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人老了,水冷了 (When the Water Ran Cold)

(2017-06-29 10:19:46) 下一个
喜欢一个人静静地坐在清晨或黄昏的小院,捧一本书,任清风拂面,享乐其中。
 
《读者文摘》一直是我喜爱的杂志之一,只是眼睛老花了,换成大字体的。借的这两本都两个多星期了,续了第三次了,今日快看完了。
 
“当水变凉时”, 2017年三月刊的这篇文章读后让我感慨。这是一篇孙子回忆与祖父相处的日子和对话的散文。文中说得好,人生就如洗澡,年轻时洗澡水是热的,你也许会认为水会一直这样热下去,直到你步入中年,水变得温吞吞的,不冷不热,你拼命地扭拧龙头,有一天你们明白水温再也不可能回到从前......
 
无奈,岁月的无奈。岁月就似流水,流逝得无影无踪,一去不回头。落花有意,流水无情。
 
快八点了,起身上楼洗澡准备上班,脑海里一直想着这篇文章。我不自觉地将水开到最能忍受的温度,告诉自己且享受这一刻......
 
 

I stepped out of the backyard door, blanketed myself and sat in a chair with Reader’s Digest in my hand. It has been one of my favorite magazines since college. The only difference is that I am reading a large-print version borrowed from the library.

The morning breeze was crispy and cool as I leafed through pages of jokes and laughs in March 2017 issue.  Then I stopped at an article titled “When the water Ran Cold” and read carefully from the beginning to the end. It’s a short story about a grandson asking his 91 years old grandpa what it feels like to grow old.  Below are some excerpts:

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“Have you ever been in a hot shower when the water ran cold?’ The grandpa asked.

“That’s what aging feel like,” he says. “In the beginning of your life, it’s like you’re taking a hot shower. At first the water is too warm, but you get used to the heat and begin enjoying it. When you’re young, you think it’s going to be this way forever. Life goes on like this for a while.”

Grandpa gives me a mischievous grin and leans toward me. “And if you are lucky,” he whispers, just out of Grandma’s earshot, “a few good-looking women will join you in the shower until you decide to settle down.”

We both laugh. He leans back in his chair, looks out the window, and continues on.

“But you begin to feel it somewhere between your 40s and 50s. The water temperature drops just the slightest bit. It’s almost imperceptible, but you know it happened, and you know what it means. You try to pretend like you didn’t feel it, but you still turn the faucet up to stay warm. But the water keeps going lukewarm. One day you realize the faucet can’t go any farther, and from here on out the temperature begins to drop—you gradually feel the warmth leaving your body.

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“It’s a rather helpless feeling, truth told.’ He continues. “The water is still pleasant, but you know it’ll soon become cold and there’s nothing you can do. I knew a few people who decide to leave the shower on their own terms. They knew it was never going to get warmer, so why prolong the inevitable? I was able to stay in because I contented myself recalling the showers of my youth. I lived a good life but still wish I hadn’t taken my younger years for granted. It’s too late now, and no matter how hard I try, I'll never get the hot water on again.”

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As a middle-aged woman, I do feel like living in a lukewarm water, and am reminiscent of the young and old days. But isn't the time like the water and flows away in one direction? Can we hold on tight to the youth and not let it go?  Can we clench our fingers tight enough not to let the water slip through the slits of our fingers?  Aging is inevitable, and if we can prolong in any way, it is to keep a young heart, live positively and forwardly.  One day when we are really old, we will be content that we “dream our dream of our youth, remembering the warmth of days gone by, the days before the water ran cold.”

Water will eventually run cold. But let's try to let it run still and deep.

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暖冬cool夏 回复 悄悄话 回复 '7grizzly' 的评论 : Like you, my friend, I am actually in a better and healthier position than what I was many years ago. When I had my birthday last year end, I actually told myself that I should start my life anew. But aging is still inevitable in some way, especially, for a woman:)) Since there is something in this world that is beyond our control, we'd better live our days positively, and to its fullest. Thank you, my friend. Have a nice weekend!
BTW, I still remember the word "planted" you used to describe how your palm can reach to the ground:))
暖冬cool夏 回复 悄悄话 回复 '时隐时现' 的评论 : 时隐mm, 差点漏了你这个开导智慧真诚的话语。道理是明白的,可有时这种消极的情绪还是会占上锋。谢谢mm的及时提醒,我需要阳光开朗的朋友时刻提醒我。让我们互相提醒,鼓励,把人生所剩的日子过精彩了。祝好!
7grizzly 回复 悄悄话 Maybe I'm not really old yet. But so far after 40, I have felt better each day. E.g., I could lift 35 lbs 2 years ago but 70 lbs now, I could bend and only touch my knees at the time but I can now reach the ground with palms, etc., etc.

For me, life before 40 was a dream. I really have started living after that.
时隐时现 回复 悄悄话 其实我也一直在感叹时光的流逝,提醒自己要珍惜身边的亲人和朋友, 珍惜眼前的一切。唯恐好时光一去不复返。
看到了很多充满活力和阳光的朋友们的生活态度,从中受到了很大启发。逐步学会凡事要往好处想,要翻过来倒过个儿的想。冷水,温水,热水都有益哈 :)
暖冬cool夏 回复 悄悄话 回复 '菲儿天地' 的评论 : 菲儿好!家里也有以前的旧杂志,等着以后都电子化了,再拿出来摸摸是不是别有味道?祝菲儿周末愉快!
菲儿天地 回复 悄悄话 我书房里也有几本很久以前带回来的读者文摘,在想要不要去处理掉,原来很喜欢读的一本杂志。:)
暖冬cool夏 回复 悄悄话 回复 '彩烟游士' 的评论 :游士好! 你一定度假去了,很高兴你回来了。有你就该热闹不少。等着你家的后花园开放啊。是啊,我们至少是洗过热水澡滴...周末愉快!
暖冬cool夏 回复 悄悄话 回复“迩东”的留言:迩东,刚刚不小心把你的留言删了(本以为点的是回复键),南加就有温泉啊,那大概在Palm Spring边上啊。谢谢迩东的信息,并祝周末好!
暖冬cool夏 回复 悄悄话 回复 '思韵如蓝' 的评论 : 思韵mm好!好久不见了。是啊,岁月催人老啊,但愿我们的心不要老得那么快,那么容易伤感。思韵周末愉快!
彩烟游士 回复 悄悄话 At least you once bathed in hot water in warm winter and cold summer!

Have a great weekend!
思韵如蓝 回复 悄悄话 暖冬姐,我跟你一样,处于温吞水状态。我把伤感也当作中年的一种自我保护吧!我清楚地知道: 心再激昂,身也燃烧不动了。慢慢来,热爱生命的话,咱就慢慢来...
暖冬cool夏 回复 悄悄话 回复 '狮子羔羊' 的评论 : 狮子来了,问声好!谢谢你的话,你们都是智者,拥有积极的人生态度,向你们学习。你又给我增加了一个option, 泡温泉,这辈子还没有泡过呢。日本是不是泡温泉的好地方?如有机会,一定试试。谢谢狮子临博。
狮子羔羊 回复 悄悄话 暖美眉不必伤感。人生一世,不同的年代有不同的风采。只要心里有热情,一定活得精彩绝伦,活得潇洒自在,活得热力四射。
水龙头里的水不热了,去泡天然温泉,永不降温,美眉试试。
暖冬cool夏 回复 悄悄话 回复 'Once-always' 的评论 : oncemm好!这就是你,一个青春永葆青春永在人的心理和反馈,所以每个人读后的感想不太。不过mm讲得很对很有启发,换龙头,换热水器,晒日光浴,只要你有心,心年轻,这世界就不老,这热水就永流淌。谢谢mm睿智的启发!TGIF!
Once-always 回复 悄悄话 火车上读暖mm的文,怎么有点伤感啊,我可不同意那位作者的观点,什么时候水越来越凉的?就算水龙头坏了,可以换个新的;热水器坏了,也可换个新的;房子老了都可换新房。:)))就算世界上没热水了,那个楼下子乔mm不是说还可以穿上沙滩装,“日光浴”吗?:)))所以暖mm别被那个作者误导。要相信,人不老,水不冷,呵呵,这是我这个作者说的。TGIF.
暖冬cool夏 回复 悄悄话 回复 'ziqiao123' 的评论 : 子乔好!是啊,做几天鸡头过过瘾。我早已进入温吞水状态了,自我安慰一下,呵呵。子乔周五周末愉快!
ziqiao123 回复 悄悄话 咦?鸡头换掉了:)在清晨的阳光里读书,好惬意。暖冬在尽情地享受“热水澡”:)
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