Social skills are the key

From the message of “ promotion” by 就不留真名了, we can see how critical it is of social skills besides our good jobs, great knowledge and technical skills and wonderful personality and character. 
For whatever reason, most of our Chinese American parents pay great attention to our kids’ math, natural science, Chinese, piano, drawing, swimming, tennis, Ping-Pong, soccer, you name it, but almost forget about the social skills of reading, writing, talking, communicating, presenting and selling when we talk about kids educations which would be harmful to our kids.  It is harmful not only in their study, but also in their career, social life such as marriage and family.
There are many social skills, but I believe these of reading, witting, talking, listening, communicating, presenting and selling are the key ones.
Scientists believe that reading is the key of these social skills.  One has to have an excellent reading skill to be outstanding almost in anything like study, research, law, business, politics, family life, etc.  Reading is not just reading a book though reading books is a great part of it.  I believe that I can give many examples of this.  Bill Clinton, my great hero is a super reader.  Another super reader is our Giant Mao.  No matter you like them or not, they are super, at least super readers.
How importing is our writing in our life?  Think about how many jobs we lost because our poor writings of cover letter and resume and how many beautiful girls or charming boys we missed because our poor love letters.  Look at our Giant Mao again.  Most of times, tears come into my eyes whenever I read his  “I lost my beauty Yang” How many married man still calls his wife a Beauty after many years’ marriage?  Not many, especially when she was passed away long time ago. It is just touching by his great feeling and excellent writing skills.  No wonder Mao could be the emperor and people are crazy about him and follow him.   And look at the letter by 就不留真名了to his boss.  I would not promote him/her to be a supervisor no matter how well he/she does at the job just by his/her letter.  
By the way, I double-check my important document with my wife all the time because her English is much better than mine.  I check my formal email with help of my close co-workers all the time and I double-check my Internet message just once because I don’t have much time for Internet chatting and it is causal.  Please forgive me for my English and typing, ladies and gentlemen, my dear chatters. 
Talking skill itself is very challenge.  We Chinese have a saying of Yi Ju Hua Bai Yang Shuo.  Can we Yi Ju Hua Yi Yang Shuo well?  I doubt about it.  Look at ourselves at Education site.  Just like once袖子said that she just felt uncomfortable when No Worry says of anything though he is right.  See even No Worry is not good talker if  袖子 is not a bad listener.  How sad it is if we are not a good talker but we have to talk everyday.
Listening is pretty as same important as talking.  How many parents here are good listeners?  To be frank, no that many, especially to different ideas, views and opinions, let alone to attacks.  How can we teach our kids to be good listeners if we are not?  Or how come we can raise our kids well if we are not ready to listen to our kids?
Many of us may think of presentation as a conference meeting, or job interview or Xiang Dui Xiang.  The reality is that we present ourselves every day and every moment.  Our hair, our address, our manner, or our image helps or hurts us all the time without realizing it.  One statistics that is very high shows that people lose the job opportunity right at the moment they come into the interview room because of their image.   I suggest you not to do it any more if your wife still cut your hair.  It hurts you in your career though you may save a couple of bucks.
Nowadays, there are many way of communicating, do we make a use of them?  Like 就不留真名了, did he/she ever thought of talking, email, phone?  I guess not much.
The last, but not the least important of social skills is selling ourselves.  I can say for sure that you can never be great if you are not great salesman or saleslady no matter how good you are at anything else.  I can give zillions of examples of this.  We’ve just got to know how to sell ourselves.
Do you great ladies and gentlemen, wonderful mommies and daddies,  and my dear chatters  realize that No Worry is a super salesman at selling himself? If you don’t, then go back and study hard the social kills of reading, witting, talking, listening, communicating, presenting and selling.  It is your homework for today, for tomorrow and for the day after tomorrow or maybe forever until you are sure that you are pretty good at it.  It is good for you as well as for our lovely kids.