You must find something beyond love, something that will support your feet on this earth. You must find a way to support yourself—it is not too late to consider that now. I never considered diplomas to be most important. Most geniuses did not graduate from top schools, yet without formal schooling, sometimes it would be hard for you to handle normal things.
You must gradually transform those fleeting thoughts into a clear way of thinking through simple words of expression. Pompousness and gaudiness will never last. You should know, it is not enough to make your words pleasurable to read; what is more important is its content, thought, realm, soul, spirit and wisdom. Do not read too much written by those writers who have views similar to yours. Don’t be trivial; don’t moan and groan without being ill. Don't give pen to all your thoughts. Don’t be sentimental and emotional for petty things.
My dear sister, you should trust warmth, benevolence, confidence, and respect – these ancient words. I don’t want you to be decadent, nihilistic, confused, self-inflicted nor to hurt others.
I do not want you to mess up your own life. Constrain your own feelings. Not all people can be your buddies. To taste real life is quite another story. It doesn’t mean that you can be decadent and undisciplined. Do not pursue these things for the sake of "coolness" or something of the sort. They are only the excuses of those who have nothing to do other than to indulge themselves. The true coolness is inside your heart. You should have a very big and strong heart, with unyielding belief that will never wane with the time. Don’t say that you love this world because you are inside an ivory tower. You should continue to say these words after you see the dark, the filthy, and the ugly in the world.
Sister, learn to love and live. Youth is short, but do not complain of its shortness. Sometimes you should pause and rest, but do not squat down and look around. When you take a road, please do not look back.
Often ask yourself: what are you doing?
When you feel sad and wronged, you should cry out loudly. When you finish crying, go wash and pat your face, then put a smile on it. Do not rub your eyes, or you will have swollen eyes the next day.
Set great goals and high expectations for yourself.
Please remember you should often look at the sky. Also remember to look at the road under your feet from time to time.
At any time, when you are asked by anyone, how many love experiences you have, the answer is twice.
One time, he loved me and I did not love him.
The other time, I love him, but he did not love me.
The good love is always the next time.
Never give the same man two opportunities to hurt you. Never trust his vows on the bed.
Don’t overprice virginity, but retain chastity.
Don’t be ashamed of your desires. Enjoy your life, but never tolerate insults and indolence from men.
Believe me, sister, there are plenty of men, more than the three-legged frogs. Never easily say out the word "love".
Trust your own intuition.
Never bother with other men, unless you really love him and that he deserves your love.
Never bother with a man who is looking for someone who is similar to his former girlfriend, his mother or his sisters.
Never bother with a loafer, an artistic youth or a middle-aged man. Do not bother a man who is too pure for the love.
Don’t get together with seemingly careless guys. Degrading yourself is not true love.
Never be moved when a man demean himself in order to please you. You should know if he burns himself with cigarette butts by now, he will do the same thing to you in the future.
Observe the man’s friends, especially how they treat ladies.
Do not believe in a man who won’t introduce you to his friends.
When a man can only call you "Baby", you should persist in asking him to call you by your name.
When a man comes to you no more, do not go after him. Do not believe in anyone who employ strategic maneuvers in love.
When you have to separate with the man, do not use ugly words. Learn a lesson from it but do not feel regret. Regret is futile.
Never commit third-class petty things like tearing pictures, burning letters, destroy journals that often appear in soap operas.
Trust in love; believe that there is a good man out there, unmarried and looking for you in the sea of people. Don’t say that "no man under the sun is good," from which other people might think you are too experienced in love.
Listen to me: never be a woman who in the middle of night takes her luggage from one boyfriend’s home and moves to another one.
Love materials properly. You should know non-material stuff is more important. The more beautiful thing is you yourself: you are better than expensive watches, name brands and fashion stuff.
Never look down upon working people, never be ashamed of working. The earth is not dirty at all, and the smell of sweat is not too bad. Always respect those people whose living conditions are below you. This way is the way to respect you own self. Always be considerate and compassionate with those people who live in the bottom of the society because our relatives are among them.
We are not enervated.
Don’t look down upon one penny. Go try to make it.
When you are hurt by your friends, do not doubt friendship, but beware of the people who may betray you.
Always forgive, but never forget.
Keep you your own pure of heart from childhood, and be chivalrous to your friends.
Be happy, open-minded, firm but warm. This has nothing to do with your character.
I worry you are too meek. Sometimes, you should be strong. When you are bullied, you should stand up and fight back.
But you should never bear grudges, no matter what petty things people might say.
Pity and compassion will make you a noble lady.
Please excuse this world and yourself. Tell yourself that you deserve the best in the world.
Love,
Your brother
亲爱的妹妹，我要告诉你一些话，这些都来自我心∶
你必须找到除了爱情之外，能够使你用双脚坚强站在大地上的东西。你要找到谋生的方式，现在考虑不晚了。我从来不以为学历有什麽重要，天才都不是科班，但，不是科班，连龙套都跑不了。
你必须把那些浮如飘絮的思绪，渐渐转化为清晰的思路和简单的文字。华丽和漂浮都不易长久。你要知道，给予文字阅读快感不够的，内容，思想，境界，灵魂，精神和智慧，这些才重要。不要多看那些和你一个路数的女作家的文字。不要琐碎，无病呻吟。不要想到什麽就写。不要流於小感伤和小感动。
妹妹，我要你相信温暖，美好，信任，尊严，坚强这些老掉牙的字眼。
我不要你颓废，空虚，迷茫，糟践自己，伤害别人。
我不要你把自己处理得一团糟。节制自己的感情。不是任何人都能要。体验生活，
是另外一回事，并不意味著堕落和放纵。千万不要认同那些伪装的酷和另类。
他们是无事可做的人找出来放任自己无事可做的藉口。真正的酷是在内心。
你要有强大的内心。要有任凭时间流逝，不会磨折和屈服的信念。
不是因为在象牙塔中，才说出我爱世界这样的话。
是知道外面的黑，脏，丑陋之後，还要说出这样的话。
妹妹，好好去爱，去生活。青春如此短暂，不要叹老。偶尔可以停下来休息，但是别蹲下来张望。走了一条路的时候，记得别回头看。
时不时问问自己，自己在干麽。
伤心和委屈的时候，要嚎啕大哭，哭完洗完脸，拍拍自己的脸，挤出一个微笑给自己看。不要揉，否则第二天早上会眼楮肿。
给自己一个远大的前程和目标。
记得常常仰望天空，记住仰望天空的时候也看看脚下。
任何时候，任何人问你，有过多少次恋爱，答案是两次。
一次是他爱我，我不爱他。
一次是我爱他，他不爱我。
好的爱情永远在下一次。
别给同一个男人两次伤害你的机会。别相信床上的誓言。
别看重处女，但保持纯洁。
不要为欲望羞耻，好好享受，但绝不忍受男人的侮辱和怠慢。
相信我，妹妹，男人多的是，比三条腿的青蛙多得多。别轻易说出“爱”。
相信你的直觉。
不要招惹别人的男人，除非你非常非常爱他，并且，他非常非常值得爱。
不要招惹寻找与前女友相似，和他母亲，姐姐相似女人的男人。
不要招惹浪子，文艺青年和中年男子。别招惹太清纯的男人。
别和没心没肺的人在一起。别把犯贱当真爱。
一个男人作践自己来取悦你的时候，千万不要因此感动。
这个烟头烫在他身上，下一个就可能烫在你身上。
看看一个男人的朋友们是什麽样的，注意他的朋友们对待女人的态度。
还有，千万别相信一个不准备将你介绍给他的朋友圈子的男人。
一个男人只肯喊你“宝贝”的时候，坚持要他喊你的名字。
一个男人不再来找你的时候，就不要再去找他。不要相信在恋爱上用手段的人。
分手时不要口出恶言。吸取教训，但不要後悔。
後悔没有用。
别干撕照片，烧信，撕日记这样一类三流爱情电视剧中才有人干的事。
相信爱情，相信好男人还存在，还未婚，还在茫茫人海中寻觅你。
别说“男人没一个好东西”这样使别人误以为你阅人无数的话。
答应我，永远不要去做那种午夜背著行李，从一个男朋友家，流落到另一个男朋友家的女人。
爱物质，适当地。永远知道精神更重要。比那些名表，名牌，时装，更加美丽的是你自己。
别瞧不起劳动人民，不要为劳动羞耻。土地不脏，汗味不难闻。
请尊重那些似乎生活状况不如你的人，因为这样才是尊重自己。
永远体恤那些生活在底层的人们，因为我们的亲人就是在这些人群中。
我们不娇贵。
不要小看一分钱。不妨自己去挣挣看。
被朋友伤害了的时候，别怀疑友情，但提防背叛你的人。
原谅，但并不遗忘。
做人存几分天真童心，对朋友保持一些侠义之情。
要快乐，要开朗，要坚韧，要温暖，这和性格无关。
我担心你太低调，有时要强悍一点，被欺负的时候，一定要讨回来！
但是不要记恨。小人之见，随他们去好了。
怜悯，会使你高贵......
要原谅这世界和自己。要告诉自己，我值得拥有最好的一切.....
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May this be a gift for your sister, and hope every woman in earth enjoy health, and understand they are source of love not a helpless beggar.
Blessing to you and your sister