就是学会心平气和地跟别人吵架。
你在跟他吵架,但却是心平气和,不像是吵架。
目的是: disengage with him
但跟他吵架,又是 engage with him
你懂我的意思吗?
因为: 当一个人,不用为自己的错误,支付成本时,他是不会改正自己的错误的。
所以,对付不讲道理,自私自利的人,我会跟他吵一架,然后互相脱离。
本周刚刚跟这种人吵了一架,其他部门的经理,三番五次,对我提出不合理的要求,想侵蚀我的界线和权力。
我直接告诉他,stop doing this nonsense to me.
I don't have the time to deal with your nonsense.
What you did to me makes me feel uncomfortable.
You have no right to do this to me.
然后,直接ignore 这种人,把他们当成空气。
如果不得不跟这种人打交道,就通过第三方。
Bottom line: life is too short. Don't spend your valuable time and energy on other people nonsense.
You can not change people.
Movie: The Holdovers 里有一句经典台词:Life is like a henhouse ladder. It is short and shitty.