致已经走远的二姑父

从我们出生开始，我们每个人就都行在了渐行渐远的路上。在这个路上有我们所有的遇见，快乐的和悲伤的，开心的和烦恼的，得到的和失落的，它们总是随影相伴，构成了我们的一生的故事。但有一天它们会被留在某个瞬间，成为了曾经的唯一。

 

在很多的时候，我们其实并没有准备好要和您说再见，一直觉得这路上的风景，这风景里的您，还有许多的故事将会一直继续。就像您每年生日里的那个开心的寿星，佳节里热闹的四代同堂时的那个心满意足的长者，热爱了大半辈子门球运动的老球员。

 

您的人生一直活的都很精彩，因为您让您的热情融在了它们里面，是实实在在的生活，是与权利地位金钱无关的最真实的生活。

 

在半个世纪前，您走进了我们的视野。在那个不是很轻松的时光里，您和大姑父成为了我们仨家最亲近的家庭关系，在那个年代还保持一直不断的书信互访走动。现在看看其实真的很不容易，有多少的家庭离开去了天涯海角，从此不再相见，而成为了陌路人。

 

在老爸过世之后的日子里，您让我老妈来到您家，每日拿出自己珍藏的好酒，与老妈一起慢慢的品尝。

 

有一年夏天我们来您家，为了减少夏天热浪的的不适，您即刻安上了空调，其实我们仅仅只待了两天。

 

您的宽容待人一直让我难忘，对我后来的成长也都有很多的影响。那一年我上大学，火车经过您家的附近，您来车站接我，可我却不愿意离开，您望着我远去的火车，希望您一定原谅了我的无理。后来的寒假里，你们家和大姑家很自然地成为了我的常去的家。 

 

成年之后才明白， 对我们许多人来说，接纳并不是容易做到的，尤其是要接纳对方的情绪和行为，依然还能平实相待就更不易了。 

 

在疫情肆虐的洪水里，您每天依然坚持打您的门球，却未能幸免于它，匆匆告别了这个世界。

 

望着您已经走远的身影，我想告诉您，您一直都是我们非常敬重的家人，在逆境里，在风调雨顺的日子里，您一直都在我们的生活中。

 

 

[Say goodbye to the second uncle] Since we were born, each of us has been walking on the road that is getting farther and farther away. On this road, there are all our encounters, happy and sad, joyful and troubled, gained and lost, and they always accompany each other, forming the story of our life. But one day they will be left in a certain moment and become the only ones ever.

 

In many cases, we are not ready to say goodbye to you. We always feel that the scenery on the road, you in this scenery, and many stories will continue. Just like the happy birthday star on your birthday every year, the contented elder when the four generations live together in the festive season, the old player who has loved gateball for most of his life.

 

Your life has always been wonderful, because you let your enthusiasm melt into them. It is a real life, the most joyful life that has nothing to do with power, status and money.

 

You came into our field of vision half a century ago. During that difficult time, you and elder uncle became the closest family relationship among the three families, and we still kept exchanging letters and visits at that time. Now looking at the fact that it is really not easy, how many families have left to the ends of the earth, never see each other again, and become strangers.

 

In the days after my father passed away, you asked my mother to come to your house, take out the good wine you collected every day, and slowly taste it with my mother.

 

One summer we came to your house, in order to reduce the discomfort of the summer heat wave, you immediately installed the air conditioner, but we only stayed for two days.

 

Your tolerance towards others has always been unforgettable to me, and it also had a lot of influence on my later growth. That year when I was in college, the train passed near your home. You came to pick me up at the station, but I was unwilling to leave. You looked at the train I was leaving, and I hope you will forgive me for my unreasonableness. Later in the winter vacation, your house and my aunt's house naturally became my frequent home.

 

As an adult, I realized that for many of us, acceptance is not easy to do, especially to accept the other person's emotions and behaviors, and still be fair to each other.

 

In the raging flood of the epidemic Covid-19, you still insisted on playing your croquet every day, but you were not spared from it, and bid farewell to this world in a hurry.

 

Looking at your figure that has gone away, I want to tell you that you have always been a family member we respect very much. In times of bad and good periods you have always been in our lives.