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Dear MM:

I am so glad that u return my letter so quickly. For all the questions u asked are very important and smart that are needed to be answered by me now. It is show not only u are very interest to me but also u are thinking clearly that is quite few trait for a yang lady in u r age.

First, i will tell u my personal story and family in more detail so u can know me more.

I came to America when i graduated from a college. I was born in china in a family with one younger sister and one younger brother. My father is ergomania and was absent from my childhood life. It is a fortune to me because that he does not like art and literature at all. Therefore i could have enough time to develope my personal interest without his influence. My mother affected me a lot. No mater what i tried to develop my potentiality during my childhood, she alway gave me the full support and enthusiastic encourage.

Now my parents are living at usa. My sister and her family are too. My brother is canadian living at china with his family.

I divorced many years ago. I and my ex-wife both have been losing the feeling that lovers shared to each other for long time. Finally, one day we told each other the truth and end the relationship that bother us so much. We both are relax and happy now and our daughter is old enough to understand that. We are still good friends or relatives like brother and sister but no longer lovers. My be u do not understand what i am talking about because u do not experience marriage. So my suggestion to those who is going to marred is that if u want to love some one for all u r life, do not marry him/her. Otherwise, do it. Love for life long could be existing, but love relationship for life long hardly survive. Reality is the coldblood killer for lovers. Never expecting ur spouse to love u forever. I am lucky when a lady say she love me and she mean it. The next moment, she changed her mind is quite normal and i will not be surprised and mad so far she is honest. That is what i understand about human nature basing on my observation and experience. For a man, the same nature law rules.  The human brain is such secret thing that is so vulnerable to be misleading. May be we are created by god this way, however, we create marriage to cage our love ignoring the fact that our effort is futile.

I am sorry if my pessimistic opinion about human nature brought u a scary picture of marriage. However it is true and why we value loyalty to lover. ..........

I do wish to love u forever. It is very honest at this moment. But one year later, two, three, .....

Someday at future, the love gone, like it is happen at our daily life to many people. They frustrated and depressed.

I do not expect our relation can continue for life long. If is does, we are lucky. If not, it is ok to me. We are still need to live our life. There are still lot of other things need us to finish. Life without love is painful, but that pain is bearable. I do not trying to disappoint u with the blue picture of human nature. Wish u understanding what i am saying is truth, nothing else but truth.。。。。。。

Sincerely yours

Brian