在冬天里的夜话

冰天雪地里的夜晚，如果有一炉幽幽燃起来的火红的壁炉，让热浪慢慢弥漫开来；如果又碰巧遇到一群可以随意的人在一起，热烈的词语，在空中飞舞盘旋，慢慢地走远了，不久又回到了原点。一定是一件非常惬意的事情。

 

其实我们不必去在意彼此间的看法，无论对与错，好与坏，红与黑，都不重要，重要的是你可以拥有自己的东西，别人无需刻意去改变它们。在随意的时刻，让每个人都有一份抒发情感的舞台，无论有没有人为此喝彩，都会是很精彩的演出。

 

在冬天里的夜话。。。

 

[Night Talk in Winter] On a snowy night, if there is a flaming fireplace faintly burning, the heat wave will slowly diffuse; Lovely words hovered, walked away slowly, and soon returned to the original point. This must be a very pleasant thing  to experience in the night of winter.

 

In fact, we don't have to care about each other's opinions. It doesn't matter whether it's right or wrong, good or bad, red or black. The important thing is that you can own your own things, and others don't need to deliberately change them. At relief moments, let everyone have a stage to express their emotions, no matter whether there are people applauding for it, it will be a wonderful performance.

 

Night talk in winter. . .

 

【生活里的小秘蜜】在平淡生活里，常常会想起曾经那些平淡的时光里，那些微不足道的小事，它突然会触动了你内心。

 

在南京读书的时候，周末就常常会去姑姑家过周末，这似乎成为了一种习惯，当时没有觉得特别，常常还会带一些东西回去继续独自享受。

 

直到有一天，看到要离家的Lucy，很自然地会装少量的东西，带回去品味的时候，才意识到自己那个时候，是有多幸运，却从未表达过我的感谢。

 

生活里一定装满了很多小秘蜜，其实有时候我们需要让她们知道我们的感受，无论是家人，还是朋友。
 

[Small secrets in life] In ordinary life, I often think of those insignificant little things in those ordinary times, which will suddenly touch your heart.
 

When I was student in Nanjing, I often went to my aunt’s house to spend weekends. This seemed to be a habit. I didn’t think it was special at the time, and I often brought some things back to enjoy it alone.

 

Until one day, when I saw Lucy who was leaving home, she would naturally pack a small amount of things and bring them back to taste. I realized how lucky I was at that time, but I never expressed my gratitude.

 

Life must be full of little secrets. In fact, sometimes we need to let them know how we feel, whether it is family or friends.

 

【在那些被遗忘的地方】在我来这里读书的早期时候，出于学语言的目的，选择了几个晚间节目，一直看了很久。其中的《Cheers》是我喜欢的节目之一，尤其喜欢演员Kirstie Alley，她是一位非常有特色的漂亮女演员，嗓音是沙哑，幽默搞笑的那种人。 后来眼见着她渐渐老去，如今离我们远去，我还是挺喜欢她的。

 

[Memories In Those Forgotten Places] When I came here in the very early period of long time ago, for the purpose of learning the language, I chose a few evening shows and watched them for a long time. Among them, "Cheers" is one of my favorite shows, especially the actress Kirstie Alley. She is a very distinctive and beautiful actress with a husky voice and a humorous kind of person. Later, seeing her getting old and now far away from us, I still like her quite a lot.

 

 

【文明会是六亲不认吗】最近看到一个视频，说文明进步的加速度，会让社会里的人，彼此之间加速进入了一种状态 ，最典型的语言就是六亲不认，主题思想就是不去干预对方的生活，无论他（她）生活的好与不好，你都没有权利去介入。

 

家庭父母儿女之间的疏远关系，正在成为被认可推崇的一种行为方式。 愉快语言交流的体验，随着无声的message 快速的传递，当直面现实生活时，语言越来越无处安放，只好沉默地面对熟悉的环境。 在阳光明媚的日子里，却仿佛生活在无形的狭小空间里，感受到了挤压的气息，眼前有一道看不见的城墙。 

 

在自然的眼里，自然和谐关系是否会是，你在远处遥望，我在远方默默守护你，你我他在努力探寻中，让彼此不断成长，即便我们永远不会知道前面的路会是怎样的艰难，而不是一群陌路天涯的人。

 

Y和W的一次有趣的对话

 

W：很有道理，特别是对文明的理解，人与人有可能就会遵循人与自然的文明发展进程。但也有些没想通，我再想想。

 

Y：我觉得文明这个词有些太抽象。你不能说3000年前的文明是落后的，我到觉得那个时候的文明非常的了不起，人和自然有一种和谐的氛围。所有的一切，也许是社会前行中的一种自然现象，就像曾经辉煌的希腊，埃及，古罗马文化。

 

W：我理解文明是人类向其目标的正向发展过程中某个状态。但目标是什么呢？

 

Y：如果那个目标恰恰不正向的，是什么力量能让文明回归？也许文明的本质，就是人本身，在自然中的关系。奢华的物质追求不能说是文明进步的体现。人定胜天是荒谬了，与天斗与地斗是荒谬的，许多荒谬的事情在侵嗜着人与自然之间的关系。

 

W：是，终点可能就是一起完蛋。也就没什么大不了的了。因此不再寻找终极目标，只体会过程中的让自己心动的美好，也就是回到人本身。

 

Y：远大目标就是所有的一切都会归于尘土，在千万年后，只有石头会在这个世界上存下来。人在自然里是一个渺小的存在，只是一瞬间的事儿。回归自然里的那个人，活在当下的日子里才是真实的。

 

W：恐龙一两亿年都没了。搞过古生物的境界不一样

 

Y：[握手][握手]和你的对话很受益。

 

【Civilization will not recognize relatives】I saw a video recently, saying that the acceleration of civilization progress will make people in the society accelerate into an very loose state with each other. The most typical language is not to recognize the relatives. The main idea is not to interfere . You have no right to intervene in the life of the other party, no matter whether he (she) lives well or not.

 

The estranged relationship between parents and children in the family is becoming a recognized and respected behavior. With the  little experience of pleasant language communication,  and with the rapid transmission of silent messages, when we are facing real life, language has no place to rest, so we have to face the familiar environment silently. On a sunny day, it seems to be living in an invisible small space, feeling the squeezed atmosphere, and there is an invisible city wall in front of you.

 

In the eyes of nature, will the natural harmonious relationship be that you are watching from a distance, and I will silently guard you from a distance?  you and I are working hard to explore and let each other grow continuously, even if we will never know what the road ahead will be and how difficult it is. Just don’t be a group of strangers.

 

An interesting conversation between Y and W

 

W: Very reasonable, especially for the understanding of civilization, people may follow the development process of civilization between people and nature. But there are some things I can't figure out, let me think again.

 

Y: I think the word civilization is too abstract. You can't say that civilization 3,000 years ago was backward. I think the civilization at that time was very remarkable, and there was a harmonious atmosphere between man and nature. Everything may be a natural phenomenon in the progress of society, just like the once glorious Greek, Egyptian, and ancient Roman cultures.

 

W: I understand civilization as a certain state in the positive development of human beings toward their goals. But what is the goal?

 

Y: If that goal is just not positive, what power can bring civilization back? Perhaps the essence of civilization is the relationship between man himself and nature. Luxurious material pursuits cannot be said to be the embodiment of civilization and progress. It is absurd that man will conquer the sky, it is absurd to fight against the sky and the earth, and many absurd things are encroaching on the relationship between man and nature.

 

W: Yes, the end point may be to end up together. It's no big deal. Therefore, I no longer look for the ultimate goal, but only experience the beauty that makes my heart beat in the process, that is, to return to the human being.

 

Y: The lofty goal is that everything will return to dust. After thousands of years, only stones will survive in this world. Man is an insignificant existence in nature, just a momentary thing. The person who returns to nature and lives in the present is real.

 

W: Dinosaurs are gone for 100 to 200 million years. The realm of paleontology is different

 

Y: [Shake hands] [Shake hands] It's very beneficial to have a conversation with you.

 

【寒冷的夜晚需要温暖】寒冷的冬天，记得出门的时候，穿上防寒的衣服。 在告别阴郁杂乱不堪的日子时，不要忘了给自己一个温暖拥抱，你的家人朋友需要你的快乐。 记得这个星期日，将是世界杯的冠军争夺战，一定不要错过，因为他们的故事都太精彩了。 

 

周末愉快。

 

 

[Cold nights need warmth] In cold winter, remember to wear cold-proof clothes when you go out. Don't forget to give yourself a warm hug as you bid farewell to the gloomy and messy days. Your family and friends need your happiness. Remember that this Sunday will be the World Cup championship game ，so don't miss it, because their stories are so exciting. 

 

Happy weekend!