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女儿申请大学的个人文章-看了泪奔

(2014-11-30 21:47:20) 下一个

今天是加州大学申请表格的最后期限,女儿说今天一定会把文章和申请表递交,我都被她急死了,怎么会等到最后一天才递交呢?如果网站当了,你不是失去机会了?当然,在我们全家左催右促下,她姗姗地把文章给我看,我一读,就感动得泪奔。然后,抱住女儿说,好文,你真是个好孩子。大家读读看,觉得如何。


 

UC Personal Statements Final

 

Special World

 

The world I come from starts as a straight path, then diverts slightly, and then ultimately strays off into a completely new direction. My family owns a family-business, which requires both of my parents to work nearly everyday except for Sunday. My older brother is away at college and I normally stay at home. I often babysit my 15-year old little brother Johnny, who towers above me by two feet and far exceeds my own strength.

I admit that caring for him can be frustrating. He is picky when it comes to how I cook food, and he has difficulty controlling his temper when he is bored. It is difficult to do any homework around him, for that if he wanders off, he could not tell me where he is or call for help if he is hurt.

Occasionally, I find myself reflecting on this question: what would my life be like if my little brother was not autistic? Perhaps I would find myself in a typical family, where Johnny would attend school and aspire to go to college, where Johnny would learn how to drive, where Johnny would one day leave home behind. After reflecting upon this, I then ask myself if that is what I truly want. The answer will always be the same; I want to live the life I live in now.

My little brother Johnny is my beacon of hope the hope that people can learn to accept our differences, big or small. He made me see that there are things I cannot control, and that I should embrace them if they come. As I grew up, I struggled between living a life with the heightened responsibilities needed for Johnny and a life that ignored the challenges that come with Johnny.

 

In the beginning, all I wanted was to strive for my own aspirations, believing extensive responsibility for Johnny will hold me back. I tried to block out Johnnys presence in my mind, feeling that if I dwelled and fretted upon his condition, I would not have the opportunity to strive for myself. I was wrong; here I am, writing an essay for college, where many opportunities await.

 

There were times when I was afraid to be associated with Johnny in public for his erratic behavior. Often I pretended to not know him when I was with my family, as if being with him was something shameful. Back then, I was naīve, fearing that I would not be accepted for having a different kind of brother. Now, after meeting people of different backgrounds, I can see that success is not defined by ones own self-satisfaction but through accepting the differences of others. Every time I am with Johnny now, I feel as though he is not just my brother but my teacher of tolerance, showing that it is possible for people of different abilities to live with each other.

 

So as I think of such things where Johnny is "normal", I always remind myself that my perspectives of people are shaped by his influence on my life, and that I prefer this "special" version of him over a "normal"Johnny. I am grateful that I come from a family with a wonderful little brother who has taught me more than I could ever ask for, even if it makes my life is a bit unique.

 

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人間的盒子 回复 悄悄话 收藏了。
womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 '闲闲客' 的评论 : 谢谢闲闲这么说赞美话,把女儿和我都夸了一遍。新年愉快。
womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 '叔丁' 的评论 : 谢谢属丁的赞美和祝福。节日愉快。
闲闲客 回复 悄悄话 为你的女儿骄傲!好儿女离不开父母的好家教。祝愿你女儿顺利进入她心仪的学校。
叔丁 回复 悄悄话 成熟,有责任感,温暖的小女孩。all the best!
womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 'wawale' 的评论 : 谢谢娃娃。希望是这样。。新年愉快。
wawale 回复 悄悄话 好文章,一定能打动那些评审!祝福她!
womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 '南山松' 的评论 : 女儿比我想像得要懂事,谢谢你。
南山松 回复 悄悄话 写的真好,懂事成熟的女儿.
谢谢家mm分享,新周快乐!
womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 '桃镇' 的评论 : 谢谢桃镇。真希望她梦想成真。
womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 'NotALawyer2' 的评论 : 谢谢你。
womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 '南胖子' 的评论 : 谢谢南胖子。希望如此。
桃镇 回复 悄悄话 看完就泪奔了!愿她能够录到她心仪的学校。
NotALawyer2 回复 悄悄话 赞,全是智慧和正能量
南胖子 回复 悄悄话 很感动,你女儿一定会去她想去的学校。
womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 '小声音' 的评论 : 谢谢美女,希望她梦想成真。
womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 'XL彩虹' 的评论 : 谢谢彩虹。希望托你的吉言能够上她喜欢的加州大学。
小声音 回复 悄悄话 写的真好,女儿不仅聪明而且成熟懂事,
家mm好福气,预祝她进入理想的大学!:)
XL彩虹 回复 悄悄话 真的是好懂事的孩子,比俺女儿大一岁但写得文章像大人一样成熟:) 为你们骄傲和祝她进入一所她喜欢的学校!!
womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 'Armweak' 的评论 : 谢谢你对我一贯的支持鼓励。我女儿觉得上个加州大学就好,不想上私校.
womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 '围观生活' 的评论 : 谢谢围观大师的光临和留言,希望女儿能够心想事成。文学城州有不少你的粉丝,我也是一个呢。
womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 '水沫' 的评论 : 谢谢美女作家的鼓励,希望她的人生如你的吉言一样成功,谢谢你真诚的祝福,也同
样祝福你的孩子们。
womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 'erdong' 的评论 : 谢谢尔东,你总是那么善良和善解人意。
womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 'bymyheart' 的评论 : 谢谢心姐的真诚的鼓励,也抱抱心姐, 因为我们有着相同的命运。刚才去看了你的ZT文章,自闭儿与Siri, 很喜欢那篇文章。我也觉得我没有替女儿想过,不知道她内心的这么多挣扎和矛盾,现在知道了,感动,也觉得有点亏欠了她。我把很多责任交给她,没有从她的角度着想,还是她自己想通了,真好。
womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 'Lilac2003' 的评论 : 谢谢Lilac真诚的留言。
womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 'lzr' 的评论 : 谢谢你,我没有读过那篇文章,大概很不错。
womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 'ravic' 的评论 : 谢谢你的赞美。
womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 '空花水月' 的评论 : 谢谢空花水月,你的话很中肯,谢谢。
womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 'nycman' 的评论 : 谢谢纽约男的夸奖。你太过奖了。我发去子女坛了。大多妈妈都喜欢这文章,只有个别读者怀疑文章的真实性,我懒得辩解。做父母的会希望自己孩子有自闭症的吗?算了,不辩解了。

womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 'bobby41' 的评论 : 谢谢你的夸奖。她的确是好孩子,我也意识到了。
womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 '不爱热闹' 的评论 : 谢谢不爱热闹美女的留言和祝福,希望我女儿可以如愿以偿。我刚才去了你的博客,知道你有三个优秀孩子,还有两个上了藤校的孩子,真羡慕你。
womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 'nightrose' 的评论 : 他是我的责任义务,不工作也得照顾他。
womaninhome 回复 悄悄话 回复 '菲儿天地' 的评论 : 谢谢美丽的菲儿的夸奖,我觉得我女儿是真情的流露,所以文章才感动了你和我,我不是很会写作,你写得比我好多了。
看你的女儿后影,你女儿长得又高又苗条,我以为她也17岁了呢。等她申请时你当然可以问我,我会知无不言的。
Armweak 回复 悄悄话 这篇文章有让孩子去大藤的水平。据说,很多孩子不想离开加州,那就拿着它申请斯坦福吧。也许这篇文章是孩子今后有出息的催化剂呢。
围观生活 回复 悄悄话 写的真好,懂事的孩子。

祝录取顺利。
水沫 回复 悄悄话 这个女儿真了不起,小小年纪有这样的心胸和思想,她一定会有一个非常美好和成功的人生。真心值得骄傲的孩子,羡慕你!
erdong 回复 悄悄话 感动,真是个好孩子!
bymyheart 回复 悄悄话 写的真是好极了。我不仅是感动这个姑娘的文笔更是感受到她的仁爱成熟和智慧。谢谢分享,祝福你们全家。因为我也有一个自闭症的儿子和一个大他好几岁的女儿,孩子们心里经历的东西大人有时并没有完全体会到,她们的敏感接受欣赏对命运的公平的评判期待超过了我自己想象的成熟智慧。再一次感谢你。
Lilac2003 回复 悄悄话 只读一半文章,就已经泪奔.你有一个了不起的女儿.愿神祝福你女儿和家人.

最喜欢这句话!

"success is not defined by one’s own self-satisfaction but through accepting the differences of others"
lzr 回复 悄悄话 这似乎和中国高考父亡母亡的文章有异曲同工之妙.
ravic 回复 悄悄话 高中生有这样的理解和见地很难得!
空花水月 回复 悄悄话 My little brother Johnny is my beacon of hope ━ the hope that people can learn to accept our differences, big or small. He made me see that there are things I cannot control, and that I should embrace them if they come. ?

Now, after meeting people of different backgrounds, I can see that success is not defined by one’s own self-satisfaction but through accepting the differences of others. Every time I am with Johnny now, I feel as though he is not just my brother but my teacher of tolerance, showing that it is possible for people of different abilities to live with each other.

赞!冒泡上来恭喜你有个智慧而成熟的女儿,这是她人生最宝贵的财富。
nycman 回复 悄悄话 "I am grateful that I come from a family with a wonderful little brother who has taught me more than I could ever ask for, even if it makes my life is a bit unique."
这是我见到最好的申请大学文章。恭喜有这么出色的女儿。
最后一句简直是精神之光的升华。
建议ZT到子坦,让虎妈推爸们受受教育!
bobby41 回复 悄悄话 看得出她是个好女儿
不爱热闹 回复 悄悄话 我也泪奔,真是好孩子!祝她心想事成!
nightrose 回复 悄悄话
如果你女儿去外地上大学,谁来照顾你儿子呢?
菲儿天地 回复 悄悄话 我家的女儿小了两年,我还不是太搞得清申请大学的事情,以后来向你请教,但我觉得college admission 的人一点会看重她这篇揉和了个人经历和情感进去的好文,光有好文彩和光有感人的故事都还不够,要像她这样两者兼备才行。她是不是也遗传了你的会写?:)
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