By Mary Polce-Lynch
这本书大概是说如何帮助男孩表达情感。
Identifying and expressing emotions can be learned at any age.
0- 3
- Trust your intuition instead of the Pack Rules
比如当小男孩摔倒，传统社会价值观的男孩不哭和你的直觉要去安慰他。
- Mirroring refers to the process of reflecting a person’s thoughts, feelings and behaviors back to that person.
It can be done with or without words. When a baby is elated and smiles and you smiles back with equal elation, this is mirroring.
- Naming emotions.
4-7
“The world is my oyster.”
They survived their toddler years unscathed; they have newly discovered independence (foraying into preschool and play without parents nearby)
- Practice naming and expressing their emotions regardless of the boys’ temperaments.
8-11
“blend feelings”
- Processing with distance
This refers to the technique of using a third person to help explore boys’ feelings or reactions. For example , by asking how so-and-so might feel if such-and-such happened.
It teaches the name of feelings, the anticipation of emotions, how to analyze complex emotions and how to empathize with others. It also creates safety by putting some distance between the boy and their own emotions.
12-15
“Disappearing emotions”
sexuality as a dominant social force
interpersonal relations and communication
family VS peers
