With Valentine's Day approaching this weekend, it's another reminder that many couples may not feel very festive - or romantic - given their job situation these days. In fact, in many conversations these days, I hear workplace and job concerns becoming all-consuming in people's lives.
Thirteen hours in a five-day workweek are spent worrying about one's job fate in the workplace, and similar studies are in my earlier blogs (some herein). Even when people are employed, many of them feel tenuous in their jobs due to uncertain economic times, and often challenging bosses.
Maybe you've tried counseling your special someone, reviewing a resume, role playing an interview or trying to empathize about an unreasonable manager. Time for a romantic toast anyone?
Perhaps this year, you can allow cupid's arrow hit YOUR OWN world, specifically your career or job.
Maybe this year, you can be your own Valentine, even if for a moment. Love yourself enough to be proud of your skills that no one can take away from you; your accomplishments; and the incredible ability you have in the future to achieve great things. You might even start to find a way to love your job (or your job search!) as a result.
For starters, you can take control, rather than letting circumstances control you. Here are some simple empowering reminders that can make your life - and perhaps your Valentine's day more fulfilling:
1) Remember that you're a free agent. Yes, unemployment is high, but you have a skills set that is unique and if you're currently looking, all you need is one job. The best positions are not always advertised. Often they're found through networking, especially with the availability of social media tools, such as Linkedin.
2) Think about how your skills can contribute to the bottom line. Then share it and get the nod to pursue it. Are there weak links in your existing or a prospective company that could mean greater profits? Many jobs (and promotions) have been created for people who can enhance revenue or reduce costs.
3) Use your interpersonal intelligence with bad boss behavior (or Terrible Office Tyrants - TOTs) to understand what's really behind the blustering. Usually there's a lot more beyond what meets the eye. Once you crack the code, you'll see events through a new lens, helping you focus ...and thrive.
4) Try to resist the natural temptation to allow others' tension devour you. Realize that you can take specific steps to manage relationships on your terms. Your leverage is your daily contributions and unique skills. That's your trump card. Your own success is the best revenge, but remember, revenge is usually a short-lived motivator. A humanistic approach in the office benefits all.
Happy Valentine's Day ...to YOU.
