（或大姐）睡了半座纽约城，最后才发现所谓的"the one" 实际上并没有想象中的那么完美和神秘．Carrie男友比新款的衣服鞋子换得还快，最后才发现原来转了一大圈又回到了Mr. Big的怀抱中；　Miranda　作为新时代职业女性的代表还是和baby's daddy团圆； Samantha 就不谈了；　Charlette 一开始择友要求那么高，后来也不settle for 一个秃头的犹太哥们了么（起码他的UWS的公寓还是不错的）．

总而言之要毕生寻找所谓的"the one" 实在是误人误己．记得你在以前的一篇文章中写过大概这样一句话，＂即使一个人也要快快乐乐的过着＂．　当时让我觉得一个女孩子还能有这么positive的生活态度，我真应该好好向你学习．希望Jess能早日恢复好心情，不要日日为情所惑，你这么好的条件找个如意郎君不成问题，relax, 船到桥头自然直．

[jgey]

谢谢您一直的关心和支持:)
the point is, the plus one doesnt mean the plus happiness...we will see :)

[ttmouse]

Jess, your time has not come yet. Believe me, I had been in the similar situation, and was much older than you at that time. No matter how hard you try to define The One, you can never define the chemistry, the most fansinating matter, which stimulats your hormone, and makes you infatuated. Great love needs to satisfy our animal needs and social needs. Those women in "Sex and City" are older than you, like or not, they have to wait until The One comes along. Try to expand your social circle, networking, ..., some new ways to meet new people. The last resort, may sounds desperate, is dating service. I know the last thing you need to worry about is to find a date. However, the service may present a crowd that you will never come across by yourself and your friends. If it turns out that only one deserves your attention, it still worth to invest, b/c you only need one. Shoes can make you happy for a while, the right one can make you happy for life time.