7/19 星期三

Lover or Nothing???

There is one theory from my friend Allen, --if a guy and a girl going on dates, they would end up as lovers or nothing, no other options. I would definitely not agree on that theory, maybe there is another choice,--friends, even after love has gone, maybe they could become friends.

Unfortunately, my thought has been proved to be wrong. Lewis, I used to go out with this guy 2 years ago, then one day during dinner, he brought up the line, "Jess, you are too wild for me to handle." I smiled, and said, "why dont you just call yourself a wimp?" Then its done, we didnt see each other again. Last week, I was bored like hell, and happened to find Lewis' email address, then sent some how-are-you message. He responded right away, said "we should catch up", then we decided to get together for coffee and some chilling out on weekend. Sunday morning, I got another message from Lewis, which said "Jess, I can't, since I might still have a feeling for you..." LOL, 2 years, and still have a feeling for me? Bullshit, its just an excuse, I could probably have forgotten what my ex looks like by 2 years, ok, I am kidding, I still remember what that asshole looks like.

Anyway, I sent Allen a "Congratulations" message, his excellent theory has just been proved by fact. This is really depressing, especially for people who are single and ready for dates. Everytime you go out with a great guy, you have to be aware of the fact that, you might not be able to see this guy ever again if the dating thing doesnt work out, and we all know how tough the dating thing could eventually work out. In other words, if there is a guy you really like, and wanna have him in your life for a long term, you better not ever think of dating him, or for more than 50% possibility, he would vanish from your life forever. Horrible!

[ttmouse]

I meant "&&" instead of "||" in the condition. The key is one need to know self well so that one can play the compromising game w/o losing one's identity. Learning compromising is painful when one is growing. However, insisting high expectation is harder when one has grown. Anyway, idealism comes with price.

[jgey]

哈哈...不愧是做IT的,这种写法很易懂嘛.
RELATIONSHIP并没那么容易WORK OUT的,很多时候,很多问题,不是单凭MATURE和CARE FOR EACH OTHER就能解决的.我们都需要学会妥协,但学习妥协的过程比想象的艰难.

[ttmouse]

It may happen
if ((Both want to be friends) || (Both like each other at the same level, no more, no less) || (Both are not in relationships) || (Both have time for each other))
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What an odd?
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If I could maintain several real friends through my life, I would be content. Yesterday, I thought about personality vs. character while I was driving to work. I thought personalities are nature; Characters are nurture. Similar personalities aggree, opposite attract. As long as two persons are mature and still care each other, they can work the relationship out smoothly. Characters reflect qualities according to one's value system. I remembered once you mentioned many good qualities of your leader, which are worth to demand. As myself is a big I person, dependent character does not work for me.