Single can be wonderful—把单身过成一种境界(中文版在后面)zt

Cathly has a big mission: get married before the end of next year!

 

  “Too much pressure from all the people around! Sherry, you are lucky that you can hide there!” She complained.

 

  Actually, I feel a bit pressure anyway. Girls my age are all in a relationship or between relationships—got ride of the ex and look for the next. I’m an abnormal human: I don’t want a boyfriend! Some people are starting to believe that I am gay!

 

  Well, I won’t end my single life to prove if I’m lesbian or not. I hope Cathly won’t get married just to end her single life! Why do we let other people decide what we are and how we live our lives?! Happiness is not a one-way street!

 

  Finding your man is like shopping for clothes. When you think that you have to buy one today, for sure you’ll get one at the end of the day, but probably it’s not the one that you looking for, you don’t really like it, so it ends up hanging in the closet, and becomes a garbage in your life. When we are anxious searching for something, we don’t check very carefully and we lower our requirements, plus friends aside keep telling you: it’s nice on you, it fits you well! So you decide to take it, but don’t ignore the hesitation in your heart, do you really like it? Don’t listen to what others say—they are not the one who pay for it, they are not the one who wear it; listen to yourself!

 

  It’s enjoyable to shop alone sometimes, I can take time to look for what I want, and the importance is too much company means too many opinions, it confuses you, actually you are the one knows your style and your own fashion.

 

  So why do we care about what others think of our life? That’s great if we meet a nice guy! But if not, then just enjoy the single life at this moment, why not?! Single is innocent; Single could be even better!

 

  Being single doesn’t mean to be lonely, solitary, poor, ugly, sad… No! Being single doesn’t affect us to live an optimistic and positive life! We have even more self-love, self-confidence, self-respect, independence; we have all the time to perfect ourselves; we have family and real friends; we have a warm and peaceful heart, and sunny smile must of time.

 

  But it’s very important that we organize our lives well:

 

  First, it’s extremely important that you have a good job—not necessarily a big job, but a job that you like that supports a good life. Income is the basic of independence!

 

  It’s also very important that you have some good friends—ones that understand you, care about you, love you.

 

  Buy insurance. Insurance is necessary even if you have a boyfriend--believe me, when you’re sick, when you’re getting old, that’s something you can count on. It’s good that we can’t insure for love, otherwise all the insurance company would bankrupt.

 

  Buy a house if possible. Single doesn’t mean homeless, and a house is much more reliable than a man. Psychically, it will make you feel more confidence and safe; practically, it’s an investment with economic benefits.

 

  List study and travel on your schedule. There are so many things on the world for us to learn and to see, what a lucky thing that we have all the time to improve ourselves!

 

  Entertain and take care of yourself. Going out with friends, gym, cooking, shopping… Single is not about suffering, it’s about being happy, being beautiful, being wonderful!

 

  Single maybe just a short period in your life or perhaps it’s your choice for the rest of the life. No matter what, we are on a different train going to happiness, the view outside the windows is also wonderful!

 

  Cathly的老爸老妈下了最后通牒：明年一定要把自己嫁掉！

  “顶不住了呀，压力太大了！哪像你这么幸运啊，一个人躲在国外逍遥!”她语气里有咬牙切齿的无奈。

  事实上，我也不是没有压力的。在我这个年纪的女孩都有了男朋友,或着离开了前一个正在寻觅下一个。我被归于异类，因为我根本不想找－－好不容易重获自由（婚字怎么写啊：女人昏了头）。可怕的是已经有人开始相信我是同性恋了，唉！

  我不会去找个男友来证明我是否同性恋，也不希望看到Cathly为了结束单身而嫁人。干嘛要让别人来决定我们的生活呢！幸福不是只有一种形式的呀！

  男人说女人如衣，旧不如新。其实嫁人倒如逛街选衣，要寻寻觅觅！在你很想今天一定要买一件的时候，你是买下了一件，但是那件往往不是你最喜欢的衣服，甚至到了后来可能是弃之可惜，留着又不穿的衣服。要知道在我们急着找寻的时候，往往会少了平时精挑细选的心境，放低了自己的要求，再加上旁边一起陪你选衣服的人一声声的催促：这不是挺好的嘛，很配你呀... 你也就买下了，但是别忽视了你心里一闪而过的一丝迟疑，别人说什么都不算数的，又不是他们买也不是他们穿，有时甚至是瞎说说的。

  我有时喜欢一个人逛街，可以花时间慢慢看。人多意见就多了，有时倒真能影响你的选择。其实我们才是自己时尚的创造者，何必让别人来决定呢。

  既然你愿嫁的男人不出现，苦苦寻觅不如干脆好好享受单身生活——不仅单身，而且，尤其，更要“贵族”！

  单身其实未必离群索居；单身其实未必是痛苦、悲伤、气馁。单身的女人拥有自信、自爱、自尊和自立自强，拥有真心相待的闺中密友，拥有永远热情、恬淡、年轻的心和绝大部分时候灿烂的笑容。

  单身生活可以自由出彩，但是也需要我们的努力经营：

  首先，一定要有一份工作。经济基础决定上层建筑，一个人的独立，首先是经济上的独立。如果选择了单身，努力赚钱吧，让你的荷包能够承担得起你精致的单身生活。

  其次，要有一些真正的好朋友。单身不是要做独孤大侠，红颜也好蓝颜也罢，一定要有几个生死知交；单身不是要做灭绝师太，红尘有爱——爱自己，爱家人，爱朋友…

  买份保险吧。在年轻的时候就要有保险的观念，在你生病，在你垂老的时候，什么男朋友都没有保险指望得上。保险可以免除很多后顾之忧。好在爱情不能保，否则保险公司统统赔到破产。

  可能的话计划买房吧。爱情易碎，买房万岁。单身并不意味着没有家。对于单身女性来说，买下自己的房子，在心理层面等同于自尊、独立、安全感；在现实层面，则等同于投资意向、经济收益。

  把学习和旅游列入人生计划。有那么多的知识可以养性，那么多的美丽景色去养心，各地的美食来养胃，漂亮的衣衣又养眼，既然我们有的是大把的时间给自己，为什么不呢！

  还要娱乐自己照顾自己。选择单身是为了自由为了享受，那么单身生活必须丰富多彩、有声有色，才不辜负自己。单身女人要快乐要美丽要精彩！做“单身贵族“、“懒嫁一族“也没什么大惊小怪的。

  单身是一种状态，是一种选择，也是一种宣言。单身可能是暂时也可能是永恒，不管如何，正在单身着的朋友让我们把单身过成一种境界吧！