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人生随意，随意人生
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母女之战，一场永无停止的“战争”
家有准TEENAGE----12岁的女儿，每天头痛如何教育她！你说一句，她可以还上十句，要不，回到她自己的房间，关门，以沉默表示抗议。想当个“后妈”，管她那么多干嘛？顺其自然呗，可又忍不住自作多情，仍要时不时叮咛唠叨几句，当亲妈的心里方才略觉心安。
几日前我在家大清扫，从地上捡起几张纸，纸上密密麻麻写满了小字，文章名字：我的妈妈（英文版），大约写了二千字左右，其中云：我生她确实幸苦（早产），作为移民，为了生存，在加国也经历了很多。她对我表示感谢，因为我与她爸没有向困难低头，没有吸烟吸毒酗酒去逃避生活，而是尽力地给她提供必要的条件，让她作她喜欢的事。笔峰一转，谈到我教育她时，若她不听从，我总是生气地说：“我会按照中加两地法律，把你抚养到十八岁。十八岁以后，你从我家搬出去，我已尽完我的责任。”她说每听到这句话，她心里非常难受，因为她不觉得她在十八岁可以自己养活自己，更觉得在这一时刻我是一个她生活中的负面形象的代表。”看完文章，我心里感慨万千，为人母扒心扒肺的对孩子好，为孩子考虑，孩子却有自己的想法。
女儿下楼，看到我手里攥了几张纸，立刻紧张起来：“妈妈，你没事吧？”我答道：“文章写得不错，不过段落表达的不是很清楚。让别人很难懂你讲啥。比如你这篇文章应该分为这样几部分：妈妈移民前后的生活，妈妈有你后的生活，妈妈的观念与你发生冲突时的故事，你自己对妈妈的要求与想法。”女儿点点头：“大部分的地方，我还是在夸你的。”我答:“不错，还能写上二千字，有进步。今天是大清扫日，你是女孩，要学会把自己收拾清爽。你如果不把你的房间收拾整洁，妈妈就进去收拾了。这是我的房子，你把房间收拾好，是对我的尊重与礼貌。我不进去收拾，也是对你的尊重与礼貌，因为你的东西你知道放哪，我挪了，你就找不到了。”女儿皱起眉头，道 ：“今天不是我的清洁日，我答应过你，我一个星期只收拾一次我的房间就可以了。你也同意了，今天我房间是怎样就怎样。”我无语，想呵，也是。
女儿下楼，看到我手里攥了几张纸，立刻紧张起来：“妈妈，你没事吧？”我答道：“文章写得不错，不过段落表达的不是很清楚。让别人很难懂你讲啥。比如你这篇文章应该分为这样几部分：妈妈移民前后的生活，妈妈有你后的生活，妈妈的观念与你发生冲突时的故事，你自己对妈妈的要求与想法。”女儿点点头：“大部分的地方，我还是在夸你的。”我答:“不错，还能写上二千字，有进步。今天是大清扫日，你是女孩，要学会把自己收拾清爽。你如果不把你的房间收拾整洁，妈妈就进去收拾了。这是我的房子，你把房间收拾好，是对我的尊重与礼貌。我不进去收拾，也是对你的尊重与礼貌，因为你的东西你知道放哪，我挪了，你就找不到了。”女儿皱起眉头，道 ：“今天不是我的清洁日，我答应过你，我一个星期只收拾一次我的房间就可以了。你也同意了，今天我房间是怎样就怎样。”我无语，想呵，也是。
翌日，我教她学中文。我说：“暑假，几日未学中文呢？”她答：“我的中文在班上为A。”我答：“你说过你的中文没我好，所以你可以不经我的允许就看我的手机，为什么我不能随时看你的手机呢？”她答：“我的中文水平没你高，十个字略懂一半，还有一半猜猜看，八九都是错的。但你的英文水平高过我的中文水平，略低于我的英文水平，所以我手机上的东西你都看的懂，你手机上的东西我不懂。”这个逻辑水平与 狡辩水平，我这当妈的都得给赞，我又道 ：“不行，我们得平等，你看我的，我就能看你的，你的中文水平不高，你应该学会如何提高它。你的手机我必须监督。”她答道：“好吧！”从此以后，她将手机上所有的邮件及个人信息等设置的密码为“指纹解密”(她的指纹，我仅可开机)。
今日一高兴，她说：“妈妈，我考你一道逻辑题。有十个人，被外星人抓了，外星人让他们依个子高矮排队，每个人头上还得带顶帽子，由最后一个排入队中的人开始猜，头上的帽子是黑色还是白色，他们只允许犯错一次，否则全部都被外星人吃掉。你怎么看？”我看了一下YOU-TUBE，开始发晕，节目中一排卡通小人，不停地变换着帽子，直答：“为什么不直接告诉有几顶白帽子还是黑帽子？”女儿答：“不需要，最后一个人最高，他可以看到前面所有人帽子的颜色，具体几顶帽子黑色还是白色不重要，答案有很多种，这个题问的判断的方法，而不是结果，结果有很多个。妈妈，你输了。”就让她高兴一把，乘热打铁,问道：“宝贝，教你首中文诗，好不好？”她答道：“好啊，我考住你了。让你高兴一下。”
不敢教她太深的古文诗，专挑简单的：
《明日歌》
《明日歌》
明日复明日，明日何其多。
我生待明日，万事成蹉跎。
世人若被明日累，春去秋来老将至。
朝看水东流，暮看日西坠。
百年明日能几何？请君听我明日歌。
继续给女儿出题，问道：“妈妈给你解释《明日歌》，听懂了吗？你把翻译成英文好不好？”女儿狡黠地看着我答道：“不懂，妈妈。”再出招，妈妈：“给你英文版，你看懂后写一篇三百字的文章给我，行也行，不行也行。”
Song of Tomorrow
Tomorrow comes and again tomorrow.
Tomorrow are like rivers that endlessly flow.
If all my things are put off till tomorrow,
My time wasted to no purpose will brow woe.
All mortals are tired of the sake of tomorrow,
The passage of time will make them old before they know.
In the morning they see water eastward running,
At dusk they see the sun in the west low hanging.
How many tomorrows are in your lifetime, do you know?
Please listen to me sing the Song of Tomorrow.
Tomorrow are like rivers that endlessly flow.
If all my things are put off till tomorrow,
My time wasted to no purpose will brow woe.
All mortals are tired of the sake of tomorrow,
The passage of time will make them old before they know.
In the morning they see water eastward running,
At dusk they see the sun in the west low hanging.
How many tomorrows are in your lifetime, do you know?
Please listen to me sing the Song of Tomorrow.
我又问她：“懂了没？”女儿看逃不脱了，点点头：“懂了。”妈妈再告诉你些英文名句3有同样的意思 ：“Yesterday is already gone, tomorrow can not see, but only today is here, one today is worth two tomorrows. 意思是今天的事今天做，不要拖到明天，一天拖一天，你什么事都完成不了。三百字文，1h以后给我。”女儿答道：“我交文章，下星期二你得带我去看《Annabelle》,我网上写的文章得找点感觉。”我答道：“跟你爸一样，爱看鬼片，好吧！加五十字。”女儿又问道：“妈妈，你为什么不看我网上的文章，只检查你给我出的题？”答：“你不是嫌我哆嗦吗？网上你的文章是写给你的同龄人看的，需要的是想象能力，我训练你的是写作能力。各有各的要求，我要是看了，估计三天三夜，你妈都可以说得停不下来，而且难听的肯定大于好听的。你想吗？"
一小时后女儿写完了，我看了一遍，打回去，让她重写。三遍修改以后，略能见人，虽然还是跑题了，但文章尚能见人。曾答应过她，若文章超过五百字，放入我的博客。与女儿的斗智斗勇，也是为人父母的一个成长过程。
女儿文章如下：
When it is all play and no work, our life is basically a mess because we have no goals and
no time limit. We have no plan for anything because there is not a balance between our goals and desires. Our desires may be stressful eating or watching too much T.V. Laziness is probably the one that most affects our life; it is the result of being unwilling to work or use energy. Laziness affects us in a different way, but we only get one result, which is the inability to accomplish any goal in our life. Did you fulfill any of your New Year’s resolutions or finish any of your projects on time?
In summary,I believed that life needs to be constantly in balance. All play and no work or all work and no play are just like a sword’s two sides, the sharp edges will hurt the balance of our life. Putting the unnecessary thing behind the necessary thing will make our life more efficient. It will make our goals more clear and make an achievement that brings more pleasure in our life. Making the balance is the most important thing in our life.
女儿文章如下：
THE BALANCE OF OUR LIFE
Everybody has his/ her bad habits, such as lazy and selfish, but those imperfections are
what make us human beings. What is thereal problem going through our life? It is an imbalance that includes laziness in our life. In my opinion, getting the balance is the most important thing in our lives. We cannot have all play and no work or all work and no play. All work and no play make Jack a dull boy.
what make us human beings. What is thereal problem going through our life? It is an imbalance that includes laziness in our life. In my opinion, getting the balance is the most important thing in our lives. We cannot have all play and no work or all work and no play. All work and no play make Jack a dull boy.
When it is all play and no work, our life is basically a mess because we have no goals and
no time limit. We have no plan for anything because there is not a balance between our goals and desires. Our desires may be stressful eating or watching too much T.V. Laziness is probably the one that most affects our life; it is the result of being unwilling to work or use energy. Laziness affects us in a different way, but we only get one result, which is the inability to accomplish any goal in our life. Did you fulfill any of your New Year’s resolutions or finish any of your projects on time?
Laziness is one voice in our head that tells us to do it later. “Later” turns out to be few hours. Instead, it is a day, a week, a month, and even a year. It seems that everything would be forgotten until the day of the deadline or until you completely give up it. It seems that the time we should be spending on necessary tasks is wasted on unnecessary things like social media, video games or reading some popular novels. I mean that how does it help us if we have a few hundred subscribers from You-tube? How does knowing the spells in Harry Potter do anything useful for us? In life, not everything can be done with just a flick of a wand. Nothing is easy in life. How is it truly important to be a top player in Call of Duty?
We spend hours by hours to play any videogame, but none of them has actually helped us in any way. While I am playing the piano, I think an hour had already finished, but in reality only a few minutes had pasted. When we played the videogames for hours we feel that it
just likes a few minutes. While we are writing essays, “Writer’s block” is always in our minds as an excuse, but there is no such thing as “writer’s block”. In truth, it is just the inability of not focusing on our necessary tasks. All play and no work is how we fail our goals in life.
We spend hours by hours to play any videogame, but none of them has actually helped us in any way. While I am playing the piano, I think an hour had already finished, but in reality only a few minutes had pasted. When we played the videogames for hours we feel that it
just likes a few minutes. While we are writing essays, “Writer’s block” is always in our minds as an excuse, but there is no such thing as “writer’s block”. In truth, it is just the inability of not focusing on our necessary tasks. All play and no work is how we fail our goals in life.
On the other hand, all work and no play will make life busy and boring, and we are unable to enjoy any pleasures from our life. We will lose our self-respect and self-esteem in such a busy life. No human being can survive for a very long time if they live everyday like a robot that cannot stop working. We simply cannot live with all the stress in our life without a rest. Everything can be fixed with a schedule or a plan to accommodate our desires. Having a break time for 25 minutes will keep us sane. A break time can make us close our eyes and drink some water. Having a break time for one or two hours to help us read or do anything that we desire will satisfy our desires Having a little bit of junk food in our diet plan will allow our bodies to intake more healthy foods since it is not a 100% strict diet plan with just healthy foods. The organization and management of time can help us to improve and get a good balance in our life.
In summary,I believed that life needs to be constantly in balance. All play and no work or all work and no play are just like a sword’s two sides, the sharp edges will hurt the balance of our life. Putting the unnecessary thing behind the necessary thing will make our life more efficient. It will make our goals more clear and make an achievement that brings more pleasure in our life. Making the balance is the most important thing in our life.
我看她手机要经过她批准的，她看我手机是不用经过批准的，这是为什么我说她制定了“不平等条约”。
她有几次把学生号与家庭详细信息编在了邮箱与FACEBOOK里，引起了我的警醒，告诉她的一些网络案件后，她进行了调整。你也可从文中看出，她不想我看到的东西已用她的指纹设置了密码。
教育过程中，没有什么东西是绝对的。大部分时侯，我会忽略结果，而只是问她为什么做出这样的选择？她说出想法，我们共同做选择。