Defensive stance: a long-time formed conditional reflex

People respond to certain circumstances in very predictable manners. After many years of conditioning, the neural circuitry has formed. Once the initial condition is present, the way of thought or response pattern is mostly the same. When talking with people, it already becomes natural to self to be in a very defensive and passive way. Become tense, guard up high, and ready to defend in a passive way. This response is a result of long-term self behavior and should be eradicated. Be conscious of this response pattern and be proactive to change it to a more proactive and natural way. Have fun. Don't put self in a subordinate position. Only you can lower yourself and nobody else can do that. So don't do that to self.