暖冬cool夏
这里一年四季温暖如春，没有酷暑没有严寒......
My trip to China would not be complete without seeing relatives and having sumptuous dinners, a tradition that is imbedded in our culture and dies hard. Honestly I don’t like being enveloped in an enclosed room with loud noise and stagnant air, where people eat, smoke, drink and talk. But a get-together might be the most effective way to greet everybody without visiting door to door. Being away for so many years, unfamiliarity breeds, though Mom has been doing a good job filling the gap, telling me the stories about the younger generation and each family during my absence, and I piece them together with my own imaginations.
Xiao Shuang is my niece. She is slim, tall, and pretty. Under her short but stylish hair is a face with fair skin, typical to Southeastern girls in the area. She is still single in her early 30s, considered to be a “leftover girl” in the public eyes. I remember seeing in year 2014’s Spring Festival when I was home, talking to her into any possible relationship. Five years have gone by, and she remains unmarried. She never reveals her inner self to me of how it feels being alone. When asked how her routine weekends are like, she would tell me that she whiles them away reading, listening to music or watching movies. But what mom later told me made my jaw drop. A quiet shy girl like her turns out to be a frantic fan of certain singers, pursuing the live concerts as far as in Spain. Additionally, she frequented Shanghai for new movies premiere, staying there overnight just for a movie.
I tried to find commonality among her life and mine, asking myself where I was at her age. In my whole life, I’ve never been to one big live concert. My ideology is more traditional, thinking that life without marriage is never complete, not that your name is not carried on nor your bloodline is not extended, but life should be multifaceted. Being single, you never know what it tastes to have your other half filled, matched or mismatched.
But I guess she lives her own way, independently and self-fulfillingly. Even though in poeple's eyes she is a 3S women, a term coined in early 2000s standing for "single, seventies (1970s) (she is 1980s) and stuck", she does not feel herself stuck in middle of anywhere, but carefree without the bondage. With a decent job and income, she does not seem to need a marriage to step up herself into instant wealth or higher social status. Plus, there is no free lunch in this world, gaining means sacrifice.
没有牛奶可以用豆浆或almand silk 代替的，也可以买那种小罐装的牛奶。
问好暖冬，周末快乐！
当然，不想结婚，不将就的，喜欢单身贵族的，不在此列。
有些是不想嫁，单身主义，但是如果有好的追求就嫁了就不是真单身主义。
我亲戚里也有，也没办法，父母愁，不想你表姐那样想的开。
在找男朋友问题上，好的定义是很个体化的，不是好男人没有了，而是没遇到合适的人，社交面还没宽到遇见情人。
人的外表不代表一切，但看着不舒服都没有交往下去的感觉啊。碰上性格，人品不理想的会给自己带来累赘和痛苦。不结婚（或晚婚）倒是很自由，国内人比较熟络不会太人单影只，就是国内父母，亲戚朋友等会nagging, 很烦。
宁缺勿滥，千万别凑合，小双自己快乐就好。
And hone your strength everyday. Marry or not, you are going to needed it.
我两者都经历过，最后总结还是一个人更容易得到幸福。