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好山好水好寂寞, 好脏好乱好热闹-漏了一点:

(2010-09-22 14:08:20) 下一个
随着中国经济的发展,中国人生活水平有了很大的提高.中国人出国旅游也很普及.我的不少中国朋友来过美国和加拿大.他们都有这样的同感:北美确实环境不错,但华人太少,不热闹. 得出了”北美是好山好水好寂寞, 而中国是好脏好乱好热闹”的结论.在最近一次老同学聚会上,中国朋友对我说:

你看我们在中国活得多潇洒,经常下馆子,洗脚,卡拉OK. 我们也跟你们国外一样,有房有车了.国外多闷,没有什么好玩的.你说说,你们美国除了空气干净一点,天蓝一点,你们平时还有什么好玩的东西?

我说:

我可以每天和我三个无忧无虑的孩子共同享受天伦之乐.

我这句话出来,他们都沉默了. 是啊,在国内,孩子们没有一个快乐的童年. 在一个腐败,尔虞我诈的社会环境,无力自卫的孩子是第一个受害者.还没有出生,就已经失去了有兄弟姐妹的权力, 因为有权的人希望从父母身上勒索钱.出生以后,面临着巨大的各种学习,补习,兴趣班的压力,因为有钱的人希望从父母身上骗取更多的钱.

人人都抱怨养孩子贵,养孩子累. 孩子压力大, 又没有伴, 根本谈不上有快乐童年. 有钱的人一心希望把孩子送出国. 大家对中国的未来毫无信心. 但是,大家还是本着今朝有酒今朝醉的态度,抓紧时间享受目前所有的物质,而把中国未来的烂摊子推给后人来收拾.
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回复 悄悄话 得图林奖的要旗帜选择的是不要孩子,那又怎么解释?他老婆也是MIT的博士,按理该要10个才对。
20国集团 回复 悄悄话 好山好水好寂寞
好脏好乱好热闹

山清水秀人不秀
鸟语花香反不香
身是客 回复 悄悄话 美国人就不是今朝有酒今朝醉?次级贷款引起的金融危机忘了?读你就知道美国教师是什么样的一帮人.中国有钱人一心把孩子送出国,主要不是对中国没有信心而是要显示一种有别于普通人的特殊,就象花高价挂张悟本的号,进李一道士的养生课一样.
栗米 回复 悄悄话 北美是好山好水好寂寞, 而中国是好脏好乱好快活!(不是好热闹)~~
mikecwu 回复 悄悄话 回复liveinca的评论:In the US people have more choices. I used to work long hours, but since I didn't like it, I changed my career to do something that allows me to go home at regular hours. We chose to live in a medium size city so the commute won't be too long. I only drive 6-7 minutes from home to work.

We chose to have my wife stay home for the kids so we will not get stressed out for childcare. We make do with what we have. Ideally we want a house with 6 bedrooms so each one of our 4 kids can have one bedroom. But I don't make that much money so we got a house with 4 bedrooms and that means 2 kids need to share one bedroom. If my wife goes to work too we might be able to afford our dream house, but then we won't have time for our dream family anymore.

A house is just 4 walls and a roof. A home is where you and your loved ones create lasting memories. Material is nothing. Family is everything.
5706 回复 悄悄话 The name of your family is

好!好!好!好!好!

A Happy family.
康无为 回复 悄悄话 "爷爷奶奶姥姥姥爷叔叔姑姑舅舅舅妈堂兄弟姐妹表兄弟姐妹" 好像贾府似的不是每家都有这么兴旺的人丁还都在身边吧除非生活在从小长大的村子里而且谁也不许搬家。赞同mikecwu
ilovefriday 回复 悄悄话 在国内下馆子,在美国就不下馆子了?美国没有好馆子了?洗脚好玩吗?想想就恶心!
看你就恶心 回复 悄悄话 小样的,赶快从文学城消失!
雨林天堂 回复 悄悄话 这个比较片面吧。你不过是那你有的比你同学没有的,所以你自我感觉好。你比他们多的,是你有几个孩子。
至于天伦之乐,别说国内没有,国内只会更多。国内的孩子有爷爷奶奶姥姥姥爷叔叔姑姑舅舅舅妈堂兄弟姐妹表兄弟姐妹,你在美国的孩子有吗? 除非你把你全家都办过来。
京城曼城一线牵 回复 悄悄话 写此文章的人够思想够狭隘啊,另外外加洋奴一个。
花非花雾非雾 回复 悄悄话 鸡同鸭讲, 谈得都不是一码子事. 在中国就是下馆子洗脚? 在美国就是为美国人口增长做贡献? 身为中国人为美国人口增长做贡献, 听着也怪异.

谁说回国就是奔"有好玩的"回去的? 美国好玩之处就是养一堆孩子?这洗脚下馆子的和养孩子玩的境界都够高的
云淡水清 回复 悄悄话 美国有很多很多好玩的,只是每个人的喜好不一样而已。喜欢馆子,洗脚,卡拉Ok的,可能觉得国内好玩了。
liveinca 回复 悄悄话 I just recently joined a public company and I noticed people there work so hard every day. I'm the only person who leaves office at sharp 5 everyday in my team. I don't know how much time they can give thir kids. They are Americans for sure. haha
liveinca 回复 悄悄话 This post sounds bias. Actually people in US don't necessarily have much time to play with their children especially people who has long commute to work. On the contrary, people in China at least the people close to me who have a lot free time to enjoying their family time. They are living in less pressure economic environment.

Maybe you are a richer person and you have more freedome than other people. But I'm not, I have to spend 1.5 hours on the road, then have to cook,, when I finish, it's almost time to go to bed. My child spend 9 hours at school, 4 hours at elementary, another 5 at afternoon school. The only quality time we have together is weekend. But usually we do mass house cleanning during the weekend.
I can't feel the way you felt. You are a lucky person perhaps.
自然人 回复 悄悄话 何止天伦之乐!还有很多!我现在一听到馆子,洗脚,卡拉OK就觉得特脏,恶心。
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