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俺家老三，男孩。挺聪明的，按中文学校老师的话是“过目不忘”。考试成绩都挺好，可是日常生活中，丢三落四、注意力不集中。做个作业吧，三请四催才开始，半个小时的作业，一边做一边玩，2个小时都做不完。俺觉得他有 mild autism or behavior disorder.要纠正，就得从小抓起。现在有俺天天念叨（nag)，养成自觉的习惯，也许就好了。

可是俺家LD一不同意俺的诊断，二不同意俺的疗法。他坚信小三能学会自我控制，come through。他的建议是随他去，比如作业，他不记得做，就让老师批评他，后果自负。这样他自然就学乖了。也就是说让他从栽跟头中学会生存。

俺的反驳是，这里的学校不像国内，不交作业什么惩罚也没有，儿子哪能学乖呢？等到习惯成自然，以后要改也来不及了。

目前俺跟LD打成平局，谁也说服不了谁。

[taian12]

我儿小时也如您儿，那时我也有同样的烦恼。我的经验是大人稍加督促，树大自直。一来大人有自己的事，精力有限，二来管多了他烦。大人要强调规则，具体事上给他自由度。我儿现在还算出色。

[laoyangdelp]

回复elly的评论:
Thanks for your suggestion. Actually I've realized that he is doing just fine without my nagging, #1 in his class for academics. Also his older brother is a very self disciplined boy who has a lot of positive influence on him.

[elly]

i actually support your LG.but it's really hard to make such a decision. my suggestion is that give your son some time, maybe half year, and just let him learn the lesson.