Evana2007-12-29 13:04:14回复悄悄话
谢谢真妮's quick response! I am forwarding your response to me friend. If you have more thoughts we would love to hear from you. Enjoy your break with your family.
Evana2007-12-28 21:40:37回复悄悄话
Thank you for your good wishes. Wishing you and your family happy New Year and have a brightest 2008. I always enjoy reading your comments and articles.
I would like to tell you a story and know what your opinion is. Everyone’s opinion is welcome too. My best friend Xian married for 18 years and has a daughter is going to college and a son is in 5th grade. Immigrated to U.S for 17 years. Last year her husband decided taking a job in Beijin, China. Since their daughter is in the last year of high school both my friend and her husband don’t want to move their family to China right way. My friend is family oriented and would like her family stay together. She never thinks her family should separate unless there is something no one could work out. She conducted some searches in China and found out international program in China would suit her Son. In her opinion it’s a great opportunity for her son enrolling a school in which he can keep using English and learn Chinese as well. I am not sure how much you know about international school/program in China. I explain a little bit here. There are two types of schools suit non Chinese speaking kids in big cities in China. One is called international school that is very expensive ($30000) per year. Another one is called international program that cost about $10000 per year. Both schools use American school text book, teachers are native English speakers, similar students/teacher ratio as u.s. English used as main language … in short they are similar schools in U.S. Both my friend and her husband doesn’t have intention move to China permanently. The plan is moving back to U.S. by the time their son goes to high school. My friend wants to moving back to China joining her husband after their daughter goes to college (next summer). However her husband wants her and their son stay in U.S at less for one or two more years. He thinks first his son will not get used to the new live and new school in China. Second he thinks if they wait 2 more years his company likely offer a benefit paying his son’s tuition for international school. If they move now they can’t afford $30000 for international school tuition. My friend thinks they should be OK paying $10000 for international program. My friend said every time she and her husband talks they fight on moving issue. The wife thanks there is no big enough reason for them separate for as long as 2 years, 3 years or who knows how many years. But the husband thinks the new school and new live is an issue for their son and the reduction on their family income is an issue too. My friend’s job in China is an uncertainly. My friend told me that in her heart she can’t accept her husband decision (i.e. disagree on the family moving upon their daughter’s graduation) and don’t know how to face it. 真妮, it you were my friend what you would do? Thank you and thank everyone who may response by expressing you opinions.
lumao2007-12-28 13:42:24回复悄悄话
Hi Jane, take a long break? missing your article for several days!
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year
anie2007-12-28 12:21:58回复悄悄话
真妮, Thank you for your good wishes. Wishing you and your family happy New Year and have a brightest 2008 ahead.
回evana:如果我是她，如果还想跟着这个男人过下半辈子，无论是什么代价，肯定要跟着回去的。
我看到的，男的一人回去没有不出事的。
I would like to tell you a story and know what your opinion is. Everyone’s opinion is welcome too. My best friend Xian married for 18 years and has a daughter is going to college and a son is in 5th grade. Immigrated to U.S for 17 years. Last year her husband decided taking a job in Beijin, China. Since their daughter is in the last year of high school both my friend and her husband don’t want to move their family to China right way. My friend is family oriented and would like her family stay together. She never thinks her family should separate unless there is something no one could work out. She conducted some searches in China and found out international program in China would suit her Son. In her opinion it’s a great opportunity for her son enrolling a school in which he can keep using English and learn Chinese as well. I am not sure how much you know about international school/program in China. I explain a little bit here. There are two types of schools suit non Chinese speaking kids in big cities in China. One is called international school that is very expensive ($30000) per year. Another one is called international program that cost about $10000 per year. Both schools use American school text book, teachers are native English speakers, similar students/teacher ratio as u.s. English used as main language … in short they are similar schools in U.S. Both my friend and her husband doesn’t have intention move to China permanently. The plan is moving back to U.S. by the time their son goes to high school. My friend wants to moving back to China joining her husband after their daughter goes to college (next summer). However her husband wants her and their son stay in U.S at less for one or two more years. He thinks first his son will not get used to the new live and new school in China. Second he thinks if they wait 2 more years his company likely offer a benefit paying his son’s tuition for international school. If they move now they can’t afford $30000 for international school tuition. My friend thinks they should be OK paying $10000 for international program. My friend said every time she and her husband talks they fight on moving issue. The wife thanks there is no big enough reason for them separate for as long as 2 years, 3 years or who knows how many years. But the husband thinks the new school and new live is an issue for their son and the reduction on their family income is an issue too. My friend’s job in China is an uncertainly. My friend told me that in her heart she can’t accept her husband decision (i.e. disagree on the family moving upon their daughter’s graduation) and don’t know how to face it. 真妮, it you were my friend what you would do? Thank you and thank everyone who may response by expressing you opinions.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year