by 蔡真妮
我家小三才三岁，小小年纪就有口头禅，不管自己还是别人做了什么，他都要缀一句“Good Job！”
有一天，我和幼儿园的老师说起这事儿，老师笑着问我：“你平时怎么表扬他？”
我想想好像自己说的就是“Good Job！”这一句。
老师说：“这就对了，孩子都是跟外界学的，无论是行为还是语言。这句话一定是被你用了无数次以后，在他心里被强化成了最有力量的表扬
话。”
老师建议我以后试试其它表扬鼓励孩子的话，淡化这句“Ｇｏｏｄ Ｊｏｂ”的作用。
原来是我这当妈的语言单调造成了孩子的毛病。
下一次见到她，她拿出一张纸递给我说：“这个或许对你有帮助。”
接过来一看，上面打印的是：101种表扬孩子的话（101 ways to praise a child）
我看了之后大受启发，把它打出来和朋友们分享。
1. Way-to-go!
2. You're special.
3. You're on your way.
4. How smart!
5. Good Job!
6. Good for you!
7. You're a winner.
8. Terrific!
9. Great discovery.
10. I trust you.
11. You're exciting.
12. You're so sweet.
13. You make my life complete.
14. You're so heavenly.
15. Bravo!
16. Super!
17. Outstanding!
18. Great!
19. Wow!
20. That's amazing!
21. How nice.
22. That's incredible!
23. You're adorable.
24. Dynamite!
25. Beautiful work.
26. Remarkable job.
27. Nothing can stop you now.
28. You're beautiful.
29. You're one-of-a-kind.
30. You're so creative.
31. Great work!
32. Fantastic job!
33. Phenomenal!
34. You are so important.
35. You figured it out.
36. Hip! Hip! Hooray!
37. You did that very well.
38. Good learning!
39. You're a good listener.
40. You're are so much fun.
41. You're caring.
42. You tried very hard.
43. Wonderful sharing.
44. You're a treasure.
45. Awesome!
46. You're wonderful.
47. You're A-OK!
48. You made my day.
49. Thank you 50. You have a great sense of humor. | 51. Good!
52. You make me happy.
53. You're incredible.
54. You're on target.
55. Looking good.
56. I knew you could do it.
57. I'm proud of you.
58. Well done!
59. Marvelous!
60. Exceptional performance.
61. You're a real trooper.
62. You are so responsible.
63. What a great imagination.
64. You belong.
65. That's right.
66. Now you've got it!
67. You're catching on.
68. You're on top of it.
69. Nice work!
70. Excellent!
71. That's remarkable.
72. Beautiful!
73. You're precious.
74. Magnificent!
75. Super work!
76. You're a good friend.
77. You mean a lot to me.
78. That's the best.
79. Give them a big hug.
80. You've discovered the secret.
81. You're spectacular.
82. You're a darling.
83. I like you.
84. You're fantastic.
85. Neat!
86. That's good manners.
87. Bingo!
88. You're growing up.
89. You're getting better.
90. You brighten my day.
91. That's perfect.
92. You're such a joy.
93. You're so kissable.
94. You have a wonderful smile.
95. You make me feel good.
96. You work hard.
97. Good thinking!
98. Good planning!
99. You're a good helper.
100. I like the way you did that. |
101. Say, "I Love You" – often
我觉得这里面的有些话不仅仅用来表扬孩子，也不仅仅局限在英文上，把它翻成中文，分场合地点可以用在配偶、朋友、同事、上下级等所有和人打交道的时候，运用的恰当，一定比“挺好”“不错”“对”这样普普通通的字眼效果好，可以成为人际关系中绝佳的润滑剂。
