Are You Always Thinking About the One You Love?
Recently, we discovered a singing group called Pink Martini. Our daughter put us on to this group so we downloaded them from iTunes. We have been grooving to their sounds ever since!
Pink Martini's music is unique and highly enjoyable. They often have songs on the same album sung in a variety of languages. We describe their music to friends as jazzy and toe-tapping music with Latin rhythms and overtones of classical and pop. Blended together a musical sound is created that is very unique and smashingly lovely.
One of the songs on their album Hey Eugene! is called Everywhere and we think it has important lessons about love and relationships. One verse goes like this: "Every time I'm far from home I am never quite alone. Whenever we're apart you're always in my heart. For you are with me everywhere."
In our 27 years of research on successful marriage we have heard a similar refrain from most couples we have interviewed. Couple after couple report to us how they always think about the one they love when they are in the room next door or when they are on the other side of world. It's like their lover has become a physical and psychological part of who they are.
A friend of ours has recently fallen in love and reports that he thinks of his new lady "all the time!" To us, this phenomenon is one of the best indicators of knowing you are in love. Not only do you think about the person you love nearly all the time but you feel their presence in your heart and in your soul. You are constantly pre-occupied with them. You are in love!
Another stanzas from the song, Everywhere, sums up this notion - "Everywhere I go I see a world designed for you and me. I always realize, with every new sunrise, that you are with me everywhere."
To feel this way is to be in love. Trust the way you feel. To feel this way about another human being is to look forward to sunrises that awaken every day within you the realization that you love someone else more that yourself.
"You are always in my heart" is a refrain you feel for someone because you are in love.
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