闲聊翁孙配之违和与幸福

翁孙配或曰老少配存在违和是不言而喻的，娇娘看翁郎，照样是满眼的鸡皮褶褶、老年斑斑，以及再浓的香水也掩不住的岁月旧账。隔代人的差距摆在那儿， 越看越有吃苍蝇的感觉是人之常情。故老少配婚姻中最不重要的就是“性”， 其幸福获得感的妙处只在于“补偿” ，要看翁郎别的筹码是不是赶趟。

一是地位——多老多丑的皇帝都有大把美女围着转就是例子，且这些美女争宠吃醋的情意大多还都来真的，所以， 只要有足够的权势，则翁郎头上的光环就足够让娇娘活出公主的飘然感；

二是财富——  翁郎金山银山堆满身，则头上的光环也能相当辉煌， 仅次于皇帝，邓文迪之追爱默多克就是例子：赔上点青春，获得三辈子的花天酒地锦衣玉食；

三是智商与阅历上的碾压——翁郎若能把娇娘忽悠得似坠云端，那么他老人家每一道皱纹在娇娘眼中就成了智慧的折痕，每一记老年斑也成了宇宙中引人入胜的故事——这是能让娇娘对翁郎真实生出情绪快感的最高级的补偿。

这绝非调侃，  美丑的概念是非常主观而富于相对性的，  关键就在于对方能否激发出让你产生美感的荷尔蒙，而一个人一旦遭受了智力碾压， 被碾压的一方一定对对方升起崇拜之情， 这时候他（她）脑子中的荷尔蒙就一定会视对方为绝美，崇拜产生美与  情人眼里出西施是每天都在发生着千真万确的事实。

我有一位朋友就对我说过， 他上小学时就崇拜过整天给他们上课喊起立的女班长， 觉得那女孩长得美极了， 令他有自卑感，完全不敢直视。 但等后来上了初中那女孩学习成绩开始滑坡之后，他却又发现那女孩的长相实在是平平无奇。（赌咒发誓， 这是真实的故事）

世界冠军彭帅被张高丽副总理迷得神魂颠倒， 宁愿当小三也不愿撒手，除了权位这剂春药之外，  也是因为智力的碾压，因为那天晚餐时张高丽向彭帅说过一句话：“宇宙很大很大，地球就是宇宙的一粒沙，我们人类连一粒沙都没有” ，（彭帅公开信中自述）这句话让只会打网球、缺乏文化符号的彭帅豁然陷入了无穷的宇宙奥秘而再也不能自拔 ，于是相应的我们张高丽副总理的那张老脸也就成了世上的绝美。

这也是我论证杨振宁教授与翁帆婚姻生活质量应该还不错的一个立足点。详见拙文《人生大赢家*幸福的翁孙恋*家国情怀——也说杨振宁先生》

可以大致肯定， 世界上所有的力量， 再没有比那些被崇拜的聪明人忽悠的力量更大，人所爱者无过与生命， 而 希特勒却能让纳粹军队死而无憾， 就是因为他善于忽悠的超能力， 那些人一听到希特勒的声音就会荷尔蒙爆棚得欲仙欲死，  觉得为老希战死就是为世界上绝美的事业而死。  —— 而愚昧之最突出标志就是这个人基因里有随时可以让他蠢血沸腾的崇拜情绪。

只有上帝是值得无条件崇拜的， 因为他与人类的智能不在一个维度。 

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The absence of 习近平 and his proteges from the funeral of 杨振宁先生 reflects the fact that 杨振宁先生 had never fawned on nor bowed to the communist regime. This in turn implies that he went to China for the purpose of serving the country, instead of the regime or his own interests. He must have expressed some important opinions that alienated or even antagonized the current leadership who are quite ignorant and arrogant. After all, arrogance always originates from ignorance.

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Many Chinese people deride or decry his second marriage merely because of the vast age gap. Most people judge others based on their own experience, instead of the relevant facts. People usually deem that a young girl marrying a grandpa is equivalent to leaping into the hell fire. In retrospect, what we can be certain today is that the young wife has been cherishing and relishing their unpopular marriage. In addition, all her and his family members sincerely supported their marriage ever since. Hence we can deduce that there must be an unusual reason for the marriage. One likely reason is that the young lady had been obsessed with the aspiration to consort with him. One clue is that his two wives bear staggering resemblance in appearance at their young ages. It appears he was destined to have the second marriage.

Despite boisterous suspicions, their marriage lasted for two decades congenially. It turns out that the fidelity and intimacy within their marriage have been dwelling far from any venomous speculations. Today, it is unfair and contemptible to malign or ridicule their enduring marriage, which was apparently founded on genuine sentiments.

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Insane, indeed.