强烈建议你读几本书，会令你茅塞顿开：You are not alone.

"I am not mad, I just hate you" A new understanding of mother-daughter conflict ---by Roni Cohen-Sandler,Ph.D--national bestseller
"Between mother and daughter"  a teenager and her mom share the secrets of a strong relationship ---by Judy Ford and Amanda Ford
"Don't Stop Loving me" A reasuring guide for mothers of adolescent daughters ---by Ann F. Caron
" girl in the mirror" mothers and daughters in the years of adolescence ---by nancy L. Snyderman, M.D. and Peg Streep

以上的书Amozon有评论。 在family counseling 方面， 母女关系仅次于夫妻关系，是counseling 的一大题材。好好疼爱这一时期的女儿，否则前十三年的疼爱都会打水漂了。 切记。切记。等她再大一点，就懂了。这个时期是母女关系的关键期，千万把握好。