每个人都可以是一个好的conversationist

一个好的谈话就像一团火。它开始是一根火柴（来电，有好印象）点着有些木柴（好的话题） 。要维持这团火，它需要空气（双方的注意力）和更多的木柴（更多的新话题） 。当然 如果双方都放些煤（情感）在这团火上，这火可能会烧上很长的时间。 For those people who have problem to talk to strangers especially in a social environment, you can train the skill by pay attention to the following aspects. 1) Be confident and friendly to people : When you are generally friend to people around you, you will give others very good impression. Normally people will like to initiate a conversation with you. 2) Enrich yourself & Read a lot : You need collect wood (topic/knowledge) whenever you have time. For the subject you like, read more and become an expert. Pay attention to general subject such as world news, financial market & big events around you. Those are easy topic to start a conversation. 3) Be a good listener : When you genuinely interested to know a person, you will pay more attention on what other says. Attention is like the air to fire. Without it a conversation will dry out easily. (When you talk to a handsome guy and only think about what to say to him, you didn't pay attention to what he said. You won't have a good conversation with him...) The conversation skill can be trained by talking to more people. Young and old, male and female, friend and stranger... When you pay attention to what others say, you learn a lot. When you are single, good conversations will bring you a lots of friends. When you start a family, this skill will help you have good communication with your spouse and kids. When you are genuinely interested to know your family member, everyday they will show you something new about them...