门当户对 almost kills me
(2015-04-17 08:20:55)
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Since I was a great victim of门当户对when I was in China as a great young man, let me talk a little bit of 门当户对. Otherwise, I just feel so bad since many talked about it.
First of all, this门当户对 almost killed No Worry. See many girls dumped me because of this门当户对. Could you image that you are going to marry a girl, and everything is ready, and seven days before the marriage, the parents of the girl say NO. And it was amazing that the girl also says NO. The reason? We two were not matched. They said. Of course, later I knew that they had another plan to marry another young man whose father was higher official.
The hurt and pain was great to me. Her father was the local Fu Mu Gwan who was controlling local Dang, Zheng and Jun. I had once been the future Fu Ma Yie for a year and half. Suddenly I became worse than a Qian Ma Fu.
See No Worry is No Worry after all. He surveyed, escaped and moved himself into a beautiful coastal city in China. And few months later, No Worry flied to America. Even now, some people back in China still talk of No Worry, bad or good and good or bad. No Worry is unique.
Sencond, 门当户对 is not equal to Zhi Tong Dao He, let alone a guarantee of happy marriage though门当户对 is a great fact we should think of when our kids or we think of marriage.
Third, to me, anyone no matter where he/she is from as long as he/she is well educated, his/her 门 and 户are not that important any more. And if you are smart and intelligent enough like my beautiful wife, you should marry those whose 门and 户 are not as good as yours. Those like No Worry from none well-off 门 and 户 will surely appreciate your love and your help.
Fourth, I would love to say the order of importance of marriage should like this: character, personality, physical attraction and health, education, and of course 门 and 户.
Well, you are right. I can’t say nothing if you just love that guy one-way or other at one glance. But I can assure you that most of times, this kind of love or marriage cannot last long enough unless you don’t need to worry about food and clothing like Qi Xian Nui whom I want to marry all the time, even now sometimes in my dream.
Well good luck to your love and your marriage.