TEMPER|Whenthisfoundationisoncewelllaid,andyoufindthisreverencebegintoworkinhim,thenextthingtobedoneiscarefullytoconsiderhistemper,andtheparticularconstitutionofhismind.Stubbornness,lying,andill-naturedactions,arenot(ashasbeensaid)tobepermittedinhimfromthebeginning,whateverhistemperbe:thoseseedsofvicesarenottobesufferedtotakeanyroot,butmustbecarefullyweededout,assoonasevertheybegintoshowthemselves...[
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TUTOR|Ifatutorcanbegot,that,thinkinghimselfinhisfather’splace,chargedwithhiscare,andrelishingthesethings,willatthebeginningapplyhimselftoputtheminpractice,hewillafterwardsfindhisworkveryeasy:andyouwill,Iguess,haveyoursoninalittletimeagreaterproficientinbothlearningandbreeding,thanperhapsyouimagine.Butlethimbynomeansbeathim,atanytime,withoutyourconsentanddirection:atleasttillyouhaveexperience...[
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EXAMPLE|Havingunderconsiderationhowgreattheinfluenceofcompanyis,andhowproneweareall,especiallychildren,toimitation,Imustheretakethelibertytomindparentsofthisonething,viz.Thathethatwillhavehissonhavearespectforhimandhisorders,musthimselfhaveagreatreverenceforhisson."Maximadebeturpuerisreverentia".Youmustdonothingbeforehim,whichyouwouldnothavehimimitate.Ifanythingescapeyou,whichyouwouldhav...[
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Havingnamedcompany,Iamalmostreadytothrowawaymypen,andtroubleyounofartheronthissubject:forsincethatdoesmorethanallprecepts,rulesandinstructions,methinksitisalmostwhollyinvaintomakealongdiscourseofotherthings,andtotalkofthatalmosttonopurpose.Foryouwillbereadytosay,whatshallIdowithmyson?IfIkeephimalwaysathome,hewillbeindangertobemyyoungmaster;andifIsendhimabroad,howisitpossibletokeephimfromthecontagi...[
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COMPANY|Imentionedaboveonegreatmischiefthatcamebyservantstochildren,whenbytheirflatteriestheytakeofftheedgeandforceoftheparents'rebukes,andsolessentheirauthority:andhereisanothergreatinconveniencewhichchildrenreceivefromtheillexampleswhichtheymeetwithamongstthemeanerservants.
伙伴|我在前面说过,仆人们对于小孩有一个很大的害处,是当他们讨好小孩,就减低了父母呵斥的尖锐与力量,因此损害了父母的威...[
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MANNERS|Manners,astheycallit,aboutwhichchildrenaresooftenperplexed,andhavesomanygoodlyexhortationsmadethembytheirwisemaidsandgovernesses,Ithink,arerathertobelearntbyexamplethanrules;andthenchildren,ifkeptoutofillcompany,willtakeapridetobehavethemselvesprettily,afterthefashionofothers,perceivingthemselvesesteemedandcommendedforit.Butifbyalittlenegligenceinthispart,theboyshouldnotpulloffhishat,norma...[
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RULES|AndheregivemeleavetotakenoticeofonethingIthinkafaultintheordinarymethodofeducation;andthatis,thechargingofchildren'smemories,uponalloccasions,withrulesandprecepts,whichtheyoftendonotunderstand,andconstantlyassoonforgetasgiven.Itbesomeactionyouwouldhavedone,ordoneotherwise,whenevertheyforget,ordoitawkwardly,makethemdoitoverandoveragain,untilltheyareperfect,wherebyyouwillgetthesetwoadvant...[
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PUNISHMENTS|Thisbeinglaiddowningeneral,asthecoursethatoughttobetaken,itisfitwenowcometoconsiderthepartsofthedisciplinetobeused,alittlemoreparticularly.Ihavespokensomuchofcarryingastricthandoverchildren,thatperhapsIshallbesuspectedofnotconsideringenough,whatisduetotheirtenderageandconstitutions.Butthatopinionwillvanish,whenyouhaveheardmealittlefarther:forIamveryapttothink,thatgreatseverityofpunishm...[
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MIND|Duecarebeinghadtokeepthebodyinstrengthandvigour,sothatitmaybeabletoobeyandexecutetheordersofthemind;thenextandprincipalbusinessis,tosetthemindright,thatonalloccasionsitmaybedisposedtoconsenttonothingbutwhatmaybesuitabletothedignityandexcellencyofarationalcreature.
心智|恰当的照顾使身体强壮和有活力,所以它能遵从和执行心智的命令;下一个而且主要的问题是使心智保持正常,在一切情形下都能举止合乎...[
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Ofallthatlookssoftandeffeminate,nothingismoretobeindulgedchildren,thansleep.Inthisalonetheyaretobepermittedtohavetheirfullsatisfaction;nothingcontributingmoretothegrowthandhealthofchildren,thansleep.Allthatistoberegulatedinit,is,inwhatpartofthetwenty-fourhourstheyshouldtakeit;whichwilleasilyberesolved,byonlysayingthatitisofgreatusetoaccustomthemtoriseearlyinthemorning.Itisbestsotodo,forhealth;andh...[
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